Hey, Friend!

In this episode, we explore six things I hope you remember:

1. You Don't Have to Earn Your Place at the Table.

2. You Are Allowed to Say No.

3. Your Work Is Not Your Worth.

4. Someone's Disappointment Is Not an Emergency.

5. You Need to Rest Before You're Empty.

6. Hard Doesn't Mean You're Failing.

Leadership isn't about becoming someone who never struggles.

It's about becoming someone who knows where to take the struggle.

You don't have to lose yourself to lead well.

You don't have to become less human to become a better leader.

You simply have to become more fully who God created you to be.

That's the leader I hope you're becoming.

And that's what I hope you take with you.

Leadership isn't just about what you accomplish. It's about who you're becoming.

With Love,

Becky

What if your greatest strength has a shadow?

Hey, Friend!

I have a question. What are you really good at?

Maybe you're dependable.

You get things done.

Maybe you're compassionate.

You notice people and care deeply about them.

Maybe you're decisive.

When everyone else is still talking, you're ready to move.

Maybe you're relational.

You know how to connect people and make them feel seen.

Maybe you're confident, organized, visionary, or a natural problem-solver.

Those are strengths.

But here's the question I want you to consider:

What happens when your strength becomes too much of a good thing?

Because every strength has a shadow.

The decisive leader can become controlling.

The compassionate leader can become a rescuer.

The dependable leader can become an overfunctioner.

The relational leader can become conflict-avoidant.

The confident leader can become unteachable.

The visionary leader can become impatient.

And the servant leader can slowly disappear herself in the process of serving everyone else.

The strength isn't the problem.

The lack of self-awareness is.

In this week's episode of Leadership Becomes Her, we're talking about Every Strength Has a Shadow.

We'll explore how to recognize when your greatest leadership strength is getting out of balance—and what you can do about it.

Because leadership maturity isn't about becoming less of who you are.

It's about becoming flexible enough to choose what the situation requires instead of automatically relying on your default strength.

So here's your question for the week:

What is your greatest leadership strength—and when does it become too much?

You may discover that the very thing that has helped you succeed is also something you need to learn to hold more lightly.

🎧 Listen to Every Strength Has a Shadow wherever you get your podcasts.

I pray this blesses you,

Becky

Hey, Friend!

What are you tolerating right now that is costing you?

Maybe it's a person who consistently oversteps.

A team member who isn't carrying their share.

A situation you've been hoping will change.

A conversation you've been avoiding.

A calendar that has no room left in it.

A responsibility you've taken on because “it's just easier if I do it myself.”

Or maybe it's a pattern in yourself that you've been putting up with for far too long.

We all tolerate things.

Sometimes that's wisdom. Not everything needs to be confronted or changed.

But sometimes we're tolerating something because addressing it feels harder than living with it.

And there's a cost.

In this week's episode we're taking a closer look at the hidden price of what we allow to continue.

Because the cost isn't always obvious.

It might be costing you:

• Time

• Energy

• Peace

• Trust

• Joy

• Credibility

• Your best people

• Your ability to lead well

I call it the tolerance tax.

And here's the question I want you to consider:

Don't just ask what it will cost you to change. Ask what it will cost you if you don't.

I pray this blesses you,

Becky