🎥 Sunday Reset with Steven | 17 Aug 2025

⚡ The 5-Second Rule and the 2-Word Reset

The best leaders I know don’t wait for courage They count down to it.
And when frustration rises? They don’t fight harder. They simply let them.

As you by now know I advise boards and senior leaders navigating AI, governance, and transformation. And a reminder:
That on Sundays, I share these resets - grounded, personal, and human. Use it in life and workplace.

In this week’s Sunday Reset video, I break down two tiny but powerful tools from Mel Robbins that I’ve been testing myself:

➡️ The 5-Second Rule: When hesitation strikes, count down 5-4-3-2-1 and move.

➡️ The “Let Them” Theory: When others don’t act how you want, release the grip. Let them. And reclaim your peace.

They sound almost too simple. Yet they’ve shifted how I lead, how I work, and even how I handle tough personal moments.

Here’s why they are not theory. They’re lived.

🟦 This week, I was staring at a draft email.
Tough message. High stakes (it was to the chair of board, giving not good news, although written well).
My brain? Doing what it does best: spiralling with “what ifs.”

Instead of sinking into that mind mode, I counted back: 5-4-3-2-1… send.

The world didn’t end. In fact, the decision opened a door I’d been hesitating on for weeks.

🟦 Another moment: in a personal relationship.
Someone dear to me chose a path I didn’t agree with.

Every instinct in me wanted to jump in, explain, persuade, fix.

But then I caught myself: let them.

Let them reveal their truth. Let them walk their road.

And the weight I was carrying? Gone in seconds.

That’s the point:
➡️ The 5-4-3-2-1 countdown gets you moving when fear freezes you.
➡️ The two words “let them” release you when control grips you.

One propels action.
The other protects peace.

Together, they create a balance most leaders. And most humans, well they are desperate for: momentum without burnout, clarity without control.

So here is the challenge I leave you with this week:

Where do you need a countdown to courage?
Where do you need a release into freedom?

Sometimes, the reset you need is just 5 seconds.
Or 2 words.

Keep growing. Keep leading.
Until next Sunday.
Let’s get it.

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🎥 Sunday Reset with Steven | 10Aug 2025

The Storm You Didn’t See Coming

Oprah once said:

“True forgiveness is when you can say, ‘Thank you for that experience.’”

Richard Branson swears by calling first when tensions rise-because a voice reveals what words on a screen hide.

And one of my favourite CEOs once told me:

“Nine times out of ten, the thing you’re angry about isn’t actually what’s happening.”

A CEO I know lived this perfectly.

She was mid-draft on a blistering email to a partner who’d just missed a huge deadline. Every line sharpened with frustration.

Then she stopped.
Picked up the phone.

On the other end?
A full systems meltdown. Two days offline. No malice. No negligence. Just a storm they hadn’t seen coming.

Email deleted. Frustration gone. Partnership saved.

“The Unsent Email Mindset”

Before you assume intent, check the facts.
Before you hit send, make the call.

It’s not about being soft-it’s about being smart.
It preserves trust. It keeps decisions clean. And it frees your head from carrying unnecessary battles.

This weekend, I was in Birmingham with Dr Karl George,MBE. We were working on GovernAI for Boards. It’s a innovative and ultimate compass to help boards lead AI with clarity and confidence before the technology leads them. Look out for the launch in a few weeks. (I will share further in due course)

That work reminded me of another concept: Locus of Control-first defined by Julian Rotter in 1954.

▫️External locus: “This is happening to me.”
▫️Internal locus: “This is my move to make.”

The best leaders I know-CEOs, athletes, creators-default to internal.
When the market slows, they ask, What’s our play?
When a plan stalls, they ask, Where’s the pivot?

The moment you outsource responsibility for your outcomes, you hand away the power to change them.

Your reset for this week:

🎥 Sunday Reset with Steven | 3 Aug 2025
“Victorious warriors win first and then go to war, defeated warriors go to war first then seek to win. —Sun Tzu

Steve Jobs called intuition “more powerful than intellect.”
Oprah built an empire on instinct.
Elon Musk says real breakthroughs come from first principles, not just borrowed models.

Three icons. Three different worlds.
One truth:

Your inner alignment isn’t a luxury-it’s the engine of your impact.
This week? That truth hit me (in many ways!)

On Sundays, I share these resets-grounded, personal, and human. No slides. Just enabling clarity. I learn, and and invite you to learn with me.

🧭 When Logic Fails, Trust the Compass Within.

This week, I ignored my gut.
Followed advice that looked right on paper-but felt off.
The result? Misalignment. Wasted time. That dull inner ache of “I knew better.”

So I reset-and leaned into two powerful frameworks:

🔹 1. Ikigai – Your Inner Compass
From Japan, Ikigai means “your reason for being.”
It’s the intersection of:
→ What you love
→ What you’re good at
→ What the world needs
→ And what you can be paid for

Pro tip: Instead of asking “What’s my purpose?”
Try: “What energises me -even when I’m exhausted?”

(📌 I’ve shared a downloadable Ikigai template + my own reflection in the comments.)

🔹 2. The Law of Preparation – Brian Tracy

“Effective performance is preceded by painstaking preparation.”

This week, I found myself rushing. Skipping steps.
Then I remembered Lincoln’s words:

“I shall study and prepare myself, and someday my chance will come.”

When I returned to prep, clarity followed.
Because preparation isn’t a delay tactic. It’s a discipline that protects your focus and flow

Yeah - the Stoic’s knew it, said it and practiced too. The warriors, well they had it in them!

You are a leader in your own right. You can too.

🏎️ From the Track to the Boardroom
At the Hungarian Grand Prix qualifiers, Ferrari brought upgrades.
Mercedes? They reverted to an older setup-just to understand what wasn’t working.

Sometimes, progress requires stepping back to recalibrate.
And Hamilton?

“We were nowhere.”
Zero excuses. Just ownership. That’s high-performance leadership.

Watch the race today…

Your prompt for the week:
Where are you outsourcing your judgment?
What decision are you delaying-while waiting for proof you don’t need?

This week. Yes this week. Trust yourself.
→ Reflect through Ikigai.
→ Prepare with intention.
→ Act from alignment.

I’m Steven.
Keep growing. Keep leading.
Until next Sunday
Let’s get it. 🏁

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🎥 Sunday Reset with Steven – 27 July 2025
A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. — Lao Tzu

McConaughey once disappeared to the desert because fame left him empty.
Lewis Hamilton? He still talks about needing solitude to reset his mind between races.

🚦 Stuck in First Gear? Don’t Push Harder -Shift Smarter.

You know the feeling.
Your rhythm’s on point. Morning routine clicks. Focus is dialled in.
Then suddenly - nothing.

You are dragging. The basics feel heavy.
You're not broken… but you're not accelerating either.

Welcome to first gear - that strange space between burnout and flow.
And yes, I’ve been there too -this week, in fact.

Hey there again - I am Steven.
I work with boards and senior leaders around the world, helping them navigate AI business transformation and change, unlock clarity, and lead in a fast-changing AI landscape.
But every Sunday, I pause the strategy decks and tune in here -with you -for something more personal:

A reset for the human behind the leader. And you are a leader.

This week, I leaned on a simple 3-step playbook to climb out of my fog. It’s still there, but I can see better:

🛑 Step 1: Hit the Brakes

I love this one (because it’s common with all of us)

“If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.” — Warren Buffett

When things stall, we tend to grind harder. But clarity rarely comes through force.
Real rest isn’t just sleep. It’s emotional, sensory, and social recalibration.
Ditch the self-judgement. Let the system cool.

🔁 Step 2: Reset the Direction. Or Redirect
Ask yourself:

→ Is my current environment feeding growth-or fatigue?
→ Am I operating from my future self-or yesterday’s script?

Sometimes progress starts with changing the room, the rhythm, or the internal radio.

⚙️ Step 3: Create Just Enough Motion

“The key is not to prioritise what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” — Stephen Covey

Waiting to feel ready? That’s the trap.
Start tiny:
→ 15-minute walk
→ Open the doc
→ Send one message to potential client
→ One clear, clean step.
Because motion builds momentum-not motivation.

Ok another one.
📚 Still planning endlessly?
You might be stuck in research loop mode-another way resistance shows up.

Try the Feynman Technique:
(brilliant physicist, Nobel Prize winner)
He shared:
→ Write your idea.
→ Teach it simply. (Like to 5 year old) hi
→ Find what’s the grey area.
→ Refine. Act.

Clarity leads. Confidence follows.

🏁 Belgian Grand Prix: Sprint Weekend
Less time. More pressure. Fast decisions.
Like life, there’s no perfect prep- just bold starts and mid-race adjustments.

My prompt to you:
What are you “almost ready” to start-but still haven’t?
What would shift if you just began-without certainty, without polish?

Start small.
Start messy.
Just start.

This is your #SundayReset.
I’m Steven.
Keep growing. Keep leading.
Until next Sunday.
Let’s get it!

—Steven

Credit: Intro Music: Time. Musician: jiglr

“If you calm your own mind and discern the inner minds of others, that may be called the foremost art of war.” — Shiba Yoshimasa

Elon Musk launches rockets.
Taylor Swift reinvents herself every album.
Neither clings to “what used to work.”

But most of us? We stay stuck—
Not because we don’t learn new things…
But because we struggle to unlearn the old.

As mental fitness expert Maya Raichoora puts it:
“Resilience isn’t rigidity. It’s Mind Flex—the ability to switch gears with intention, awareness, and range.”
Think of it like a gearbox for the mind.
You don’t drive the same way uphill, downhill, or through rain.
Why would you lead the same way in every situation?

That hit me this week.

I’m Steven.
During the week, I work with boards and executive teams around the world—helping them lead and transform in the age of AI.
These #SundayReset sessions? They’re where we cut through noise and sharpen what’s human.

Let me share a story:
🧩 The Parable of the Blind Men and the Elephant — a Buddhist lesson from 500 B.C.

Each blind man touches a different part of the elephant and forms a “truth”:
→ A trunk? Must be a snake.
→ A tusk? A spear.
→ A leg? A tree.
→ An ear? A fan.
→ The side? A wall.
→ The tail? A rope.

They’re all partially right. But none have the full picture.

Sound familiar?
We all act from fragments.
Opinions disguised as facts.

But what if they’re not wrong… just holding a different part of the elephant?

You’ve got two choices:
🅐 Cling to certainty.
🅑 Or have the courage to evolve your view.

As David Foster Wallace said:
“A huge percentage of the stuff I tend to be automatically certain of is, it turns out, totally wrong and deluded.”
Truth isn’t in the shouting.
It’s in the shifting.

💡 The strongest leaders I know?
They move like warriors—but think like learners.
They ask:
🛡️ What if I didn’t see this clearly before?
🧭 What do they know that I don’t?

Mark Twain nailed it:
“It ain't what you don’t know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.”
So here’s your challenge this week:
📌 What have you changed your mind on recently?
📌 And what belief are you still clinging to that might need retiring?

Because growth isn’t polishing old beliefs.
It’s having the courage to replace the ones that no longer serve you.

🌱 Change your lens. Change your life.

I’m Steven.
Keep growing. Keep leading.
Until next Sunday.
Let’s get it.

🎥 Sunday Reset with Steven – 13 July 2025
“It’s better to be a tiger for one day than a sheep for a thousand years.” -Tibetan Maxim

Here’s a vision for you:
Elon Musk doesn’t wait for perfect conditions to launch rockets.
Beyoncé doesn’t ask permission before dropping an album.
Richard Branson doesn’t wait for certainty before starting a new business.

They move.

Meanwhile, many of us stay stuck- thinking. Re-thinking. Waiting for the perfect moment.

And to remind: These Sunday resets? They’re a space to breathe, reflect, and sharpen your human edge.

This week, I found myself wrestling with my own tendency to overthink.

Iam naturally spontaneous and decisive. But even I slip into “analysis mode”- trying to map every risk, every scenario, before taking the first step.

And you know what I’ve learned the hard way?

While you’re mapping… life is moving.

So here’s a 3 part formula, honed in from my own mentors and my journeys, and I share with leaders I work with:

1️⃣ The decision matters less than the actions that follow.

A decision is just a single spark. The fire comes from the actions you stack on top of it.

The best leaders don’t wait for perfect choices. They choose -and then keep choosing, refining through action, and maintaining a high inner energy.

2️⃣ Trust your adaptability -not just your plans.

Mike Tyson once said:

“Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth.”

Planning is good. But your real superpower is your ability to pivot when the unexpected hits.

This week, I was in the thick of a fast-moving project. We launched quickly, hit unforeseen barriers -but adapted because the team stayed connected, creative, and calm. (Yes there were conflicts too, and we returned to the goal!)

And as Les Brown reminds us:

“If you don’t program yourself, life will program you. Draw your own map.”
Overthinking waits for someone else’s map. Leadership is grabbing your own pen.

3️⃣ Most decisions are reversible.

Jeff Bezos breaks decisions into two types:

Type 1 → One-way doors. Big, high-stakes, hard to reverse.
Type 2 → Two-way doors. Lower stakes. Easy to reverse.

Most decisions? They’re two-way doors.
Try it!

If it doesn’t work out, you can pivot, adjust, and move forward stronger.

This connects with a principle I love from Daniel Priestley Oversubscribed:

“People want to join movements, not just buy products.”
Momentum is magnetic.

Waiting for perfect clarity? That’s how businesses-and people -get left behind - in life and business.

“The world rewards those who ship. Not those who endlessly overthink”

So here’s my prompt for you this week:
🔷 What’s one decision you’ve been overthinking… that you could simply act on today?

Because hey .. Tigers change their world -even for a day.

And overthinking? It won’t build your future. Only action will.
Yes, with inspired action combined with higher inner vibration.

This is your hashtag#SundayReset.
I’m Steven.
Keep growing. Keep leading.
Until next Sunday.
Let’s get it!

Sunday Reset July 6 2025

🎥 Sunday Reset with Steven – 5 July 2025

Soil, Circles or Spirals? Think of Oprah. Cristiano Ronaldo. Lady Gaga.

Ever wonder why some people shine for decades - while others burn bright, then fade?

It’s not just talent.
It’s the soil they’re planted in.

→ The people around them.
→ The habits they nurture.
→ The spaces they create for their own growth.

Because greatness isn’t just what’s in you.
It’s also where you’re planted.

This week, a story kept echoing in my mind- the Parable of the Sower from the Gospel of Matthew:

A farmer plants seeds.
Some fall on rocky ground - no roots.
Some fall among thorns - choked out.
But some fall on good soil - and produce an abundant harvest.

Even the best seeds can’t thrive in the wrong ground.

I felt it myself this week - pushing hard on certain goals, yet spinning my wheels.

A friend shared a new perspective on Thursday when I met them for lunch:

Picture a spiral staircase.

Sometimes, it feels like you’re just going in circles.
Same steps. Same views.

But zoom out - and you’ll see:
Every turn lifts you higher.

→ Even if it doesn’t feel like progress right now.

🎬 Denzel Washington once said:

“Ease is a greater threat to progress than hardship.”

And here’s my take:
A certain kind of ease matters -the kind that keeps you in a higher energetic state. Calm. Focused. Clear.

→ When you’re in that vibration, you make better decisions.
→ You avoid chaos and climb your spiral instead of running in circles.

Your environment - the soil you’re planted in- either lifts you up the spiral… or keeps you circling at the same level.

Here’s my prompt for your week:

Are you stuck in circles - or slowly rising on your spiral?

Because progress often hides where you least expect it.
And your roots - and your mission -deserve good soil.

This is your #SundayReset.
I’m Steven.
Keep growing. Keep leading.
Until next Sunday.
Let’s get it!

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🎥 Sunday Reset with Steven - 22 June 2025
Even Sheryl Sandberg.
Even Jonny Wilkinson.
Even Rick Rubin.

They’ve all said the same thing:
Sometimes… they crack.
Not because they’re weak -
But because they care. Deeply.

And this week? I cracked too.
Not dramatically.
Just enough to remind me: Leadership isn’t a performance. It’s pressure.

🎥 This Sunday Reset is personal.

Yesterday 21 June was the Summer Solstice - the longest day of the year.
It also marked a quiet, meaningful milestone in my life.
And it made me reflect on something I turn to often:
The Stockdale Paradox.

“Never lose faith in the end of the story...
But confront the most brutal facts of your current reality.” - Admiral James Stockdale

“I had to face facts, not just dreams. But never let go of hope.” - Nelson Mandela, Long Walk to Freedom

Both men lived the same truth:
Real leadership lives in the tension between brutal reality and unwavering belief.

That’s it.
The core of real leadership.
Hope and truth. Together.

Jim Collins found it in every company that made the leap from Good to Great.
And I see it in every transformation I help lead eg with boards, with AI, with people.

Here’s what happened this week.

I lost composure in a discussion with someone - let’s say : robotically wired.
All logic. No empathy. No awareness of tone.

But after reflecting, I realised:
They weren’t being difficult.
They were being them. Through their lens.

That’s when Erin Meyer’s The Culture Map came to mind.

“What sounds rude in one culture sounds clear in another.”
This doesn’t just apply to nations.
It applies to teams. To boards. To every room you walk into.

ReLearn with me:

So here are 3 shifts I use when conversations feel like collisions:
1️⃣ Pre-frame curiosity.
Say: “Help me understand how you’re seeing this.”

2️⃣ Default to context.
Ask: “Is this delivery… or design?”
Culture isn’t personal - it’s patterned.

3️⃣ Don’t take a scalpel to a screwdriver job.
Where logic fails, use story.
Where bluntness cuts, translate, don’t retreat.

📌 Quote I’m sitting with this week:

“You must never confuse faith that you will prevail…
with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality.” By Stockdale

My prompt for your week:

🧭 Where are you leading with only one lens- is it logic or emotion, performance or presence?
And what would happen if you held both?

This is your Sunday Reset.
I’m Steven.
Keep growing. Keep leading.
Until next Sunday.
Let’s get it!

Steven PAUL, CDir FIoD – Reshaping boards and CEOs to lead decisively – with AI transformation and strategic corporate governance at the core.
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