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  • The Seven "A's" Of Superaging

    The Seven "A's" Of Superaging
    2025/09/10
    The 7 "A's" of Super-Aging
    These seven A’s are the key to making your golden years the best ones of your life:
    1. Attitude - Having a positive outlook and a concrete vision of the future is essential.
    2. Awareness - Staying aware can be tough in the 24/7 news cycle, but keeping up with the latest treatments, products and services that can help health challenges, and knowing which sources you can really trust.
    3. Activity - Exercising the body and the mind is crucial .
    4. Autonomy - Maintain your physical independence, like staying in your home and being in charge of your finances for as long as possible.
    5. Accomplishment - Achievements don’t have to stop just because you’re getting older. Having goals and working to reach them is important at any age.
    6. Attachment - Loneliness and social isolation negatively impact health and lifespan, so maintaining relationships and forming new ones is essential.
    7. Avoidance - Knowing how to minimize risks from fraud, scams, and ageism in the marketplace is a skill superagers have perfected.⠀

    Daydreaming Is Good For You
    Sometimes your mind just wanders into a daydream state… let it. Daydreaming uses your best core memories and helps make space for new ones in the process, according to experts. They agree that at its best daydreaming is healthy for body and mind. Therapist Saba Lurie says there are two types of daydreaming:
    • The productive kind that reduces stress, boosts creativity, and helps you problem solve
    • Unproductive daydreaming builds stress and anxiety, and makes you think negatively because you’re focusing on past mistakes
    Lurie suggests that you daydream to your heart's content but keep it positive.

    Mistakes We Make At Warehouse Clubs
    • Buying too many perishables: That massive bag of avocados or 10-pound tub of strawberries might seem like a great deal, but if you can’t eat them before they spoil, it’s money wasted.
    • Assuming all your shopping should be done there: Warehouse clubs don’t always have the lowest price Price-comparison apps are your best friend here.
    • Letting the giant carts trick you: Those carts are huge for a reason: they practically beg you to fill them.
    • Getting lured by hot dogs and free samples: Sure, a $1.50 hot dog or a round of tasty samples feels like harmless fun. But once you’re inside, you’re more likely to justify other purchases you didn’t plan on making.
    • Ignoring warehouse club apps: Each warehouse club has its own app, and they often feature exclusive discounts, flash sales, or hidden deals not advertised in-store.
    • Skipping the gift card section: Clubs often sell discounted gift cards for restaurants, movies, or retailers. That’s basically free money if you’re going to spend it anyway. Snagging a $100 card for $80 is an effortless win.
    • Forgetting about extra perks: Clubs often offer cheaper gas, prescription savings, insurance discounts, travel deals, and even theme park tickets.
    • Not taking advantage of the return policy: Warehouse clubs have some of the most generous return policies around. Sometimes they even refund memberships if you’re unhappy.

    Second Date Update
    Monica called us about Julian. They matched on Bumble and went to dinner in Burlingame. Monica said they ordered a bottle of wine, split an appetizer, and even lingered over dessert because the conversation was flowing so well. She thought he was engaged, asking about her job and her family, and she left the date thinking Julian was genuinely interested in seeing her again. But she never heard back.
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  • Here Are Some Things You Can Do To Seem Smarter

    Here Are Some Things You Can Do To Seem Smarter
    2025/09/09
    The Key To Confidence Is DIY
    A new survey finds those who’ve finished DIY projects around the house say it boosts their confidence, happiness and satisfaction.
    • For 86%, completing a home-related DIY task makes them feel accomplished and that feeling sticks around for six weeks afterward.
    • Seeing a friend succeed with a tricky household job gives 63% of those polled the guts to give a harder project a try.
    • But people know their limits and are afraid to take on intimidating DIY projects like installing flooring or carpeting (41%), caulking or sealing a tub (41%), repairing drywall (38%) or projects done by interior design pros (28%).That doesn’t stop the average person from hoping to finish three DIY projects by the end of the year, and an ambitious 20% hope to complete at least five.

    Simple Skills That Make You Seem Much Smarter Than You Are
    • A post on AskReddit asks, “What skill makes people instantly assume you’re way smarter than you actually are?”
    • Thousands chimed in with the things that impress enough to make someone think you’re practically a genius, including “Learning a few words in a few different languages.”
    • “Knowing keyboard shortcuts and basic computer tricks,” and “Grammar” also help make you seem brilliant.⠀

    These Six Hobbies Will Make You Happier And Smarter
    When you were growing up, you probably had some hobbies you loved to do. Now as an adult, likely working full-time, it may feel impossible to have a hobby. But let us tell you - it’s just as important now as an adult to have hobbies as it was when you were younger.
    1. Painting or drawing
    2. Learning to play an instrument
    3. Gardening
    4. Improv theater
    5. Creative writing
    6. Cooking

    Second Date Update
    Eric called us about Paloma. They met on Match. They both have and love dogs. They agreed to meet at a dog park in San Mateo. Eric said it was playful, fun, and Paloma’s dog seemed to love him. But after that, she ghosted.
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  • Are You Burnt Out Or Just Bored?

    Are You Burnt Out Or Just Bored?
    2025/09/08
    The Dinkiest Saturday Of All Time
    Jeff and I are DINKs, duel income no kids...and we proved it this weekend. We went to to the San Francisco Symphony to see and hear the marvel Studios Infinity Saga. It was 23 clips from Marvel movies with this amazing symphony playing along, It was so wonderful I cried. Then we strolled over to Morton's for martinis and steaks. #DinkLife

    Things Your Party Guests Are Judging You On
    • Relying on store-bought desserts
    • Not communicating key details - Make sure guests feel prepared and comfortable.
    • Waiting for guests to ask for refills - They may not want to “bother” the host, so they’ll wait with an empty wine or water glass, and that can be frustrating.
    • Avoiding the topic of dietary restrictions - Ask your guests about dietary restrictions so your menu includes options everyone can enjoy.
    • Overserving light bites - Appetizers should help tide guests over, but they’re not a replacement for the main course.
    • Turning dinner into a cooking show - Don’t wait until your guests arrive to start cooking. Get as much done ahead of time .
    • Requesting shoes off without offering alternatives - It’s fine to ask guests to take their shoes off, but don’t leave them barefoot, which can make them feel awkward. Follow Martha Stewart’s lead and have a basket of washable slippers or cozy socks .
    • Forgetting the farewell - People don’t always know when it’s time to go, so you can announce a “last call” or try Martha’s method. To kick guests out, she explains, “I just say, ‘I’m going to bed, I’ll see you.’”

    Are You Burnt Out Or Just Bored?
    Burnout’s typically associated with feelings of overwhelmingness and exhaustion. Boredom is when you feel unfulfilled and restless.
    1. You’re not tired, but you’re drained
    2. You’re procrastinating more often
    3. You’re daydreaming a lot
    4. You’ve lost interest in socializing
    5. Your productivity has plateaued
    6. You feel like you’re just going through the motions
    7. You find yourself repeatedly checking the clock
    8. You feel restless and unsettled
    9. You’re more interested in future plans than the present
    10. You feel detached from your work

    Second Date Update
    Vanessa contacted us about Omar. They matched on Tinder and met for happy hour in Lafayette. Vanessa said they shared small plates, talked about music, and ended up staying longer than expected because the conversation was good. She told us Omar even walked her to her car and gave her a hug, so she thought a second date was basically guaranteed. But Omar never replied to her messages.
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  • Don't Feel Guilty About Binge-Watching

    Don't Feel Guilty About Binge-Watching
    2025/09/05
    Binge Watching Shows Might Be Good For You
    This sums me up. according to new research from the University of Georgia. It suggests there may be some mental health benefits to binge-watching shows and movies you love. The new study finds that watching episode after episode or having movie marathons or binge-reading books can make it harder for a story to get out of your head. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing. It makes us more likely to remember stories, keep engaging them through daydreams and fantasies, and helps us get a bigger picture of the story. Dr. Joshua Baldwin, lead study author and media psychology researcher, says binge-watching helps us build “mental worlds” where stories continue long after the credits roll, which can help us cope in stressful times.

    Aging With Power
    Dr. Vonda Wright is hoping to change that. The orthopedic surgeon and longevity specialist wants to level the playing field and bring women into the focus because men and women aren’t aging the same way. She wants women to “age with power” and encourages them to build strength and work on disease prevention during their early midlife years, from 35 to 45 years old, which she calls the “critical decade.” To do that, she recommends:
    • Reframe dietary changes that support longevity - Instead of trying to lose weight, focus on maximizing lean muscle and minimizing body fat. The goal isn’t to be skinny, but to be lean. Eat one gram of protein per ideal pound a day to support the muscle you’re trying to build and cutting back on sugar, which leads to inflammation and can contribute to multiple diseases.
    • When it comes to exercise, she uses the acronym “FACE” your future:
      • F for Flexibility - And joint range of motion. Yoga, pilates, tai chi, and dynamic stretching are great options.
      • A for Aerobic - Getting your heart rate up is good for the ticker, but Wright advises doing lower heart rate exercise, like walking, 80% of the time, and higher intensity workouts 20% of the time.
      • C for Carry a load - Strength and power are the goal, so lifting heavy is the way to go. That means fewer reps with heavier weights.
      • E is for Equilibrium - Being strong and flexible is important as you age, but so is balance so you don’t fall and break something. Wright warns that if you trip and end up with what’s known as a “fatal fall,” 50% of the time, it lands you in a nursing home.

    Bad Money Habits To Break
    Autopilot Expenses: Automatic renewals sound convenient, but they’re also a sneaky way to lose track of your money. That streaming service you haven’t watched in months? Still billing you.
    • Using The Same Passwords: Reusing the same password across sites makes it way too easy for scammers to break in and wreak havoc on your finances. A password manager (and a little thing called multifactor authentication) can be your new best friend to keep your money safe.
    • Paying Way Too Much Attention To Your Investments: Not only is it stressful, but it can also lead you to make impulsive, money-losing decisions like selling low when the market dips. A better approach is to zoom out, stay calm, and trust the long-term plan rather than panicking at short-term bumps.
    • Not Looking At Your Investments Is Also Not Great: Markets change, and your mix of stocks and bonds can drift in ways that no longer match your comfort level with risk. A quarterly check-in (or using a financial adviser or app) can make sure your money is working in line with your goals without letting it simmer unattended for years.
    • Chasing Credit Card Promotions: You might end up overspending just to hit the minimum requirement, or dinging your credit score with too many hard inquiries. Unless you’re a pro at managing multiple cards, chasing these deals can do more harm than good.
    • Super Penny Pinching: If you’re skipping necessary home repairs or living off ramen just to see your savings account grow, you’re missing the point. A healthy money mindset means balancing saving with spending on things that truly matter to you.

    Second Date Update
    Carlos called us about Heather. They met on Hinge and grabbed dinner in Mountain View. Carlos thought it was fun. They had a lot in common. She had a great sense of humor. He can't stand boring. He swore Heather seemed like she was enjoying herself. But after that, she cut him off.
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  • How The 3-3-3 Method Can Simplify Your Day

    How The 3-3-3 Method Can Simplify Your Day
    2025/09/04
    MRI Update
    I finally got my results back yesterday. I haven't had my doc go over them yet. Since te medical jargon was too much for my peabrain, my husband suggested we put the diagnosis into GPT. Think swelling, arthritis, degeneration....basically, I'm "corpsifying" and the fall exacerbated it. I am hoping for a steroid shot and physical therapy.

    The 3-3-3 Method
    Tired of writing the same to-do list out every day? The “3-3-3 method” can help you stay organized, focused and productive, without feeling overwhelmed.
    • The first three is for three hours of deep work on an important project. The method encourages users to kick start the day with three whole hours devoted to one big thing, whether that’s an assignment you need to finish for work, a project with a looming deadline or another essential task.
    • After the three hours are up, take a much-needed break.
    • Then you’ll be ready to tackle three time-sensitive tasks. These are things that you keep putting off. This is when you make the phone call, send the scary email or go to the meeting you’re dreading.
    • And finally, it’s time for three routine tasks that you need to do to keep your life running smoothly. This is stuff you tend to put on the back burner, like grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning up around the house, or even making your to-do list for tomorrow.

    We Second-Guess 41% Of Daily Decisions
    • The average American second-guesses 41% of the decisions they make in a day, a new survey finds.
    • But for some overthinkers, it’s even more often, as one in eight admit they contemplate almost all their choices.
    • That can make grocery shopping overwhelming, as the average person spends four minutes deciding on each item they consider adding to their cart.

    Second Date Update
    Sean got in touch about Rachel. They met on Hinge and went to a late-night diner in Oakland. Sean said they clicked right away, were laughing over milkshakes and fries, and he left thinking the chemistry was strong. But Rachel ghosted him afterward, so he called us for help.
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  • Could You Make A Four-Day Work Week Work?

    Could You Make A Four-Day Work Week Work?
    2025/09/03
    Do You Think A Four-Day Work Would Actually Work?
    Seven in 10 workers feel they could be just as productive in a four-day work week, according to new research.

    Things That Make Insomnia Worse
    • Staying in bed longer - Experts advise a sleep routine of getting up at the same time every morning and only getting into bed when you’re truly tired.
    • Cutting out screens completely - Lying in bed without something to focus on can lead to overthinking, which is terrible for sleep. That’s when having something to distract your thoughts can be helpful, but stick with something calm, like a nature documentary or soothing podcast.
    • Swearing off caffeine forever - Caffeine blocks adenosine, which makes you sleepy, so if an afternoon cup of tea keeps you awake at night, skip it.
    • Trying too hard to sleep “right” - Trackers, gadgets and products to enhance sleep make it easy to obsess over snoozing, but that can backfire and give you anxiety. Your body knows how to rest and micromanaging it can add pressure, instead of helping.
    • Expecting consistency - Thanks to things like age, stress, hormones and even the weather, some nights sleep will be easier than others, and that’s normal. You won’t get a solid eight hours every night, so don’t expect it or beat yourself up if the popular advice isn’t helping you.⠀

    House Noises You Shouldn't Ignore
    • Rushing water noises - Do a quick check for pooling water in areas that are prone to leaking, like your sink or bathroom, and checking the water meter is also a good idea.
    • Buzzing from lights - If you hear any sounds coming from your outlets or switches, call a licensed electrician.
    • Whistling or hissing noises near gas-based appliances - This could be a “really serious indicator of a potential danger in your home that could lead to a house fire,”
    • Dripping faucet sounds - It’s less of an immediate emergency, but it can cost you more the longer you ignore it.
    • Gurgling toilets - If it gurgles after you flush, that would be indication that you either have a backup and the water can pass but it’s struggling.

    Second Date Update
    Amanda called us about Gabe. They matched on Bumble and met for coffee in Redwood City. Amanda said the conversation was fun, she was smiling the whole time, and she really thought there was chemistry. But Gabe never reached out again.
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  • Marcus & Corey Recap Their "Big Day On The Bay"

    Marcus & Corey Recap Their "Big Day On The Bay"
    2025/09/02
    MRI Update
    I went in for a neck MRI after I tripped over a dog bed in the dark. It has been a minute and I've been living on a steady diet of Advil and Tylenol. My chiropractor suggested the MRI. I haven't gotten my results yet, but as far as MRI's going, it wasn't terrible (the Xanax helped). But the staff was kind and they prepped my really well. I asked the technician if he thought MRI's would ever be silent. He said...."no." Bummer.

    5 4 3 2 1 Method
    Grocery shopping is much more stressful than it should be. But don’t worry – there’s a hack for that! If you’ve been on TikTok, you’ve probably seen that there’s the 5-4-3-2-1 method. It’s a grocery shopping hack that’ll cut your grocery shopping down - both time-wise and cost-wise. So, what is it? It’s the numbers for you to keep in mind when you go shopping. Your goal should be to buy five vegetables, four fruits, three proteins, two starches, and one item for fun. It takes the guesswork out of grocery shopping and will keep you from getting overwhelmed or overbuying.

    Boat Cruise Recap
    It was a blast and sadly, there is video of me doing the "Roger Rabbit."

    Second Date Update
    Samantha called us about Luis. They met on Tinder and agreed to hit a karaoke bar in San Mateo. Samantha said she thought the date went great — they were laughing, drinking, and she really believed Luis was into her. But after that night, she never heard from him again.
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  • You Might Live Longer If You Live By The Ocean.

    You Might Live Longer If You Live By The Ocean.
    2025/08/29
    Live By The Ocean & You Will Live Longer
    What scientists found and what they think might explain their findings:
    • Coastal residents live about one year longer than the 79-year national average.
    • Inland urban dwellers often die around age 78, slightly younger than average.
    • Key benefits of coastal living include cleaner air, milder weather, less drought, fewer heatwaves, and more recreation opportunities.
    • Higher incomes and better transportation access in coastal areas may also contribute to longer lifespans.

    The Top 10 Occupations with the Highest Percentage of Workers Without A Bachelor’s Degree Earning Six Figures
    1. Chief executives or legislators (63.3%)
    2. Architectural and engineering managers (60.9%)
    3. Software developers (56.5%)
    4. Sales engineers (56.1%)
    5. Computer and information systems managers (53.9%)
    6. Power plant operators, distributors and dispatchers (52.4%)
    7. Elevator installers and repairers (51.9%)
    8. Computer network architects (50.7%)
    9. Computer hardware engineers (49.5%)
    10. First-line supervisors of firefighting and prevention workers (48.7%)

    Former Students And Professors Are Sharing Their Best Advice For Going Off To College
    • "Speak to locals and leave the university bubble.
    • "It's okay to make friends in the first one or two weeks and never speak to them afterwards. It's all about getting your social skills attuned to a new environment."
    • "If you were a big fish in a small pond in your previous town or secondary school, understand that you might well be a small fish in a big pond now."
    • "Learn to make at least one yummy dish and one amazing desert. "
    • "Go to class. Even if you're tired, hungover, you look like sh*t, you're just gonna zone out – going is always better than not going. You'll absorb SOME information by sheer osmosis."
    • "If you are living on campus, get flip flops for the shower."
    • "Go find the buildings and classrooms where you have your classes before the first day. You'll be able to plan your route and know when you have to hustle to get across campus."
    • "Establish and stick to a routine. It will help keep you on track, keep you fed, keep your budget in check, ensure you're somewhat well rested, and minimize procrastination."

    Second Date Update
    Victor called us about Camila. They connected on Match and decided to go bowling in Daly City. Victor thought the night was playful and flirty, and he swore Camila was smiling the whole time. But after that night, she completely disappeared on him.
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