What happens when your identity clashes with your partner's? Steph and Shellby dive deep into this question as they explore the complexities of dating within the queer community. Steph shares her personal struggle of feeling erased while dating a trans man who wanted to present as completely straight to the world. "I felt like a faker all the time," she reveals, capturing the emotional toll of suppressing one's authentic self for another's comfort.

The conversation shifts to the absurdity of bathroom politics, where both hosts share stories of being confronted simply for entering the "wrong" restroom based on their appearance. "People are so concerned about what's in our pants. It's ridiculous," they agree, highlighting how arbitrary gender policing affects daily life for many in the LGBTQ+ community. Their advocacy for gender-neutral bathrooms comes from practical experience rather than political ideology—a refreshing perspective in today's heated climate.

Trust and independence in relationships take center stage when discussing Pride events. Would they be okay with their partners attending without them? The amusing anecdote about not even wanting to be left behind for a quick trip to buy lettuce ("You're not going without me!") reveals how deeply intertwined their relationships are with their identities. Through humor and vulnerability, Steph and Shellby create a space where difficult conversations become accessible and where listeners might recognize their own experiences or gain new understanding of others'. Join their Discord community to continue the conversation, email your thoughts to queers@lezcommunicate.com, and don't forget to follow wherever you get your podcasts!

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What happens when two best friends dive into the unspoken truths of queer dating? Pure, unfiltered honesty that's equal parts hilarious and thought-provoking.

Steph and Shellby tackle the question of height preferences in relationships, revealing how their 5'9" and 5'10" statures influence their dating experiences. The conversation uncovers surprising insights about protection dynamics and how heteronormative expectations sometimes infiltrate queer relationships. Both hosts share laughable moments about their partners' reactions to height differences – from tippy-toe kisses to protests when heels make the gap even wider.

The episode takes a serious turn when discussing whether dating someone in the closet is even possible. Drawing from personal experiences, they distinguish between emotional connections with closeted women versus actual dating, concluding that authentic relationships require authenticity from both parties. "Nobody's falling for that," they agree, while acknowledging the legitimate fears that keep people from coming out.

The most controversial segment explores their difficulty understanding bisexuality. With remarkable candor, they admit their limited perspectives while extending an invitation to bisexual listeners to educate them in future episodes. "We're not saying it's not okay, we're saying we don't understand. There's a difference," Shellby clarifies, showcasing their willingness to learn and evolve.

Throughout it all, the rapport between Steph and Shellby creates a uniquely intimate listening experience. Their easy banter and fearless approach to taboo subjects makes you feel like you're eavesdropping on a private conversation between friends – complete with cocktails, curse words, and gut-busting laughter.

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Ever wondered if your dating disasters were uniquely catastrophic? Steph and Shellbz are here to assure you they've been there too—and probably worse. In this unfiltered episode, they dive headfirst into their romantic misadventures that'll make you cringe, laugh, and perhaps feel a little better about your own love life.

From Shellb's tale of being elaborately catfished at a hotel by someone who vanished into thin air, to Steph's confession about ghosting dates and making dramatic exits, these stories expose the messier side of modern dating. The hosts candidly admit to their "villain eras" between relationships—those periods when heartbreak transforms even the most loving people into emotional wrecking balls. "When I'm in a relationship, I'm fucking in it. But when my heart's broken, I stuff down all the emotions and I like to fuck around and find out," Shellbz confesses with characteristic frankness.

What makes this episode particularly powerful is the transformation arc. As they reflect on their current healthy relationships, both hosts acknowledge how far they've come from toxic patterns they once normalized. "I can't even imagine feeling that shitty now," Steph remarks, describing the stark contrast between her past relationship filled with constant demands for "proof" and her current partnership built on trust. Their journey reveals how sometimes the messiest paths lead to the most beautiful destinations—and how self-awareness and healing are prerequisites to finding authentic love.

Whether you're currently swiping through dating apps, healing from heartbreak, or enjoying a healthy relationship, this episode offers both solidarity and hope. Join us for this raw, honest conversation about the human experience of seeking connection, making mistakes, and finally finding relationships where "fights" revolve around who's buying beer rather than dealing with genuine conflict. Subscribe now to LezCommunicate for more unfiltered conversations that make you feel less alone in your own journey.

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