In this episode of the Messie Missy Podcast, Irene Vaksberg joins the I Lost Everything series to share the unbelievable story of how a devastating car accident destroyed the life she had spent years building.

After creating a successful six-figure hair business and overcoming years of personal struggles, Irene thought she had finally reached a season of freedom and peace. Then, overnight, everything changed. Chronic pain, financial collapse, emotional exhaustion, failed marriages, miscarriages, motherhood struggles, and survival mode forced her into the deepest rebuild of her life.

We talk about what it really feels like when your identity falls apart, how trauma changes you, why “hot mess” seasons can shape who you become, and the mindset required to keep rebuilding anyway.

This episode is funny, painful, powerful, and full of the kind of truth women desperately need to hear when they feel like life knocked them flat.

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What Now? Rebuilding Your Life in Your 40s

The Consistency Problem Nobody Talks About

What happens when you reach your 40s and realize the life you built doesn't quite fit anymore?

Your kids are growing up. Maybe you're divorced. Maybe you've lost a career, a job, your financial security, or the identity you once had. Maybe you're sitting there asking the question I've been asking myself lately:

What now?

In this episode of the Messie Missy Podcast, I'm getting honest about where I've been, where I've struggled, and one thing I've realized I need to fix: consistency.

I've been incredibly successful in my career and business, but when I honestly looked at my own consistency, I realized there are plenty of areas where I'm not showing up the way I want to.

So I'm asking myself—and you:

Where are you not showing up consistently in your life?

We talk about:

• Rebuilding your identity in your 40s
• What happens when your kids start leaving home
• Why career success doesn't always equal fulfillment
• Discovering that you're an entrepreneur after years in corporate
• Why consistency may matter more than motivation
• SMART goals and turning big goals into small actions
• Habit stacking and building routines that actually fit your life
• The role of accountability in following through
• Why networking is becoming part of my own business growth strategy
• Turning your life experiences—including the really painful ones—into solutions that can help other people
• Building a business with systems and infrastructure instead of simply selling something

I've spent years building businesses, leading teams, and creating systems. Now I'm taking those skills and applying them to rebuilding my own life and business.

And maybe that's the real lesson:

You don't have to have the whole next chapter figured out. You just have to start showing up for it consistently.

So here's the question I want you to sit with:

Where do you need to become more consistent?

Your business?
Your health?
Your relationships?
Your faith?
Your finances?
Your next chapter?

Pick one.

Start there.

And if you're rebuilding your life or business through your own mess, you're welcome here.

We're building beautiful businesses and beautiful lives through our messes.

If you're ready to stop spinning and start building, I offer Messy to Momentum, a 90-minute 1:1 strategy session where we work through where you are, where you want to go, and what needs to happen next.

Come work through the mess with me.

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I called the Billy Graham Prayer Line and THIS HAPPENED!

God sent me an incredible message. I'm always looking for God's guidance as I navigate rebuilding my life, looking for HIS messages through my messes.HELP! God HELP ME!Romans 10:9 I heard on The Message sirius radio, a mention to call the Billy Graham hotline, so I did. See, Hear, Act. How to use the prayer line

• Call the toll-free number at (855) 255-7729
• Submit a prayer request online

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Trigger Warning! Suicide is part of our conversation: Messages through our Messes... What if the miracle is that you are alive?!

If you need immediate help call or text 988.

This segment of God's Corner, Alex Zanardi shares her personal story with suicide, Joy, Surrender and More! Building Businesses and inviting God into your business is a strategy that anyone can apply and watch to see messages through our messes.

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Meet Alex Zanardi: From a Mental Health Hospital told to give up, enroll in social security and quit your dreams and basically quit your life to THRIVING multi- business owner, if she could name each one after an ex, she would.

She's a wellness practioner, life strategy coach of over 19 years.

Sign up for her upcoming master class: Single, Sober and Celibate.

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She helps you heal from your traumas through innovative coaching and massage therapy. The issues are in your tissues.

Join me and Alex as we continue to collaborate and bring True messes to the forefront of life. We are both resilient women growing beautiful businesses through our messes.

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Can you define Success? Can you write your success on paper today? Can you define what next month's success is for your messy life?

For the first time in 3 years I sat pen to paper and wrote my successes for the last week, the last month and forward thinking, for the month to come!

I've been stuck, I've lived in survival mode for 3+ years and I couldn't define success until..... until I finally got through the mess to success!

Feeling stuck after a major life disruption — divorce, debt, illness, or just the slow burn of burnout? The Messy to Momentum Session is a 90-minute 1:1 coaching intensive designed to help midlife women cut through the chaos and get moving again. We'll get clear on where you are, what's blocking you, and the exact next step to rebuild your business momentum. Book your session at the link below.

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Welcome back to the Messy Messy Podcast! In this episode, we dive into the theme of quitting, exploring its nuances and the journey from perceived failures to new beginnings. Our host reflects on personal experiences of quitting past ventures and the realization of not truly giving up, but rather hitting pause.

Through a candid conversation with their daughter, the host challenges the stigma surrounding quitting and the importance of reigniting passion for dreams and goals. With a fresh perspective, this episode aims to inspire listeners to confront the fear of failure, rediscover motivation, and rejuvenate their visions for the future.

Join us as we turn "Quitter's Day" into a stepping stone towards thriving in 2025! Whether you're feeling stuck in life or are ready to share your story of triumph over life's messes, this episode invites you to embrace the beauty of resilience and perseverance.

Welcome to the Messie Missy Podcast — the place where we don't pretend the mess isn't real. We just refuse to let it be the final chapter.

In today's episode, Messie Missy introduces the Starting Over Theory — a reframe that changes everything about how we think about rebuilding our lives and businesses in midlife.

In this episode:

• Why "starting from zero" is a myth that keeps women stuck
• What your hard seasons have actually been building in you
• Why the women who rebuild fastest aren't the ones with the least to lose
• How to see your experience as your foundation — not your baggage

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