In this mini episode of Let’s Get Emotional, Tatiana Rojas explores a habit many of us have without realizing it: describing how we feel by judging ourselves instead. Phrases like “I feel dumb,” “I feel weak,” or “I feel ridiculous” can sound like emotions, but there may be more going on beneath them.

Tatiana shares a simple shift that can change how you respond to yourself in uncomfortable moments and help you understand what you’re actually experiencing. The next time that critical voice shows up, are you naming a feeling or judging yourself?

In This Episode:

• The difference between naming an emotion and judging yourself
• Why “I feel dumb” isn’t actually a feeling
• How common self-judgments like “I’m weak” or “I’m being dramatic” show up
• What may be underneath self-critical thoughts
• How self-judgment can make an already uncomfortable moment feel harder
• Why judging an emotion can make it harder to allow yourself to feel it
• How self-judgment can get in the way of asking for help
• A simple question to try: “What am I feeling underneath that?”
• Why you don’t need the perfect emotional word right away
• How emotional fluency helps you notice what’s happening beneath automatic reactions

If you’re interested in developing a better understanding of your emotions and finding the words to express them, Tatiana also shares a little about the Let’s Get Emotional – Emotional Fluency: Learning the Language of Feelings course, created to help you explore your emotional experiences and build your emotional vocabulary.

Resources:
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In this mini episode of Let’s Get Emotional, Tatiana Rojas, licensed marriage and family therapist, explores a phrase we use all the time: “I feel like.” It might seem like a small detail in the way we talk, but have you ever stopped to notice what comes after those words?

Maybe you’ve said, “I feel like nobody’s listening to me,” or “I feel like I’m failing.” You know something is going on emotionally, and you’re trying to put it into words. But sometimes, what we say describes what we think is happening rather than how we actually feel.

This episode explores emotional awareness, emotional language, and the difference between thoughts and feelings. Tatiana looks at why it can be easier to explain a situation than to describe our emotional experience, and how this can show up in everyday conversations and relationships.

You’ll also explore why the words we use to describe our experiences matter, especially when we’re trying to help someone else understand us. Without needing to find the perfect words or get everything right, there are small ways to become more curious about what we’re feeling and how we express it.

If you’ve ever struggled to answer the question “How do you feel?” or found yourself explaining everything that happened without quite knowing how to describe your emotions, this mini episode offers a gentle place to start.

In this episode, explore:

• Why “I feel like” doesn’t always describe an actual emotion
• The difference between thoughts, interpretations, and feelings
• Why we often explain what happened instead of naming how we feel
• How unrecognized emotions can affect conversations and relationships
• What might be underneath statements like “I feel like nobody cares”
• How naming an emotion can help you communicate more clearly
• Why you don’t have to choose between explaining the situation and expressing your feelings
• Simple phrases to help you identify and describe your emotional experience
• A practical exercise for noticing when you say “I feel like”
• How emotional fluency helps you build the language to understand your feelings over time

If you’re interested in developing a better understanding of your emotions and finding the words to express them, Tatiana also shares a little about the Let’s Get Emotional – Emotional Fluency: Learning the Language of Feelings course, created to help you explore your emotional experiences and build your emotional vocabulary.

Until next time, remember: you don’t have to have all the words right away. Sometimes, simply noticing how you talk about your feelings can be the beginning of understanding them a little better.

Resources:

Website: http://www.ownyourbloom.com/

Facebook: https://tinyurl.com/4vdkdsk7

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In this mini episode of Let’s Get Emotional, Tatiana Rojas explores why we don’t always understand our emotional reactions in the moment—and why realizing how you feel hours, days, or even weeks later doesn’t mean you missed something.

Sometimes a conversation seems fine until you find yourself replaying it later. A comment suddenly lands differently. You realize you felt dismissed, uncomfortable, hurt, or affected in a way you couldn’t recognize at the time. As Tatiana explains, the reaction may not have appeared later—it may simply have taken time and space for you to recognize it.

This episode explores delayed emotional awareness, emotional processing, self-awareness, and understanding your feelings without turning your past reactions into something to criticize. When we’re busy responding, managing a situation, or simply getting through the day, we may not have enough space to process what we’re experiencing. Later, with more distance, we can notice what was happening internally and make sense of our emotional response.

You’ll learn why hindsight can give you information you didn’t have in the moment, how emotional reactions can become clearer with distance, and how to replace self-critical questions like “Why didn’t I realize this sooner?” with a more useful question: “What makes more sense to me now?”

The episode also includes a guided emotional reflection to help you revisit a recent experience, notice what became clearer afterward, and understand your reaction with more compassion and context. You’ll be invited to consider what you were focused on at the time, what you noticed later, and what you understand now that you may not have been able to see then.

If you’re learning to better understand your emotions, build emotional awareness, or find the words to describe what you’re experiencing, this mini episode offers a simple place to pause and reflect.

In this episode, explore:

• Why you may understand an emotional reaction later
• Delayed emotional awareness and emotional processing
• Why hindsight can provide valuable emotional information
• Understanding feelings after difficult conversations
• Recognizing emotions during busy or stressful periods
• How emotional awareness develops with distance and reflection
• Moving away from self-criticism and “I should have known” thinking
• Questions that can help you better understand your emotional experiences
• A guided reflection for making sense of a past reaction
• How emotional fluency can help you put your experiences into words

If this episode leaves you thinking, “I wish I understood this part of myself better,” Tatiana also introduces the Let’s Get Emotional – Emotional Fluency: Learning the Language of Feelings course, created to explore how emotions show up, how to understand your emotional experiences, and how to put what you’re feeling into words.

Until next time, remember: you don’t have to understand every emotion immediately. Sometimes you simply need a little time and distance to make sense of what you’re feeling.

Resources:

Website: http://www.ownyourbloom.com/

Facebook: https://tinyurl.com/4vdkdsk7

TikTok: https://tinyurl.com/4c6kdubc

Instagram: https://tinyurl.com/4stkzjk5