Have you ever told yourself you’re fine, only to find your body proving otherwise?
In this short, honest episode, I reflect on how ignoring my own body’s signals turned a simple cough into a chest infection… and what it reminded me about pausing, listening, and letting the body lead - something a lot of us can struggle to do!

I talk about my NHS and people-pleasing days when having time off made me feel guilty and anxious and like I was a failure.

This episode invites you to consider how often you listen to what your body is saying and talks about the importance of tuning in to discover what it might have to say.

A recent visualisation session with my own coach Audrey https://www.instagram.com/audrey_thesocialcoach recently opened me up to another level of connection with the purpose and meaning behind the work I do (something analytical, logical only past me would have rolled her eyes at 🤣)

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I wanted to sit down and share honestly where my head and heart are at as I reflect on where this podcast and my message are heading.

I've noticed that when I started the podcast I was - sometimes unconsciously -following marketing type “rules” of what I should and shouldn’t cover, how much I should or shouldn't post etc. but I’ve realised those rules don’t always honour the depth of my work - or who I truly am.

In this episode I acknowledge my recent reflections and confirm this isn't about a rebrand - it's about remembering and a return - is about returning to my why — the part of me that began this work in the first place.

I talk about the difference between rebranding and remembering, why it’s time to stop softening our truth to fit expectations, and how I’m reshaping this podcast to reflect the depth, emotion, and honesty I want to bring to every episode.

This isn’t just my podcast - it’s ours.
For you, for me, and for the little girl inside each of us who deserves to know:
She’s safe to be seen.
Safe to rest.
Safe to take up space again.
She is here.

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Last episode focused on identifying the real reason you feel guilty when you say no or put yourself first - in this episode we are exploring those internalised rules like “if I rest then i’m lazy,” or “if I say no then I’m selfish.”

I walk you through some reflective prompts and a simple practice to help you start rewriting those rules into something kinder and more realistic — so you can honour your needs without feeling like a bad person.

This isn’t about swinging from people-pleasing to being cold or uncaring. It’s about learning that you can be kind and have boundaries. You can rest and still be responsible. You can say no and still be good.

If you’re ready to start letting go of guilt and creating new, flexible guidelines to live by, this episode will gently walk you through how.

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If you’re a people-pleaser then chances are that on the rare occasion you do say “no” to someone, cancel plans, or set a boundary — you find yourself feeling guilty.

In this episode I talk about how guilt doesn’t always mean you’ve done something wrong. Often, it shows up because you’ve broken an internalised rule you’ve been carrying for years — like “I must keep everyone happy” or “Putting myself first is selfish.”

This episode includes:

Why guilt feels so intense when you say no or prioritise yourself

How to reframe guilt so you can see it as a sign of growth, not wrongdoing

A guided reflection exercise to help you uncover the root of your guilt and begin reframing it

If this episode helps you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it - and stay tuned for the next episode, where we’ll explore practical strategies to rewrite those old rules for good.

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

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For years, I told myself the reason I couldn’t speak up, share my thoughts, or truly let myself be seen was because I wasn’t confident enough.

Maybe you’ve told yourself the same thing — that you just need to “push through,” “fake it till you make it,” or somehow be braver.

But recently, something happened that made me realise the problem isn’t about confidence at all.

In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about:

• The two inner voices we all carry — the one that tells us to stay quiet, and the one that dares us to speak up.
• The powerful experience that reconnected me to my purpose and voice
• Why confidence isn’t the real issue — and what you truly need instead.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re hiding parts of yourself or holding back from sharing your gifts, this episode will help you understand why — and give you hope that it’s possible to show up authentically, without pushing or pretending.

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

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Do you often put everyone else’s needs before your own - and feel bad if you don’t?

In this episode, I’m joined by Kay from Place to Talk Therapy Practice to explore the deep connection between shame and people-pleasing. We talk about how shame begins, how it shows up in everyday life, and why it can feel so hard to break free from old patterns.

Kay shares her personal experience of living with shame, from body image struggles to those early messages we pick up about who we need to be in order to be accepted and loved. Kay explains:

• The difference between guilt and shame - and why shame runs so deep.
• How childhood experiences and cultural expectations shape people-pleasing.
• Gentle ways to notice and challenge shame-fuelled thoughts.
• What self-honour is and why it is the antidote to shame.
• First steps you can take to set boundaries and put your needs back on the table.

You can find out more about Kay and her practice at https://www.placetotalktherapies.co.uk/

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

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I share what it’s really like to walk the well-worn path of people-pleasing - the one that promises peace, acceptance, and connection, but actually leaves you feeling lost and disconnected from yourself.

I talk about the hidden costs of always saying yes, the silent panic when you even think about saying no, and why it can feel like you don’t even know what you want anymore.

Most importantly, I explain why people-pleasing isn’t a fixed personality trait - it’s a nervous system survival response. You didn’t choose this path, but you can choose differently now. And even though stepping off it feels scary and uncertain, that anxiety isn’t a sign you’re doing something wrong - it’s a sign you’re heading off the path, to make a new one. One that will lead you back to yourself.

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

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Past me would NEVER have done this.
This weekend I went to Creamfields on my own, volunteered with Blink Mental Health, gave therapy sessions in the middle of the thumping bass - and then did something that reminded me how liberating it is when you break free from people-pleasing.

When I was in my anxious, overthinking people-pleasing prime, I’d never have walked into a festival alone. I’d never have volunteered alongside a team I’d never met, doing something as unfamiliar as therapy in a bell tent. And yet, what struck me most this weekend was what didn’t happen: I didn’t spiral for days about what to wear. What to say. Whether people would think I was “too much” for asking questions. The fear of getting lost, looking stupid, or not fitting in. And afterwards, I didn’t replay every conversation, cringing at every word.

Instead of overthinking, I felt grounded. Present. Happy.
And what I chose to do after my shift really hit me deep.

If you’ve ever held back because of what others might think, or felt like you’re “too much and not enough” all at once - this episode is your reminder that freedom is possible. In your own way, at your own pace.

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/