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  • Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners

    Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners
    2025/10/15
    Have you ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same kind of painful relationship almost like you’re tuned to a certain frequency that keeps pulling you toward emotionally unavailable partners? In this episode of Language of Love Session, I answer a heartfelt question from Sarah, a listener who wrote in asking: “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable people, and how can I heal whatever inside me is drawing me to these relationships?” We explore how the energy you carry, your vibration, and your earliest experiences all play a role in who you’re drawn to and why. I also share how healing practices like somatic experiencing and Internal Family Systems therapy can help shift your frequency so you attract partners who are truly capable of love and connection. We explore: Why emotionally unavailable partners feel so familiar (and why it’s not just “bad luck”) How childhood patterns set the vibration for the partners we’re drawn to later in life Ways somatic therapy helps release unconscious patterns stored in the body How Internal Family Systems therapy rewires your inner world for healthier love Why “butterflies” aren’t always passion, they may be your nervous system picking up on an old, unhealthy frequency This is all about learning how to change your vibration so you stop repeating painful cycles and open yourself up to safe, supportive love. For resources on somatic experiencing, visit the Hakomi Institute or traumatherapy.org for more on this powerful mindfulness-centered approach to healing. Have a question you’d like me to answer on the show? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, leave a voice message or question at SpeakPipe.com/LanguageofLove or connect with me on social media @DrLauraBerman. For more support, visit my website for expert resources and don’t forget to check out my newest book, Sex Magic. And if you’re navigating betrayal or struggling to rebuild trust, share your story with me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com for a chance to be featured in a future episode. Your journey could be exactly what someone else needs to hear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    10 分
  • Can’t Stay Present During Sex? Here’s Why

    Can’t Stay Present During Sex? Here’s Why
    2025/10/13
    How often do you find yourself zoning out during sex? One moment you’re fully present, the next, you’re mentally sorting laundry, overanalyzing your stomach, or wondering if your partner is actually enjoying it. It happens. A lot. In this Language of Love Bite, I break down why this happens, what’s going on in your nervous system and why even a hint of unease can make it so hard to stay turned on. I also share a quick, powerful exercise from my book Sex Magic to help you reconnect with your body. It takes less than three minutes, and you can do it solo or with a partner. In this Bite, you will discover: Why your brain checks out during sex How anxiety hijacks arousal and how to reclaim it A quick way to come back into your body How to shift from pressure to sensation A simple 3-minute exercise (from Sex Magic) to snap back into your body, quiet your mind, and shift from pressure to pleasure Ready to unlock deeper pleasure and power? Grab your copy of Sex Magic and dive into transformative insights that awaken your sensual energy. While you're there, don’t miss out on the free Quantum Sex Course designed to elevate your intimacy levels. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    6 分
  • Safe in Love: Building More Secure Relationships with Jessica Baum

    Safe in Love: Building More Secure Relationships with Jessica Baum
    2025/10/08
    Why does it always seem like déjà vu when it comes to your love life? Ever catch yourself wondering, “Why does every guy I date end up cheating, no matter who he is?” Or maybe you’re on the flip side thinking, “Why does every woman I date always seem to have anger issues?” It’s almost like you’re stuck in a dating loop, attracting the same person in a different body. But why does this keep happening? In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with therapist and relationship expert Jessica Baum, author of new book Safe, to explore why our love lives so often play out like déjà vu. Jessica takes us far beyond attachment labels like “anxious” or “avoidant.” She reveals how our parents’ nervous systems wire our own from infancy, shaping the way we connect, attach, and seek safety. Those early wounds often live in our bodies as sensation, surfacing later when a partner pulls away, rolls their eyes, or simply doesn’t show up the way we need. If you’re ready to stop repeating old patterns, this episode is your first step. We explore: Why traditional attachment labels don't tell the whole story and what does. How to tell the difference between your "thinking" left brain and your "feeling" right brain. The surprising reason you keep attracting the same type of partner (and how to break the cycle). Why "triggers" are actually invitations for healing and how to reframe them. How memory is stored not just in your mind, but in your gut, heart, and muscles. What it truly means to heal in a relationship, and why you can't do it alone. The subtle signs your nervous system is scanning for to answer, "Are you with me?" A powerful, real-life example of rupture and repair between a parent and adult child. Practical steps to start creating safety within yourself and your relationships. Remember to check out Jessica’s other books, including Anxiously Attached. And don’t forget to preorder your copy of Safe, coming out on October 28. It’s the manual your relationships have been missing. As a special gift for listeners, she’s offering free bonuses, including a deep-dive healing blueprint and a rare interview with her mentor. You can find her at jessicabaumlmhc.com and on Instagram @jessicabaumlmhc If you want to share your own love story, I’d love to hear it. Send me an email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Want to know what you really want in love? Take the quiz now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    52 分
  • When They Are “Checking All The Boxes” but You’re Still Not Sure

    When They Are “Checking All The Boxes” but You’re Still Not Sure
    2025/10/01
    What happens when everything looks good on paper, yet your heart keeps whispering that something’s missing? You love your partner. Nothing’s really wrong. And still, you can’t shake the feeling that maybe you’re settling, or maybe you’re expecting too much. In this Language of Love session, I respond to an anonymous listener who’s been with their partner for several years. The relationship checks all the boxes, but a nagging sense of absence lingers. Is it a red flag, or just fear keeping them from leaning all the way in? In this session, we talk through: Why “something missing” can mean very different things, and how to tell which applies to you The hidden danger of making excuses for a partner’s shortcomings How unhealed wounds, depression, or anxiety can disguise themselves as relationship doubts Why the only way to experience real love is to risk heartbreak If you’ve ever second-guessed your relationship and wondered whether it was intuition or insecurity talking, this conversation will speak directly to your heart. And if this resonates with your own story, I’d love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, your experience could help others feel less alone.Want more tools for navigating love and intimacy? Visit my website and check out my latest book, Sex Magic, for a deeper dive into building authentic, lasting connection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    8 分
  • What Do Fantasies Really Mean?

    What Do Fantasies Really Mean?
    2025/09/29
    Ever wondered what sexual fantasies really mean? Is there something deeper to them? In this Language of Love Bite, I unpack what science and symbolism tell us about fantasies, and how they’re often a mirror of your true desires. If you want to take this deeper, check out my book ⁠Sex Magic⁠ for a full guide to creating erotic intimacy that feels sacred and deeply satisfying. And don’t forget to subscribe to the⁠ Language of Love podcast⁠ so you never miss a bite-sized tip to level up your love life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    8 分
  • Mapping Out Life’s Journey with Spirit by Your Side with MaryAnn DiMarco

    Mapping Out Life’s Journey with Spirit by Your Side with MaryAnn DiMarco
    2025/09/24
    We all long to feel connected to our loved ones after they have crossed over. That ache to speak with them again never really goes away. But is it possible to make that conversation real? Can it be instinctual, natural, like you're just talking to someone beside you? In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with psychic medium and spiritual teacher MaryAnn DiMarco to explore the unseen support surrounding us. MaryAnn shows how connecting with spirit guides isn’t reserved for the gifted; it’s something every single one of us can do. Talking with her feels like being handed a secret key to a whole new world, one where guidance shows up in the middle of everyday chaos, not just in moments of perfect stillness. MaryAnn shares her own journey of learning to trust her intuition and explains how our guides, angels, and loved ones work together to support us. We dive into why so many of us feel blocked, how to tell the difference between our own thoughts and true guidance, and what happens when we finally stop forcing and start trusting the path that’s meant for us. Here’s a sneak peek… The difference between guides, angels, and loved ones on the other side Why guidance often sounds like your own voice How to know when it’s intuition speaking or just fear What to do when life feels stuck or off-track How your guides can help you manifest what you want Ways to reconnect with loved ones who have passed The surprising role your guides play in healing old wounds Why you don’t need to be psychic to receive powerful guidance If this episode resonates with you, I invite you to explore more of what MaryAnn DiMarco has to offer at maryanndimarco.com You can follow her journey on Instagram and Facebook, and if you’re feeling called, pick up one of her books or preorder her newest one, The Guide(s). If you’ve had a sign, a spiritual moment, or something meaningful you'd like to share, I’d truly love to hear from you. Feel free to reach out at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.And if you're navigating loss, take a look at the Good Grief Course. It’s a gentle, structured path through grief designed to help you move forward while still honoring your connection. You don’t have to do this alone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    54 分
  • How to Break Free from Inhibitions & Open Up About Your Desires

    How to Break Free from Inhibitions & Open Up About Your Desires
    2025/09/17
    Have you ever felt too shy or embarrassed to talk about your sexual needs, even with a partner you trust? This episode might be for you! In today’s Language of Love Session, I’m answering a question from a listener who’s struggling to open up about her desires and fantasies. Maybe you received messages growing up about what’s “appropriate” or things you witnessed that made you feel ashamed of your desires… I’ll walk you through how to start untangling those beliefs and embrace your sexuality with confidence. I also talk about how to communicate your sexual needs with your partner, even when it feels awkward or cringey. It’s all about creating a safe space to have that conversation, and I’ll give you some tips on how to open up without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. In this session, we’ll cover: Why sexual inhibitions often come from external sources, not you How to identify and release shame-based beliefs around sex How to start the conversation with your partner about trying new things in the bedroom How to communicate your desires in a positive, low-pressure way You deserve to have the sex life you want, free of shame and judgment. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, learning how to talk about what you want and exploring your desires is key to a fulfilling, beautiful sex life. If you have a question or want to share your story, I’d love to hear from you. You can always email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and I’m here to support you as you learn how to love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    10 分
  • What to Do When You Love Your Partner But Don’t Feel Turned On

    What to Do When You Love Your Partner But Don’t Feel Turned On
    2025/09/15
    Like it or not, attraction can dim even in the brightest, most loving relationships. Maybe you're loyal. Maybe you care deeply. Maybe you've built a life together. But that spark? It flickers. And when it does, you're left with questions, guilt, maybe even shame. It’s heavy, confusing, and painfully human. In this Language of Love Bite, I break the silence around why you may not feel attracted to your partner anymore and guide you back to the root of your own erotic energy. Because when desire fades, it’s not a sign of failure… It’s a call to deeper awareness and reconnection. We explore the four core reasons attraction fades and why this doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. And I also guide you through a gentle, powerful embodiment practice called the Pleasure Mirror Practice, a ritual designed to help you reconnect with your own sensuality, aliveness, and desire, from the inside out. Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode: Why attraction naturally ebbs and flows in long-term love What unspoken resentment does to desire How safety and routine can dull erotic energy What happens when you disconnect from your own sensuality How nervous system trauma or stress can suppress arousal How to do the Pleasure Mirror Practice to reignite your erotic energy If you want support with intimacy, sexual connection, or rediscovering your own sensual fire, check out my free Quantum Sex course on my website, and my book Sex Magic. Because true attraction isn’t something you lose, it’s something you learn to consciously recreate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    7 分