Using our past to help us shape our present and influence our future, that is today's topic. Our past does not have to be the burden that slows us down. We can own our past and learn from it, both the good and the bad. By identifying key events that influenced out path, and people who helped us or inspired us to select a certain path, or overcome an obstacle, we can find a deeper learning and strength from them. Sometimes we need help to process the difficult and painful though.

The history of countries, regions, and people shapes the present culture. Our experiences shape our behaviors, believes and values. On a personal, group, organizational, country, and global level.

Don't ignore your history. Use it to write your story.

• Note: This episode might trigger some painful memories due to the content. If you need to talk to someone, reach out to a friend, family member or call a mental health helpline. SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

I was a recent immigrant and newly wed when the terror attack on September the 11th happened. We lived in Manhattan where both I and my husband worked. He was in finance and I at Columbia University. We had been married for a little over a year, I had lived in the US for three years. We had just returned from an extended work and holiday trip to London. I still remember vividly how I felt that weekend as we returned to NYC. I felt like I was starting to find my footing in my new country. NYC felt like home. I had reinvented my career and I was happy with my job at Columbia University. Life was pretty good.

The next morning that sense of safety and of being at peace was shattered.

I stepped out of the subway car at 116th Street Columbia University station when the first plane hit WTC. I know this because I checked the station clock, making sure I was not running late. I remember this because as I walked into my south facing office on the 14th floor I heard my office phone ring. I picked it up. My mother was on the line, calling from Finland and telling me she had heard on the news that a plane had hit WTC and was wondering if we were safe. I did not believe her. She insisted, so I turned around and opened the window shades. And I saw the huge plume of smoke from one of the towers down south on the horizon.

We all know what happened next.

The experience of living in Manhattan during these hours, days and months is hard to label. One word can not do it justice. I remember most vividly the initial feeling of despair, of feeling lost, of having an enormous need to do something, to help, but feeling helpless. But eventually we found our way, we who were stuck on the island that is the city that never sleeps. The city that now became eerily silent and empty. Once the thousands and thousands of commuters and city dwellers had found their way home. Mostly by foot, or driven by strangers who now became friends.

That, together with the silence, is the strongest memory I have. The one I will share with my grandchildren when I am an old lady. The togetherness. The humanity. The generosity. The love and the grief shared. The posters of missing persons filling the sidewalks normally crowded by people. The music in the parks. Spontaneous gatherings where we sang together accompanied by a guitar or two. Seeking solace. Together. Vowing to overcome and to be resilient. To rebuild and protect our city.

There is enormous power in the human spirit and in community. We say that we should never forget 9/11. True. What we chose to remember is what matters. Let’s remember the togetherness and friendship we shared with strangers in our neighborhood and across the world those days and months, and allow us to be inspired (for lack of a better word) as individuals, as leaders and as a community to live and lead with a purpose, for a greater good beyond our own selfish pursuits.

Boss Burnout

There is a lot of talk and writing about burnout at work and how we can prevent it from happening on an individual level, and how important the role of leadership and middle management is to create a healthy work culture, and to support their staff so they do not burnout.

Often the conversation starts from the perspective of the team, or team member. From their needs. And it is a very important perspective.

Being a burnout survivor myself, and having coached and trained both managers, leaders, and staff on how to avoid, recognize and recover from burnout, I do think that we often place a lot of pressure on the manager to support staff's well-being, but we forget the well-being of the manager. In particular those stuck in the middle between senior leadership and the teams. The ones that are tasked to turn the vision into action and result.

This is why today's episode is on Boss Burnout.

To create a culture where leaders and managers feel that they have the right to a healthy and balanced life, with time for rest, togetherness, learning, love, and career fulfillment - we need to change our thinking about what leadership is, what managers do and what a high performing business culture is.

Burnout is not an individual's problem. It is a cultural and structural problem. To eliminate today's burnout-culture we need a shift in values and priorities.

At work:

Talk about workload, and level of stress

Review your policies and values - where is the focus?

Hold leaders and managers accountable for the health and well-being in the organization

Empower your middle manager to dare to self-care

Ensure that they allow staff to care for their health and well-being also

Be a role model yourself

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