Who should make the first move—and why are we still debating it?

In this episode of Modern Day Bae, we tackle one of dating's most polarizing questions: Should women make the first move, or does that change the dynamic from the very beginning?

Some believe confidence is attractive regardless of gender. Others argue that how a relationship starts can influence how it unfolds. We unpack the expectations, double standards, and dating rules we've inherited, while asking whether they're still serving us in 2026.

More importantly, we explore how self-love shapes the way we pursue connection. Is making the first move a sign of confidence—or could it sometimes come from a fear of not being chosen? And is waiting to be approached always about standards, or can it be rooted in fear of rejection?

In this episode, we discuss:

• Whether traditional dating roles still have a place today

• The difference between confidence and chasing

• How self-worth influences dating decisions

• Are men intimidated by women who shoot their shot?

• Does making the first move set the tone for the relationship?

• Can both people pursue each other without creating a power imbalance?

Whether you're bold enough to send the first text or believe some things should unfold naturally, this conversation challenges the assumptions behind modern dating.

Because the real question isn't just who should make the first move—it's whether you're moving from confidence, clarity, and self-love... or from the fear of missing your chance.