Dr. Ankit Agarwal is the Founder of Breaking Mental Models. In this conversation, he walks Asher through the Hindsight Trap, the Johari Window, and the bowl of water analogy he uses to teach how human behavior actually changes.

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ABOUT DR. ANKIT AGARWAL

Founder of Breaking Mental Models. Senior educator at the University of Adelaide. Two master's degrees, a PhD in organizational behavior, and a Cisco certification. Teaches up to 1,000 students a year across more than 17 countries. Gives every student his personal phone number.

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IN THIS EPISODE

• The Hindsight Trap and why it works like quicksand
• The Johari Window and the four quadrants of self-awareness
• The bowl of water and the bowl of ice analogy for behavior change
• Why "common sense" is contextual, not universal
• The question that closed the conversation: Why change?

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REFERENCES

• Johari Window — Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingham (1955)
• Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument
• Kurt Lewin's Change Model — unfreeze, change, refreeze
• Blaise Pascal — "the grass is greener on the other side of the Pyrenees"

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CONNECT WITH DR. ANKIT AGARWAL

Website: breakingmentalmodels.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dr-ankit-agarwal-phd-a9ba1344

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MEMOIRS TO MILLIONS

We help veterans, immigrants, and entrepreneurs turn their life stories into published books that build authority and income.

Website: memoirstomillions.com Newsletter: m2mweeklyintel.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/asher-wright-310731227

*Recorded on April 3rd, 2026
*The views expressed by me and all guests are personal opinions and do not constitute Financial, Medical, or Legal advice.

"I Was Spiritually Homeless" | Retired Army Captain Tiara Joseph on the Whisper That Saved Her

In 2024, Tiara Joseph sat in her dark living room, high on multiple drugs, in the middle of a ritual she believed was healing her. She had the rank. The house. The kids. She had retired from the U.S. Army as a Captain four years earlier. From the outside, she made it. Inside, she was dying.

Then a voice she did not summon said one sentence.

"Give God a try."

This conversation is about what happened on both sides of that sentence. The retired Captain before it. The woman who walked out of that room after it. The years in between where she searched for healing in every direction and ran out of directions to try.

Tiara and Asher served together in the 82nd Airborne in 2000. Twenty-six years later, they sat down to record this episode. She is writing her memoir, From Ouija Board to Worshipper. He runs Memoirs to Millions. This is the conversation two old paratroopers have when one of them comes back from the edge with a story worth telling.

ABOUT TIARA JOSEPH

Retired U.S. Army Captain. 20 years of service. Crossed from E-7 to officer through Green to Gold. Retired from Fort Hood in 2020. Today she works with the unhoused in Harker Heights, Texas, and is writing From Ouija Board to Worshipper.

IN THIS EPISODE

- Why military retirement hits harder than any deployment
- The night the whisper arrived
- What it means to be spiritually homeless
- The $1,600 light bill that broke her
- Status pain versus heart pain
- Three wrong therapists and the one who worked
- Being in position for the people watching who never say a word

CONNECT WITH TIARA

Facebook: facebook.com/share/1GDKHHPV6T
Instagram: @TiaraJoseph
TikTok: @TiaraJoseph

MEMOIRS TO MILLIONS

We help veterans, immigrants, and entrepreneurs turn their life stories into published books that build authority and income.

Website: memoirstomillions.com
Newsletter: m2mweeklyintel.com
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/asher-wright-310731227
Facebook: facebook.com/lcwforu

*Recorded on March 31st, 2026
*The views expressed by me and all guests are personal opinions and do not constitute Financial, Medical, or Legal advice.