Have you ever heard the question, “Who do you no longer want to be?” At first, it might sound a little negative—but when you dig deeper, it’s actually one of the most empowering questions you can ask yourself.

In this episode, I share how I first heard this question from meditation teacher Joe Dispenza, how it completely stumped me at first, and how I eventually learned to use it as a powerful tool for change. You’ll learn how to break it down into practical steps so you can use it to transform your self-concept, your daily habits, and your relationship with yourself.

We’ll talk about:

• Why your self-concept drives all of your behavior (and how to change it)
• The real reason you keep doing what you say you don’t want to do
• How avoiding or escaping negative emotions is keeping you stuck
• Simple ways to identify your patterns—and change them for good
• What it looks like to continually “up-level” your life once you’ve made progress

By the end of this episode, you’ll have a clear process for answering the question, “Who do I no longer want to be?”—and turning it into the more powerful question: “Who do I want to be?”

If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot, break free from old habits, and step into a stronger, more empowered version of yourself, this one’s for you.

Resources & Links:

• Book: Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza

Interested in speaking with me about how we can work together? Click here to head to my website: https://courtneygraycoaching.com/ and schedule a free consultation with me.

On this podcast, I share a real client story about how she went from weeks of frustration and zero movement on the scale… to losing four pounds in just one week. The difference? This one habit. I’ll also tell you how my son called me out on my own excuses in the gym and helped me level up my own results.

What if the secret to breaking through plateaus, reaching your goals faster, and truly transforming your life came down to just one small habit? In this episode, I’m revealing the powerful — and yes, sometimes uncomfortable — practice that can help you make consistent progress in any area of life.

We’ll talk about:

• How to track “from curiosity” (instead of shame or perfectionism)
• Why tracking isn’t just for food — and how it can apply to fitness, habits, business, relationships, and more
• The surprising truth about why we think we’re doing better than we are
• How being radically honest with yourself can change your results permanently
• Why imperfect consistency beats perfection every time

Whether your goal is weight loss, building strength, improving a routine, or creating new habits, tracking gives you the awareness and accountability to make real change — and it’s often the exact “next level” move you’ve been avoiding.

Interested in speaking with me about how we can work together? Click here to head to my website: https://courtneygraycoaching.com/ and schedule a free consultation with me.

You know that moment—you’re in front of the food, debating whether to give up or stay on track. Today’s episode is all about that moment and what to do when it hits.

I scrapped my original episode because I woke up at 4am knowing I needed to talk about this instead. This is the real-time, behind-the-scenes coaching I give my clients when they come to me saying, “I messed up again.”

🔥 What You’ll Learn:

• Why “messing up” doesn’t mean you’re failing
• How to handle that moment when you want to say, “screw it”
• The 3-step process to stay on track—without being perfect
• Why planning ahead matters (and what it means for your brain)
• How to shift from guilt to control

💭 Real Talk Coaching Questions:

• Were you actually glad you gave in?
• What feelings were you avoiding?
• Can you allow discomfort and still make a powerful choice?

If you’re ready to stop starting over—this episode is for you.

Interested in speaking with me about how we can work together? Click here to head to my website: https://courtneygraycoaching.com/ and schedule a free consultation with me.