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Love & Cherish Podcast with Laura How

Love & Cherish Podcast with Laura How

著者： Laura How | Love & Cherish Podcast
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Hosted by therapist and relationship coach Laura How, the Love & Cherish Podcast features thoughtful interviews with interesting people about relationships, sex, culture, and mental health.

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  • Married to a Sexually Avoidant Wife? Here’s What Actually Helps

    Married to a Sexually Avoidant Wife? Here’s What Actually Helps
    2026/07/29
    Is your wife warm with everyone but you? Avoidant attachment can leave a marriage physically and emotionally starved — and here's what actually helps. She hugs her friends, she fusses the dog, she's affectionate with the children. Just not with you. You go to kiss her mouth and you get the cheek. You reach for a hug and a quick pat on the back tells you that's enough. And the harder you try to show her you're someone worth wanting, the further she pulls away. This video explains why that happens, why nothing you've tried has worked, and what to do differently from here. 👉 Want to work through this with someone? Book online therapy with me or my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ Most men in this position do one of two things. They chase — crowding, hinting, explaining, applying pressure. Or they withdraw — sulking, stonewalling, going cold. Both tell an avoidant wife exactly the same thing: this person isn't safe. And healing an attachment wound simply isn't possible where threat is present. There is a third way, and it starts with understanding that you're not dealing with someone who's cruel. You're dealing with someone who's wounded. In this video, I cover: ✔️ What a sexually avoidant wife actually looks like day to day, beyond the bedroom ✔️ The two types of avoidant attachment, dismissive and fearful, and how each one forms ✔️ Why your needs feel like a threat to her, and why closeness made it worse ✔️ Why shame, not indifference, is what keeps her stuck ✔️ The anxious and avoidant responses that are quietly making things worse ✔️ How to be steady, clear and honest without applying pressure ✔️ What a 2013 study of 180 couples found about the men whose avoidant partners stayed engaged ✔️ How and when to raise it, and why saying it once matters more than saying it well ✔️ What you can reasonably ask of her, and why frightened doesn't mean exempt ✔️ Why talking therapy alone often isn't enough, and what worked for me instead ✔️ How to run weekly check-ins that don't become grievance sessions ✔️ How my husband and I came through our own version of all this A note before you watch: this video is for men who are genuinely safe, faithful and kind. Nothing here applies to marriages involving abuse or coercion. And many of these behaviours can point to other legitimate causes — physical, medical, or something in the marriage itself. This is a pattern to recognise, not a diagnosis to hand anyone. Ready to stop pushing against a wall, and start building the conditions where your wife can actually move towards you? 👉 Read the full article: https://laurahow.com/married-to-a-sexually-avoidant-wife/ 👉 Join the Good Wife Club (women-only community, monthly live with me): https://laurahow.com/good-wife-club/ 👉 Join the Good Husband Club (men-only community, monthly live with me): https://laurahow.com/good-husband-club/ 👉 Book an online session with me or my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/ 👉 One-Day Couples Intensive (for stuck or sexless marriages): https://laurahow.com/1-day-couples-intensive/ 👉 Book recommendations on marriage and intimacy: https://laurahow.com/book-recommendations/ 💬 Let me know in the comments: what's the one thing you've never been able to say to her, and what do you think is really in the way? 🔗 Follow me for more: Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ X (Twitter) → https://x.com/laurahow 🔔 Subscribe for weekly videos on marriage, intimacy, and the conversations most couples avoid: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg?sub_confirmation=1 ⏱️ Timestamps: 0:00 Introduction – When She's Warm With Everyone But You 1:12 Why She Shuts Down When You Bring It Up 2:15 Who This Video Is (and Isn't) For 3:00 Understanding Avoidant Attachment: She's Wounded, Not Cruel 3:32 The Two Types: Dismissive vs. Fearful Avoidant 4:40 Why She Experiences Your Needs as a Threat 6:40 The Good News: Attachment Styles Can Change 8:12 The Two Responses That Make Things Worse 9:50 Keep Telling the Truth in Your Marriage 10:36 How to Talk to an Avoidant Wife 13:19 Naming Rejection Without Escalating 14:18 What You Can Ask of Her 15:30 The Gradual Approach: Sensate Focus & Small Steps 16:59 Scheduling Regular Check-Ins 19:06 Laura's Personal Story: What Recovery Actually Looks Like 20:35 What's Possible: Secure Attachment & a Thriving Marriage 📌 Hashtags #AvoidantAttachment #SexlessMarriage #MarriageAdvice
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    22 分
  • What “I Don’t Feel Safe” Really Means in a Sexless Marriage | Zac Fine & Marijke Roberts

    What “I Don’t Feel Safe” Really Means in a Sexless Marriage | Zac Fine & Marijke Roberts
    2026/06/11

    When your wife says she “doesn’t feel safe,” it might sound like an accusation. What does that even mean, and how is it your fault when you’ve worked hard to provide? In this team episode, Marijke, Zac and I unpack what safety actually means for women and for men, why it affects desire, and how two people who love each other end up feeling unsafe with the one person who’s meant to be home. 👉 Book online sessions with Zac or Marijke: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/

    In this episode, we discuss:

    ✔️ Why women carry a constant, low-level scan for safety — and how it follows them into the bedroom

    ✔️ “Diffuse awareness” vs single focus — why a loud, messy, overwhelming environment can switch desire off

    ✔️ How men signal stress as aggression or brooding — and why it can feel frightening even when nothing is wrong

    ✔️ The archetypal homecoming row — “What’s wrong with you?” — and the argument that ends any chance of sex

    ✔️ Why women read men better than men read themselves — and the energy you carry through the door

    ✔️ What men actually hear in “I don’t feel safe” — and why it lands like an attack

    ✔️ Gottman’s love map — why sharing your day is for the relationship, not just for you

    ✔️ Pokes vs strokes — and the five-to-one ratio that keeps a marriage warm

    ✔️ The power of specific praise — and why “you’re amazing” means nothing

    ✔️ “I love you” vs “Do you like me?” — the question that changes everything

    ✔️ The double bind of wanting to feel liked while withholding the very thing he needs

    ✔️ Laying down the sword — why real intimacy takes courage, vulnerability and surrender

    We record this monthly — we’d love to hear from you.

    👉 Leave your questions in the comments for the next episode.

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    📌 Hashtags #SexlessMarriage #EmotionalSafety #MarriageAdvice #CouplesTherapy #RelationshipAdvice #MarriageCounselling #IntimacyInMarriage #LauraHow #FeelingSafe #LoveAndCherishPodcast
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    24 分
  • Infertile But Fruitful | Leigh Fitzpatrick Snead

    Infertile But Fruitful | Leigh Fitzpatrick Snead
    2026/04/24
    Leigh Fitzpatrick Snead spent years navigating unexplained infertility before becoming a mother of four sons through adoption. Her debut book, Infertile But Fruitful: Finding Fulfillment When You Can't Conceive (Sophia Institute Press, 2026), is the book she wishes had existed when she was a young woman carrying that cross alone — a memoir, a resource, and a quiet argument that a marriage can be fruitful in ways that go far beyond biology. In this conversation, Leigh sits down with Laura to talk about the early shock of realising pregnancy might not happen, the complicated pull of IVF and why she and her husband Carter ultimately chose a different path, the grief that lingers even after four adopted sons arrive, and the everyday, stubborn work of keeping a marriage alive through all of it. She's honest about the jealousy, the shame, the self-blame that can sneak in, and generous about what held her and Carter together when the statistics say most couples don't make it through. Toward the end of the conversation, Laura asks Leigh to speak directly to the heart of what Love & Cherish is about — the sexual and emotional connection inside a long marriage, and how you protect it across decades, children, careers, and seasons where life simply gets in the way. Leigh's answer is one of the warmest and most grounded things we've had on the podcast. Whether you're walking the road of infertility yourself, love someone who is, or simply want to hear two women talk honestly about marriage, adoption, grief, and joy, this one is worth your time. CHAPTERS 0:00 Introduction 0:40 First Realizing Infertility 4:45 Writing the Book 6:08 The Impact of Honest Storytelling 9:32 The IVF Temptation & Catholic Ethics 10:14 Seeing a Fertility Doctor 11:37 Dr. Hilgers & the Creighton Method 17:49 Walking Out on the IVF Doctor 18:09 Choosing Adoption 19:58 Life in Indiana & Building Community 21:07 Pursuing Both Adoption and Fertility Treatment 29:22 Grieving Infertility 35:39 Raising Sons & Modeling Marriage 38:42 Infertility's Impact on Marriage 41:58 Marriage Advice 56:54 Tally Keeping in Marriage 59:13 Division of the Sexes in Modern Culture 1:01:59 Intimacy in Marriage 1:07:39 Closing & Where to Find Lee ABOUT LEIGH Leigh Fitzpatrick Snead is a writer, speaker, and mother of four, and a Fellow with The Catholic Association. She co-hosts the nationally syndicated radio show Conversations with Consequences, and her writing has appeared in the National Catholic Register, the Washington Times, Newsweek, the Washington Examiner, Aleteia, and Theology of Home. She has spoken on marriage, family, adoption, and infertility at the University of Notre Dame's Vita Institute, the Napa Institute, the Edith Stein Project, and the Catholic Women's Forum. She lives in Indiana with her husband Carter of twenty-six years and their four sons. Infertile But Fruitful: Finding Fulfillment When You Can't Conceive draws on her own journey to offer encouragement, honesty, and practical wisdom to couples walking the same road, and to the family, friends, and clergy who walk alongside them. FIND LEIGH Book (Sophia Institute Press): https://sophiainstitute.com/product/infertile-but-fruitful/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leighsnead/ The Catholic Association: https://thecatholicassociation.org FIND LAURA Laura How is a relationship therapist specialising in sexless marriages and intimacy in long-term relationships. Website: https://laurahow.com The Love & Cherish Podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, and wherever you get your podcasts.
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