Ever feel like you need to sprint finish the year perfectly? Clear every inbox, tick every box, wrap everything up with a bow before January 1st?

Stop. You're killing yourself for things that won't matter in February.

In this week's Kiki, I'm talking about why that perfect finish is a myth, how to actually prioritize what matters, and why starting 2026 exhausted is the worst thing you can do.

We're also chatting about the Christmas Quiz coming up, the massive action day we just had, and what's happening with check-ins over the holidays.

If you're running on fumes trying to get everything done before Christmas, this one's for you.

Fresh from Manchester ahead of GMC's biggest Massive Action Day yet, Keegan gets real about why investing in your wellbeing isn't optional. Is 10% of your income too much to spend on your health? Keegan argues it's an absolute steal when you consider the foundation your wellbeing provides for everything else in your life: your career, relationships, confidence, and how you show up in the world.

This week's episode covers the hidden benefits GMC members discover (spoiler: it's not just about looking good), why clarity kills confusion faster than motivation ever will, and the brutal truth about waiting until January 1st to start. Plus, details on GMC's final intake of 2025 before prices increase in the new year.

Stop tossing off December and start 2026 the way you want to continue. Because if you finish 2025 like a slob, you'll start 2026 like one too.

You can't feel part of a village if you're standing at the edge waiting for someone to invite you in.

Everyone says they want community. They want connection. They want to feel less lonely. But too many people act like outsiders looking in. They consume, compare, and judge, but they don't contribute.

In this episode, I'm breaking down why so many people feel isolated and what you need to do about it:

• Why belonging doesn't come from being accepted (it comes from investing)
• How resilience isn't built alone, it's built through connection
• Why hyper-independence is keeping you stuck, not making you strong
• The modern trap of individualism that's replaced participation
• What it actually means to "behave like a villager"
• Why you can't build self-esteem in isolation

This might ruffle some feathers. I don't care. It's a hill I'm willing to die on.

If you're sat having conversations with AI and moaning about not feeling connected, that's a you problem. You live in a time where people are more connected than ever. If you're not using that to your advantage, that's on you.

Show up. Contribute. Drop the mask. Stick it out through discomfort.

You're only as strong as the people you let close enough to support you.

Most people don't actually want to change their life. They want to talk about it, plan it, and complain about not doing it. But they won't take action because change is uncomfortable.

In this week's episode, I'm getting real about why so many people stay stuck. We're covering:

• Why consuming endless content keeps you trapped in the same place
• The mental gymnastics we do to avoid discomfort
• How your identity is the hand that guides everything you do
• The three things that make up your identity (and how to change them)
• Why "I'm not motivated" is actually "I don't want to be uncomfortable"
• Questions to ask yourself if you're serious about changing

This isn't a gentle pep talk. This is the truth you need to hear if you're fed up of being in the same place six months from now.

You either find a reason to avoid it or you find a way to do it. Those are your two options.

Also in this episode: details about our free Elevation event on November 29th (1pm-4pm UK time). Three hours that could genuinely change your life. No replays. Either you carve out the time for yourself or you don't.

Want to attend Elevation? Click here to grab a free ticket

Stop planning. Stop consuming. Start doing.

I did a photo shoot this week for the new podcast with Joel. Fen's back at the vet with an infection. Kitchen renovation starts next week. And I've noticed I've got way too many open loops right now, which is why I'm feeling more anxious than usual. Open loops are unfinished business, things you're waiting on, uncertainties piling up. The more you have, the more overwhelmed you'll feel.

But this week, I'm introducing something I'm really excited about: Tough Love Tuesdays. Not the nicey-nice stuff people want to hear. The stuff we actually need to hear. The stuff we avoid.

So here are five bits of tough love that have helped me and my clients over the years:

• Most people don't actually want to change (they just want to moan about being stuck)
• Saying is not doing (show me your calendar and I'll show you your priorities)
• Stop rationalising your excuses (it's not "just one day" if it happens every week)
• You're making your own life harder with the stories you tell yourself (what you say about you, you become)
• Change is a choice (and what you're not changing, you're choosing)

This isn't about perfection. 80% on plan, 80% of the time will get you results above 99% of the population. But if you're not willing to look at these truths head on, no one can help you. Because until you're willing to change and go through the discomfort of that, you're just talking.

If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's usually a duck. These truths are more relevant in 2025 than ever.

Follow for weekly real talk that'll actually help you change, not just feel good for five minutes.

I just spent more money than I've ever spent in my life on renovating my kitchen. And honestly? I've been absolutely riddled with doubts about it. Can I afford this? Is it worth it? Am I making a massive mistake?

But here's what I've realized: doubt isn't a red flag telling you to stop. It's actually proof that you're doing something you've never done before. You're growing. You're changing. You're stepping into new territory.

In this episode, I'm getting real about the doubts I've been having lately. House renovations, GMC expanding with the Edinburgh multi-day event, new coaches joining the team, my MRI coming up, potentially doing the London Marathon. All of it comes with doubt. And I've learned that the times in my life when I felt the most certain were actually the times I wasn't growing at all.

We cover:

• Why doubt is actually a sign you're ready (not that you're not)
• The danger of staying comfortable just because it's familiar
• Why you can't solve your problems with your current level of thinking
• Kill the monsters when they're small (before they get bigger)
• How speed of decision-making beats perfect information
• The difference between leaning into discomfort vs running from it
• Why you don't need a reset, you just need to do

If you've been putting something off because you're not "ready" yet, this one's for you. Spoiler: the doubt you're feeling is exactly why you need to move forward, not backwards.

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Life's been chaos lately. Kitchen renovations, reupholstering sofas, kids' football, piano lessons restarting... everything happening at once. And here's what I've learned: this IS what change looks like in real time. It's messy, it's uncomfortable, and it's not the straight line we're sold.

In this episode, I'm sharing a conversation I had with one of my mentors, Phil, that completely shifted how I think about growth. We broke it down into two states: contraction (making space, pruning, letting go) and expansion (building, growing, taking up space). Both are necessary. Both are uncomfortable. And we cycle through them repeatedly in different areas of life.

I walk you through the four phases of growth: ignition, elevation, expansion, and integration. Think of it like a spring or coil going upward, not a circle bringing you back to square one. You're not regressing, you're renewing at a higher level.

We cover:

• Why change feels chaotic (and why that's completely normal)
• The difference between contraction and expansion seasons
• The four-phase cycle of real growth
• Why "waiting for a reset" is keeping you stuck
• How to recognize which phase you're in right now

If you've ever felt like you're starting over again, this one's for you. Spoiler: you're not back at square one. You've just leveled up to the next phase of the same game.

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Welcome to the very first Kiki with Keegs! This is something I've been doing for my Gay Man's Coaching clients for years, and now I'm bringing these authentic conversations on personal development to everyone.

In this episode, I'm talking about why good people stay stuck. You know the type: they say they want to change, they're always "working on themselves," but nothing actually shifts. Spoiler alert: it's not because they're lazy.

I share what's going on in my world (kitchen renovations and commitment fears, anyone?), then dive into a conversation I had with Jon, our GMC psychotherapist, about the real reason people don't make progress. Here's the truth: most people confuse doing something with doing the RIGHT thing.

We cover:

• Why risk avoidance keeps you spinning your wheels
• The difference between taking action and taking the right action
• How people kid themselves into thinking they're making progress
• Why having a coach (or a gym membership, or a journal) isn't the same as actually doing the work

This is real talk about life coaching, personal growth, and why the work matters more than the tools. If you're tired of being stuck, this one's for you.

Follow along for weekly episodes on personal development, gay lifestyle, authentic conversations, and the messy reality of building a life you're proud of.