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Love Thy Neighbor Show

Love Thy Neighbor Show

著者： Tom Vann Dan Dennis and Colette Fehr
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 Love Thy Neighbor is a straight-talk relationship show from Tom Vann, Dan Dennis, and licensed therapist Colette J. Fehr - born the day Colette knocked on their door and they realized they were literal next-door neighbors. Together, they bring 50 years of broadcasting (Dan 30, Tom 20) and 15 years of clinical counseling (Colette), plus real-life reps: Tom’s 20-year marriage, Dan’s 15-year marriage, and Colette’s second, thriving chapter. Expect humor, empathy, and practical advice from both sides of the wall. New episodes every Thursday, wherever you get your podcasts.2025 個人的成功 心理学 心理学・心の健康 自己啓発 衛生・健康的な生活
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  • LTN 5 - Outdated Relationship Myths

    LTN 5 - Outdated Relationship Myths
    2025/10/23

    • Introduction of “Love Thy Neighbor” with Colette Fehr
    • Discussion of recording schedule and Twitch/YouTube streams
    • Breakdown of seven relationship myths and modern realities
    • Myth 1: Compromise often means mutual loss—prioritize listening and connection
    • 69% of problems are unsolvable; focus on empathy, not victory
    • Use 1–10 scale to gauge partner priorities and set boundaries
    • Avoid people-pleasing; long-term avoidance kills authenticity
    • Myth 2: Open communication doesn’t mean oversharing—filter strong emotions
    • Clarity before honesty prevents resentment and defensiveness
    • Humor and tone matter when giving feedback
    • Myth 3: Small stuff matters—minor hurts build into resentment
    • Direct, quick talks prevent emotional weight from piling up
    • Most therapy deals with small misunderstandings, not huge fights
    • Learn forgiveness; most conflicts come from misread intentions
    • Practice kind assertiveness—voice needs calmly and clearly
    • Myth 4: Intimacy doesn’t fade—it evolves through vulnerability
    • Fear of rejection blocks sexual honesty; share fantasies openly
    • Timing and tone make difficult talks easier
    • Address libido issues with curiosity, therapy, and health focus
    • Recognize differing sexual rhythms and emotional needs
    • Maintaining novelty strengthens long-term desire
    • Myth 5: Chores or money don’t break couples—disconnection does
    • Appreciation and communication outweigh perfection
    • Myth 6: Speaking up isn’t conflict—it’s clarity
    • Myth 7: “Never go to bed angry” is false—cool off before resolving
    • Emotional regulation and rest improve repair conversations
    • Promotion of Fehr’s book *The Cost of Quiet* (colettejanefehr.com)
    • Invite listeners to email questions and subscribe for new episodes

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  • LTN 4 - Navigating Breakups

    LTN 4 - Navigating Breakups
    2025/10/16
    • Introduction to Love Thy Neighbor and listener anonymity • Loveline-style approach to relationship advice • Divorce: emotional and financial toll, stigma, changing views • Hidden unhappiness in long marriages • Why people stay or leave relationships • Social media’s impact on love, breakups, and jealousy • Deleting or keeping exes online; regret after erasing memories • Emotional recovery and boundaries with new partners • Growth through heartbreak and dating experience • Generational differences before social media • Keeping memories for children and history • Insecurity and jealousy over old photos • Attraction to emotionally intense partners • Insecurity and trauma behind jealousy • Communicating reassurance and setting boundaries • Humor about following exes or staying friends • Men vs women in post-breakup friendships • Breakups mirror grief and addiction withdrawal • Brain pain overlap: love loss and physical pain • Need for no contact and “starving the attachment” • Misleading social media images of exes’ happiness • Healthy coping: self-focus, hobbies, support system • Negative coping: rebounds, substances, avoidance • All attachments heal with time and connection • Relationship addiction parallels substance abuse • Personal story: isolation from toxic partner • Learning from ignoring red flags, regret over choices • Should friends intervene in harmful relationships? • How to help: express care, respect, share concerns • Risks of judgment if couple reconciles • Listening over advice when friends struggle • Listener email: libido mismatch in marriage • Causes: stress, medication, trauma, poor communication • One-sided affection, avoidance of touch • Therapy access issues and long-term uncertainty • Common male-higher libido pattern • Start with honest talks about disconnection • Individual therapy helps but couples therapy better • Emotional reconnection boosts desire for many • Persistent mismatch may need other solutions • Women’s desire often lower with age; explore intimacy variety • “Ways to cuddle” beyond sex; rebuild comfort • Cuddling linked to relationship satisfaction • Barriers: heat, bedding, menopause • Clarify touch doesn’t always mean sex (“bristle effect”) • Importance of nonsexual affection and lowered pressure • Humor about nonsexual touch confusion • Hormonal shifts and HRT improving libido • Testosterone’s role in women’s sexual well-being • Emotional intimacy key to lasting sexual health • Aging couples sustaining passion and connection • “Body count” topic and shifting language • Jealousy over partner’s sexual past • Emotional maturity to separate past from present • Persistent double standards judging women • Younger generations less judgmental but stigma remains • Body count doesn’t define worth or morality • Value of openness and health transparency • Honest STI testing, responsible dating culture • Infidelity experience shaping caution and honesty • Debate over privacy vs full disclosure • Acceptance that many don’t know exact count • Reflection: honesty equals self-acceptance • Desire for unconditional love despite pasts • U.S. averages: women ~4–5, men ~6–7 partners • Surveys show exaggeration and underreporting • Cultural shame distorting sexual data • Past wild years unseen pre-social media • Misconceptions about others’ sexual activity • Promotion of Colette Fehr’s book The Cost of Quiet • Theme: tough talks build secure, lasting love • Reminder to email questions and subscribe ### **Social Media:** [Website](https://tomanddan.com/) | [Twitter](https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive) | [Facebook](https://facebook.com/amediocretime) | [Instagram](https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive) **Where to Find the Show:** [Apple Podcasts](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682) | [Google Podcasts](https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2FtZWRpb2NyZXRpbWUvcG9kY2FzdC54bWw) | [TuneIn](https://tunein.com/podcasts/Comedy/A-Mediocre-Time-p364156/) **The Tom & Dan Radio Show on Real Radio 104.1:** [Apple Podcasts](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-corporate-time/id975258990) | [Google Podcasts](https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2Fjb3Jwb3JhdGV0aW1lL3BvZGNhc3QueG1s) | [TuneIn](https://tunein.com/podcasts/Comedy/A-Corporate-Time-p1038501/) **Exclusive Content:** [Join BDM](https://tomanddan.com/registration) **Merch:** [Shop Tom & Dan](https://tomanddan.myshopify.com/)
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  • LTN 3 - Accepting Jealousy Without Control

    LTN 3 - Accepting Jealousy Without Control
    2025/10/09

    • Introduction of “Love Thy Neighbor” with therapist Colette Fehr
    • Welcome new listeners and mention high podcast ranking
    • Hosts called “teenage boys” for humor and immaturity
    • Men maintaining adolescent humor
    • Humor as coping mechanism and healthy outlet
    • Colette’s husband’s immature fraternity text thread
    • Male vs. female friendship communication
    • Women maturing faster than men
    • Relationship strain from maturity gaps
    • Midlife women feeling disconnected
    • “Six second kiss” relationship exercise
    • Dan performing kiss with his wife before daughter
    • Oxytocin and affection modeling for kids
    • Teaching children healthy relationship behavior
    • Transition to jealousy in relationships
    • Reddit story: man jealous of wife’s galas with rich colleague
    • Wife transparent, husband insecure
    • Managing jealousy through communication
    • Jealousy triggered by wealth and attraction
    • Husband allows outing with boundaries and tracking
    • Clarifying jealousy vs. envy
    • Jealousy as natural nervous-system response
    • Some view mild jealousy as caring
    • Distinction between jealousy and control
    • Trust and openness as antidotes
    • Example of coworker emotional boundary issue
    • Playful jealousy as reassurance
    • Jealousy not proof of love
    • Personality and trauma shape jealousy
    • Irrational jealousy from dreams or imagination
    • Dismissing partners as “crazy” worsens conflict
    • Therapy reframing jealousy
    • Men’s distrust of other men’s motives
    • Debate on male-female platonic friendship
    • Communicating boundaries early
    • Cheating history affecting trust
    • Accepting jealousy without control
    • Listener email about couples without shared language
    • Curiosity about cross-language relationships
    • Soldiers marrying foreign partners
    • Nonverbal connection through emotion
    • Fewer words simplifying communication
    • Arranged marriages lasting longer
    • Debate: compatibility vs. effort
    • Religious and cultural pressure to stay married
    • Idea of renewing marriage licenses every five years
    • Humor about forgetting to renew
    • Renewal promoting effort and reflection
    • Native American flexible marriage traditions
    • Balancing commitment with self-respect
    • Therapy helping decisions to stay or leave
    • More men entering therapy
    • Workplace friendships and power dynamics
    • Ethical issues in boss-employee relationships
    • Difficulty setting workplace boundaries
    • Hard to assert yourself to a boss
    • Toxic workplace mirroring romantic issues
    • Balancing kindness and accountability
    • Discomfort addressing workplace problems
    • Need for professionalism and emotional awareness
    • Tracy’s Halloween gift baskets as light humor
    • Emotion and business intertwined
    • Aggressive vs. empathetic attorney marketing
    • Personality differences shaping response
    • Colette’s “Insights from the Couch” podcast
    • Upcoming book The Cost of Quiet
    • Contact through LoveThyNeighborShow.com and voicemail
    • Closing remarks and tease for next episode

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