Most women over 40 can be completely fine with their life, open Instagram for five minutes, and suddenly feel behind on all of it. Nothing changed. Not your body. Not your marriage. Not your bank account. You just moved the measuring stick.

In this episode we talk about what comparison actually does to your brain, how a neutral observation turns into a verdict about who you are, and why high achieving women get hit the hardest. We get into the Fiji study and what happened to a group of girls whose bodies never changed but whose reference point did. We talk about what happens when the algorithm quietly replaces your peer group with the top fraction of a percent. And we get into the difference between inspiration and the kind of comparison that sends you straight into avoidance. Two tools you can use the next time it hits.

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