Has Healing Become Performative?

Everyone's talking about healing. Everyone's setting boundaries. Everyone's "protecting their peace." But are we actually becoming healthier—or have we just gotten better at speaking the language of therapy?

In this episode of Modern Day Bae, we dive into one of the most thought-provoking conversations of our time: Has healing become performative?

From social media affirmations and therapy buzzwords to the pressure to present yourself as endlessly evolved, we explore whether healing has become something we perform instead of something we practice. Is growth about becoming a better person, or has it become another way to curate our image?

We also wrestle with a difficult question: Can someone be emotionally intelligent and still be emotionally unavailable? Knowing the right words isn't the same as doing the hard work.

In this episode, we discuss:

• When healing becomes an identity instead of a destination

• The difference between practicing self-awareness and performing emotional intelligence

• Whether therapy language is helping us communicate—or helping us avoid accountability

• Can someone know all the "right" things to say and still struggle with genuine intimacy?

• How social media has changed the way we define personal growth

• What authentic healing actually looks like when no one is watching

Because healing isn't measured by how well you can explain your wounds—it's revealed by how differently you love, communicate, forgive, and show up in your everyday life.

This conversation invites us to move beyond curated growth and ask a more honest question: Are we healing... or are we just getting better at looking healed?

Who should make the first move—and why are we still debating it?

In this episode of Modern Day Bae, we tackle one of dating's most polarizing questions: Should women make the first move, or does that change the dynamic from the very beginning?

Some believe confidence is attractive regardless of gender. Others argue that how a relationship starts can influence how it unfolds. We unpack the expectations, double standards, and dating rules we've inherited, while asking whether they're still serving us in 2026.

More importantly, we explore how self-love shapes the way we pursue connection. Is making the first move a sign of confidence—or could it sometimes come from a fear of not being chosen? And is waiting to be approached always about standards, or can it be rooted in fear of rejection?

In this episode, we discuss:

• Whether traditional dating roles still have a place today

• The difference between confidence and chasing

• How self-worth influences dating decisions

• Are men intimidated by women who shoot their shot?

• Does making the first move set the tone for the relationship?

• Can both people pursue each other without creating a power imbalance?

Whether you're bold enough to send the first text or believe some things should unfold naturally, this conversation challenges the assumptions behind modern dating.

Because the real question isn't just who should make the first move—it's whether you're moving from confidence, clarity, and self-love... or from the fear of missing your chance.

Grace vs. Enabling: Where's the Line?

When does understanding someone's pain become an excuse for accepting their behavior?

In this episode of Modern Day Bae, we're unpacking one of the most difficult relationship questions: What's the difference between extending grace and enabling harmful patterns?

Whether it's a romantic partner, a friend, a family member—or even ourselves—we've all struggled with knowing when compassion becomes self-sacrifice. Is offering another chance an act of love, or are we simply teaching people what we'll tolerate?

Together, we explore the fine line between empathy and accountability, the danger of confusing potential with reality, and why self-love sometimes means letting go instead of holding on.

Because grace should never require abandoning yourself.

In this episode, we discuss:

• How to recognize when grace has turned into enabling

• Why understanding someone's trauma doesn't erase the impact of their choices

• The difference between patience and self-betrayal

• Why boundaries and compassion can exist at the same time

• How self-love changes the way we decide who gets access to us

If you've ever wondered whether you're being kind—or simply avoiding a difficult truth—this conversation is for you.

Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for someone else is stop rescuing them. And sometimes the greatest act of grace is finally extending it to yourself.

Juneteenth Special: What Does Freedom Mean in 2026?

What does freedom really look like when no one is physically holding you back—but fear, shame, people-pleasing, and self-doubt still are?

In this Juneteenth special, Modern Day Bae explores the evolving meaning of freedom in 2026. We honor the legacy of those who fought for our liberation while asking the harder question: What are we still carrying that no longer belongs to us?

From generational expectations and relationship patterns to body image, survival mode, and the pressure to constantly prove our worth, this conversation challenges us to examine the invisible burdens we continue to bear long after the chains have been broken.

Because freedom isn't only about what you've been released from—it's also about what you're willing to finally put down.

Join us for a powerful conversation on self-love, healing, identity, and the courage to live as your fullest, most authentic self.

This episode asks:

• What does freedom mean in today's world?

• Which emotional burdens have we mistaken for responsibility?

• Can we truly love ourselves while carrying stories that no longer serve us?

• What would your life look like if you finally gave yourself permission to be free?

This isn't just a Juneteenth conversation. It's an invitation to reclaim yourself.

This week on Modern Day Bae, Join ELLE, the Boss Bae Panel, and special guest co-hostKing MVP, as they discuss the ins and outs of sacrifice and who sacrifices most in relationships.

Modern Day Bae w ELLE is the only live streamed podcast exploring self-love and healthy modern day relationships and is recorded in front of a live stream audience every Tuesday at 11 PM EST, exclusively on the Tagged app.

Host:

ELLE The Druggg

Boss Bae Panel:

Ms. Sassy Red

Naj

Top Badge Double El

Production:

Aquarian Soul

Berry Brûlée

Top Badge Vetty

Theme Song:

Vocals - Thuddy Ocho

Produced by Ova TV

Visuals:

Tawag Visuals

Editing:

ATA Virtual Marketing and Media

Sponsors:

Tawag Visuals

DJ Richbeats

Modern Day Bae is a Scoutz🔰 production.

This week on Modern Day Bae, Join ELLE, the Boss Bae Panel, and special guest co-host Top Badge King of Diamonds, as they deep dive into the value of being transparent but not over-sharing when dating.

Modern Day Bae w ELLE is the only live streamed podcast exploring self-love and healthy modern day relationships and is recorded in front of a live stream audience every Tuesday at 11 PM EST, exclusively on the Tagged app.

Host:

ELLE The Druggg

Boss Bae Panel:

Ms. Sassy Red

Big Bag Harley

Top Badge Jokes on You

Production:

Aquarian Soul

Berry Brûlée

Top Badge Vetty

Theme Song:

Vocals - Thuddy Ocho

Produced by Ova TV

Visuals:

Tawag Visuals

Editing:

ATA Virtual Marketing and Media

Sponsors:

Tawag Visuals

DJ Richbeats

Modern Day Bae is a Scoutz🔰 production.

This week on Modern Day Bae, Join ELLE, the Boss Bae Panel, and special guest co-host Top Badge Vetty, as they deep dive into the aftermath of cheating in a relationship.

Modern Day Bae w ELLE is the only live streamed podcast exploring self-love and healthy modern day relationships and is recorded in front of a live stream audience every Tuesday at 11 PM EST, exclusively on the Tagged app.

Host:

ELLE The Druggg

Boss Bae Panel:

Ms. Sassy Red

Naj

Top Badge Double El

Production:

Aquarian Soul

Berry Brûlée

Top Badge Vetty

Theme Song:

Vocals - Thuddy Ocho

Produced by Ova TV

Visuals:

Tawag Visuals

Editing:

ATA Virtual Marketing and Media

Sponsors:

Tawag Visuals

DJ Richbeats

Modern Day Bae is a Scoutz🔰 production.

This week on Modern Day Bae, Join ELLE, the Boss Bae Panel, and special guest co-host Top Badge Carmel, as they deep dive into the difference between compromise and settling for less than you desire.

Modern Day Bae w ELLE is the only live streamed podcast exploring self-love and healthy modern day relationships and is recorded in front of a live stream audience every Tuesday at 11 PM EST, exclusively on the Tagged app.

Host:

ELLE The Druggg

Boss Bae Panel:

Ms. Sassy Red

Big Bag Harley

Top Badge Teflon Gambino

Production:

Aquarian Soul

Berry Brûlée

Top Badge Vetty

Theme Song:

Vocals - Thuddy Ocho

Produced by Ova TV

Visuals:

Tawag Visuals

Editing:

ATA Virtual Marketing and Media

Sponsors:

Tawag Visuals

DJ Richbeats

Modern Day Bae is a Scoutz🔰 production.