Read the full episode breakdown + show notes:https://www.theselftrustcoach.com/blog/ep190-knowing-it-vs-living-itHe could teach self-trust before he was actually living it.

Dr. Ken Martz is a licensed psychologist with more than 30 years in mental health and addiction treatment, and the author of the international bestseller Manage My Emotions.

This episode traces his path from a panic attack in a post office line, to a hospital gown, to building the Unshakeable series for high-performing men moving from anxious to unshakeable.

It's about the gap between understanding something intellectually and actually choosing to live it, and why closing that gap is a relationship shift, not a strategy shift.In This Episode, We Explore:

• Knowing vs. Living: why understanding a concept, even well enough to teach it, isn't the same as choosing it
• Internal Metrics vs. External Metrics: the shift from tracking revenue and perception to tracking laughter, gratitude, and authentic presence
• The Backpack of Micro Wounds: how small, unregulated stressors accumulate for years until a single moment forces a reckoning
• No Hospital Moment Required: why the body can change gears in seconds once it's actually invited to
• A Relationship Shift, Not a Strategy Shift: why the work underneath performance anxiety is a relationship with yourself

Episode Chapters:00:00 Welcome and today's theme01:22 The exam story and chasing an undefined perfect05:15 The post office moment and the hospital gown09:00 Why capable people dismiss burnout as a capacity problem15:40 Outsourcing your worth to other people's perceptions20:15 Internal metrics versus external metrics26:30 What clients try first, and why it doesn't work34:15 Advice for the high performer who recognizes this

Connect with Dr. Ken Martz:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.kenmartz/Website: https://drkenmartz.comAdditional resource: Author of Manage My Emotions, creator of the Unshakeable Men series and Unshakeable Prime, Leadership, and Relationships programsJoin the Conversation:This one is for the high performer who can explain exactly what needs to shift, sometimes for other people, and still finds themselves living the opposite of it. If that gap feels familiar, this conversation is for you.Where Are You Standing?Before more strategy, motivation, or effort, know where you're standing in relation to your Floor, the foundation you're building your business from.The free assessment takes three minutes and shows you where your Floor is firm, where it may still be moving with your results, and where to work next.Know where you're standing. Then know where to work.https://www.theselftrustcoach.com/identity-assessment-pageReady to Fix the Floor in place?The Floor: Your Build is a self-paced, structured experience designed to help you build from a Floor that holds, so you can keep uncovering the How without reopening the Whether of what you've already decided is possible.https://www.theselftrustcoach.com/the-floor-your-build