I'd love to hear from you! Text me

Do you doubt your worth?

If you have been tying to convince yourself of a truth and it just doesn’t seem to be working it might be because you need to start with your heart instead of your head.

Thoughts and emotions are closely connected. Unlike much of what I read on the internet I believe emotions create thoughts, not the other way around.

An event happens and you automatically have emotions.

Then you create thoughts about your experience. This happens so fast and subconsciously that it seems like they are automatic, too. They aren’t. You choose what you think. If you didn’t believe that then you wouldn’t be trying to change your thinking.

Listen to this week’s podcast to hear how this showed up in a client’s life in regards to pricing a new tool they were creating and how meeting the heart need quickly shifted her thought process.

00:00 Doubting Your Offer

01:12 A Heart Level Block

01:50 Gods Perspective Shift

02:36 Why Mindset Alone Fails

04:02 Heart Doodling Method

05:33 Tracing Doubt to Childhood

07:21 How Emotions Create Beliefs

10:53 Healing the Root Memory

12:59 What Makes My Work Different

13:54 Invitation and Closing

I'd love to connect with you!

• Find community in Healing Generations
• Learn how God communicates with you in Transformational Quiet Times

I'd love to hear from you! Text me

Emotional maturity is key to your spiritual growth. That’s why I start with the heart and the skills for emotional maturity when pursuing spiritual growth. It takes emotional maturity to carry out the spiritual instruction in the Bible.

For example, when you read a passage like James 1:19, 20 about being slow to anger you might think or have been told that you need to be more spiritual to do that. You don’t need to be more spiritual you need to be emotionally mature.

Understand this, my beloved brothers and sisters. Let everyone be quick to hear [be a careful, thoughtful listener], slow to speak [a speaker of carefully chosen words and], slow to anger [patient, reflective, forgiving]; for the [resentful, deep-seated] anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God [that standard of behavior which He requires from us]. James 1:19,20 Amplified Bible

Being a careful listener when someone is confronting you or questioning a decision takes emotional maturity to listen without taking anything personally or without defending yourself. You need emotional maturity to listen and form a response rather than reacting to what is said.

It also takes emotional maturity to see when you feel like reacting so you can bring that place in you that wants to react to the Lord for healing or correction.

Seeing something from someone else’s point of view requires emotional maturity.
"Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn" (Romans 12:15)

"Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you" (Ephesians 4:32).

It requires emotional maturity to not need people to understand you or to not need people to be like you, to be able to love them. To not take it personally if they don't understand what you're saying. To be able to be curious and be able to stay in conversations until there can be understanding of why they think the way they do, to see whether that's because they haven't been in the kingdom very long or because they've been taught wrong or life experiences or whatever it is.

Being able to have those conversations and sit with disagreements and differences requires emotional maturity as well as spiritual maturity.

It also takes emotional maturity to understand when you're feeling your own emotions versus someone else's or when you're trying to manage something for someone else versus being mature and responsible for yourself.

It takes that emotional maturity to let someone around you be sad or be angry to feel however they feel instead of needing them to feel a certain way for you to be okay.

It takes emotional maturity to see what's yours and what someone else's. If you're feeling sad or overwhelmed or scared or whatever, having the emotional maturity to practice discernment to see is this mine? Is this current, or is it feeling what someone else is feeling? Is it a spirit? Is it something from the past? Having that emotional maturity then allows you to ask the Lord for spiritual insight of why you are responding the way you are.

I talk about all this in more depth in this week’s podcast.

00:00 Why Emotions Matter
00:38 Slow to Anger Skills
02:15 Empathy in Romans 12
02:53 Compassionate Perspective
03:51 Safe Conversations
05:15 Discern Your Emotions
07:38 Faith Culture and Feelings
09:13 Childhood Roles Reversed
11:52 Unlearning Neglect Messages
14:46 Grace for Your Parents
1

I'd love to connect with you!

• Find community in Healing Generations
• Learn how God communicates with you in Transformational Quiet Times

I'd love to hear from you! Text me

Boundaries aren’t impatience.

They don’t mean you are not being loving.

Boundaries are about what you will do, not getting someone else to do what you want them to do.

If you’re like me the idea of boundaries sounds freeing and empowering - right up to the point you try to put them in place. It took me years to understand how to state what I needed and what I was going to do rather than trying to control the outcome of someone else’s choices.

If you grew up without healthy boundaries it can be tricky to change your thinking and put them into practice.

You’re right, though. They are empowering and create freedom. It is worth figuring out how to use them properly.

To see how boundaries do and do not come into this situation listen to today’s episode.

Podcast Chapters

00:00 Boundaries Defined

00:14 Facebook Post Example

01:28 Contract vs Ultimatum

02:43 Gods Loving Boundaries

03:59 Learning Healthy Boundaries

05:06 Scissors Stewardship Lesson

06:55 Car Borrowing Boundary

09:50 Freedom Fear and Control

11:39 Access Points and Limits

13:09 Self Worth and Creator

14:18 Invitation and Closing

I'd love to connect with you!

• Find community in Healing Generations
• Learn how God communicates with you in Transformational Quiet Times

I'd love to hear from you! Text me

You know the times you look back and wonder why your reaction to an event was over the top. This happens when the current event reminds you of a past event or events that felt the same way. The emotions from the past have not felt heard, the needs have not been met.

When something happens that feels the same the old emotions try again to be heard and so you are overreacting.

It creates a shame strom. Shame storms are not fun. They can be survived and even disarmed with practice.

00:00 When Reassurance Hurts
00:42 Inside a Shame Storm
01:38 Learning to Quiet Shame
02:03 Facing the Storm Safely
02:46 Sorting Thoughts and Lies
04:08 Emotions Past and Present
05:30 Your Reaction Is a Clue
06:25 Comforting Soul With Truth
07:36 Tools to Move Forward
07:57 Invitation and Next Steps

I'd love to connect with you!

• Find community in Healing Generations
• Learn how God communicates with you in Transformational Quiet Times

I'd love to hear from you! Text me

Are You Settling for Manna? Leaving the Wilderness for Your Promised Land

I want to share a challenge with you. Are “settling for manna” by staying in the comfort of the wilderness instead of moving into the Promised Land?
The Promise Land includes battles, giants, and the work of taking territory.
I have personal seasons of deliverance followed by temptation to camp in comfort rather than fight the remaining battles with the Lord’s strength. I want to keep a Joshua-and-Caleb mindset of faith and forward movement.
A key thing for moving into the Promise land is a supportive community to help establish God’s rule in your mind and soul, resist doubt and confusion, and take ground for future generations.

00:00 Are You Settling
01:17 Promised Land Reality
03:00 From Slavery to Manna
05:27 Spies and Giants
09:55 Wilderness Comfort Trap
11:32 Offense and Authority
12:37 Caleb Mindset Shift
15:27 Community and Inner Territory
18:04 Generational Freedom
19:01 Invitation and Next Steps

I'd love to connect with you!

• Find community in Healing Generations
• Learn how God communicates with you in Transformational Quiet Times

I'd love to hear from you! Text me

Schedule your complimentary 1:1

Having a "should list" feels terrible, and it’s ineffective

I printed my should list and processed it with the Lord. That looked like asking Him questions and seeing what He highlighted to me - if you care to watch, here’s a link to the unedited video of me processing live.

In the process, I saw that more than half of the items contained "more" or "better" and carried condemnation. Yuck!

When I saw how much condemnation there was, I decided to do a Heart Doodle with Jesus, asking, “If I put the way I feel in a picture, what would that look like?” The picture was trying to hit an archery target that was too far away and moving.

God gently spoke, “Undefined is not kind.”

The actions the Lord told me to take out of this process were:

1. Count my steps - every movement in the right direction counts and deserves to be noticed.
2. Evaluate each “should”. Is it a real need or a want? Can you trash it?
3. If it is a need or want, define what it looks like and the steps to complete it.

God doesn’t have a “should list”, only invitations to trust and experience Him.

00:00 Why Should Lists Hurt

00:15 30 Shoulds and Shame

01:59 Heart Doodling Process

03:14 Do More Do Better Trap

04:45 Archery Target Metaphor

06:32 God Has Invitations

07:14 Sorting the 30 Items

09:41 Three Steps Forward

11:30 Define Needs and Wants

13:03 Next Steps and Support

I'd love to connect with you!

• Find community in Healing Generations
• Learn how God communicates with you in Transformational Quiet Times

I'd love to hear from you! Text me

Schedule a Complimentary 1:1 mukkove.link/schedule

“God expects me to keep everyone happy.”

He doesn’t, but part of you might feel like He does. While your feelings matter, they shouldn’t lead you through life.

God doesn’t demand perfection because He knows that’s impossible. Jesus was perfect, so you don’t have to be.

00:00 Perfectionism Loop

01:07 Heart Doodling Practice

01:41 Questioning People Pleasing

02:24 Truth About God

03:32 Needs And Boundaries

04:14 Spotting Enemy Accusations

06:18 Feelings Versus Reality

08:32 Comforting Inner Child

10:38 Pleasing Is Not Loving

12:08 Parts And Trauma Explained

14:08 Compassion And Resourcing

15:25 Coaching Invitation

mukkove.link/schedule

I'd love to connect with you!

• Find community in Healing Generations
• Learn how God communicates with you in Transformational Quiet Times

I'd love to hear from you! Text me

 Did God really say? The devil has been asking that same question for all of human history. Did God really say whatever you feel like you heard him say, this is the ultimate battle to hear God and hold tightly to what he said. Eve saw fruit in the garden and it looked good to eat. And then she forgot exactly what God had said and made the wrong choice.

When the serpent came and said, did God really say what Eve quoted back to him wasn't exactly what God said, it was enough off that the enemy was able to convince her to eat the fruit and make the wrong choice. And unfortunately, I do the same thing. If we haven't met yet, I am Mukkove Johnson and I teach Christian women to hear God's voice, to discern what he's saying and to heal the parts that don't always agree with him, and live the abundant life that Jesus called you to.

00:00 Did God Really Say
00:57 Meet the Creator
01:39 Why We Doubt
02:18 Ministry Story Lesson
03:02 Refocus on God Said
04:00 Build a Battle Plan
04:21 Workshop Invitation
04:38 Next Steps and Wrap

I'd love to connect with you!

• Find community in Healing Generations
• Learn how God communicates with you in Transformational Quiet Times