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We are taking a break from our regular format to discuss the state of the world. Shadoe and Victoria have a very open and honest conversation about:

- how we are feeling about the challenging times we are in (trade wars, politics, climate change and inflation) how do we cope in our daily lives and make sure we are still staying mentally, emotionally, physically healthy so that we can stay connected and help heal the world.

-we also touch on the topics of: fear and fear-based decision making, moments of joy and hope, road rage, emotional discharge, bystander effect, sympathy and compassion for everyone, sympathy and compassion for ourselves , how important it is to take a few seconds to retrain your brain for optimism.

During our regular format, we always ask before providing feedback. But today you can be in the room as Shadoe and Victoria have a very real conversation about how they are feeling.

2 Key Takeaways:

If you regularly offer unsolicited advice, here is a strategy to keep in your back-pocket. Before offering the advice, try asking this one key question.

What can you say when you know a friend is going through something hard, without minimizing their feelings and also offering real supportive words. Stay until the end we reveal this lifechanging statement.

LINKS
Mini-Episode: What is Toxic Positivity?

Related Episode: Discharging vs. Letting Go

Most Popular Episode: Being Nicer to Myself

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On this episode we welcome guest Danielle Sebastian.

Danielle Sebastian is an expert on identifying and overcoming trauma in relationships. She is the bestselling author of "Resilient Wives: A Guide for Wives Supporting Their Husband Through Childhood Trauma Recovery" and has helped hundreds navigate and repair their relationships as they support their partners through trauma recovery. After 9 years of strain in her own marriage and through years of extensive research and development on trauma, relationships and self-care, Danielle created a signature "CARE" framework. She is a sought after speaker, and her thought leadership has been presented to audiences of over 2K. Happily married now for 14 years and the mother 2, Danielle has dedicated her life to helping partners reconnect and healing together. But most of all, her passion lies in helping partners prioritize their wellness and finding community as they work toward a healthier relationship.

To skip the check-in and go right to the regrets segment, start the episode at 15:31.

Causes for Applause

• Victoria - new cat food for Olivia!
• Shadoe - learning more about guesser and asker culture
• Danielle - wonderful results from her medical tests

Regrets

• Victoria - harming her mother/daughter relationship
• Danielle - keeping everything private when she was struggling

Topics Discussed during Feedback session

• Capacity for change
• Distance can make us closer
• Shared experience and individual experience
• Rational thoughts and physiological responses
• Balance of equality and equity in parent-child relationships
• Finding support when you and your partner are struggling
• Supporting your friends without asking for the gory details
• Alienating our partners as a way to 'protect' them and why this doesn't work
• The viral blue/black or gold/white dress
• Husband support groups
• The six emotional needs
• Forgiveness is for you

Plugs and Links

• Danielle on Facebook
• Danielle on Instagram

• Article about Guesser vs. Asker Culture

• Episode about Mother-Daughter Relationships
• Episode about Our Coping Mechanisms

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Usually, our mini-episodes are hosted solo by Victoria.
For the first time, Shadoe joins in on this one!

On this episode, we discuss the six emotional needs. These emotional needs are: certainty, variety, growth, significance, love, and, contribution.

Find out more about each emotional need on this mini episode of Let's Relieve Regret!

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On this episode we welcome guest Kathy Baldwin.

Kathy is renowned for her groundbreaking work in stress mastery and body and mind alignment. She is the author of the influential book "Unlearn the Crap", its about personal success and empowerment. She specializes in uncovering and unlearning the crap that leads to stress, disease and burnout. She offers a unique approach that challenges conventional beliefs in the medical system.

To skip the check-in and go right to the regrets segment, start the episode at 17:57.

Causes for Applause

• Shadoe - reuniting with friends that fill her cup!
• Kathy - affirmation of alignment (from an amazing call!)
• Victoria - dyed her hair purple again!

Regrets

• Shadoe: believing the adage "bloom where you are planted" too literally.
• Kathy: taking on the responsibility of a deathbed promise

Topics Covered in this episode

• aging is a privilege
• sunlight, sunsets and sunrises
• orchids needing a specific environment to thrive
• law of relativity
• deathbed promises
• hyper-independence and isolating yourself
• law of relativity
• birth order and the pressures of being the eldest daughter

Plugs and Links

• Kathy Baldwin, RiseUP coaching: https://unlearnthecrap.com/about

• Caren Magill (ADHD coach Shadoe mentioned during check-in)

• Let's Relieve Regret ANONYMOUS

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On this episode we discussed:

• signs of overwhelm
• the difference between creatine and creatinine
• small and slow solutions
• different kinds of allergies
• the fear of being perceived as difficult
• conflict avoidance
• conflict resolution
• benefit of the doubt
• therapy speak being broadly applied / becoming slang
• feeling better on the other side of conflict

As always, we start with a check-in and cause for applause.

To skip the check-in and go right to the regrets segment, start the episode at 24:46.

Cause for Applause

• Shadoe serendipitously stepped on a beautiful pin, made by Ontario Artisan David Beaucage Johnson.
• Victoria is enjoying the benefits of a creatine supplement.

Regrets

• Shadoe regrets allowing the shame of being a picky eater forcing her to neglect her own needs in other areas of her life.
• Victoria regrets letting anxiety "run the show", leading to avoidance.

Wrap-up
New Breaths for Season 6!

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On this episode we catch up about our summer highlights, discuss unexpected human connections and the magic of fall.

Then, during the regrets segment, we have a deep conversation about how our habits can get in the way of our progress.

To skip the check-in and go right to the regrets segment, start the episode at 18:34


Cause for Applause

• Shadoe: had a phenomenal time at the P!NK Summer Carnival concert
• Victoria: met up with a podcast guest this summer IRL.

Regrets

• Victoria: getting stuck in victimhood (for just a little too long).
• Shadoe: being proud about drinking and the confusing comfort of the party-girl lifestyle.

Then, during the feedback session, we discussed:

• dial-a-bottle
• hangovers
• bed rotting
• social rubrics
• performance of identity
• self-concept
• being allowed to be loud
• group dynamics and unwritten rules
• alcohol on the ADHD brain
• loving ourselves first!

Wrap-up

• We have a new way for you to join the podcast! Let's Relieve Regret *anonymous* is now available!
• New Breaths for Season 6!

Plugs and Links

• Let's Relieve Regret *anonymous* https://forms.gle/fToMdRHjh5PRxgPs6
• Louise Carr's Episode - You Can Change at Any Age

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On this episode, we welcome Kerry-Ann Cummings. Kerry-Ann is an entrepreneur, small business owner, explorer, and founder of Angelee &Co, a natural handmade soap company. Kerry-Ann is a certified project and account manager. If there's one thing Kerry-Ann is going to do, is take a chance.

Causes for Applause

• Shadoe attended a virtual summit for Neurodivergent Entrepreneurs and has a bunch of glimmers to share!
• Victoria has a new, more supportive office chair!
• Kerry-Ann is expanding her business!

Skip to regrets at 19:26

Regrets Segment

Victoria opens up about struggling with identity getting in the way of her relationship with her self.

Kerry-Ann shares a regret about believing she needed a business partner in order to succeed.

Reflection Question: How do you design a business around who you are?

Links

• Gravitas by Lisa Sun
• Neurodivergent Entrepreneur Summit
• Angelee & Co Soaps
• Mini-Episode: Boundaries, Needs and Wants

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In this minisode Victoria talks about the 'NO REGRETS' attitude and how it can actually harm us. There is strength in talking about mistakes and regrets. By learning the 4 different common types of regrets we can better understand our SELF and we can more easily learn from them and let them go so we can move forward.

At the end of the minisode Victoria talks about how you can support us with our new BUZZSPROUT support option! We are an independent podcast and your support means we can continue to provide quality podcasts that are authentic and genuine. Supporters will get some special perks along the way!

Learn about the Power of Letting Go by coming to one of Victoria's Letting Go Meditation classes! Try our her classes for free for 14 days at www.myrecreo.health .

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