Sometimes the hardest part isn’t what you’re doing. It’s trying to understand what’s going on underneath it.

Maybe you’ve lost your temper, walked away, shut down, refused something, or ended up in another argument. Everyone else can see the behaviour, but that doesn’t mean they understand what’s behind it. And sometimes, if you’re being honest, you might not completely understand it either.

So what if you’re not just being difficult?

In this episode, I explore what can happen when behaviour starts saying something before you’ve found the words yourself. Why people can notice everything you’re doing and still miss what you’re trying to communicate. Why the message can get lost. And what happens when even you don’t really know what you’re trying to say yet.

This isn’t about making excuses for behaviour or pretending that what we do doesn’t affect other people. It’s about looking at things with a bit more curiosity.

Because maybe the question isn’t simply, “Why do I keep doing this?”

Maybe it’s...

“What’s going on here that I haven’t worked out how to explain yet?”

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