Links I've mentioned in the podcast below.

1. What Is Harmful Sexual Behaviour?

NSPCC Learning – https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/child-abuse-and-neglect/harmful-sexual-behaviour

CSA Centre – https://www.csacentre.org.uk/resources/key-messages/harmful-sexual-behaviour/

Lucy Faithfull Foundation - https://www.lucyfaithfull.org.uk/harmful-sexual-behaviour.htm

2. The Continuum of Sexual Behaviours

NSPCC – https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/media/2522/harmful-sexual-behaviour-framework.pdf

Hackett’s Continuum (via ICMEC Guide) - https://www.icmec.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/Hackett-Continuum.pdf

Queensland Health – https://www.childrens.health.qld.gov.au/wp-content/uploads/PDF/hsc-sexual-behaviours-traffic-light-guide.pdf

3. 🧒 Age-Appropriate Sexual Behaviour

Stop It Now – https://www.stopitnow.org.uk/concerned-about-a-childs-sexual-behaviour/

HealthyChildren.org – https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/preschool/Pages/Sexual-Behavior-in-Young-Children.aspx

Raising Children Network – https://raisingchildren.net.au/guides/a-z-health-reference/sexual-behaviour-children

4. 🚨 When to Be Concerned

NSPCC – https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/research-resources/leaflets/harmful-sexual-behaviour

NCSBY Fact Sheet - https://www.ncsby.org/sites/default/files/Problematic_Sexual_Behavior_Fact_Sheet.pdf

PCAR – https://www.pcar.org/sites/default/files/pages-pdf/Understanding_Childrens_Sexual_Behavior.pdf

5. 🛠️ Responding to HSB

NSPCC – https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/child-abuse-and-neglect/harmful-sexual-behaviour/responding-to-hsb

Lucy Faithfull Foundation – https://www.lucyfaithfull.org.uk/advice-for-professionals.htm

In this episode, we explore a difficult but essential topic: harmful sexual behaviour (HSB) among minors.

Using real-world examples, expert-backed definitions, and resources from trusted organisations (like the Lucy Faithful Foundation, NSPCC, and the Centre of Expertise on CSA), we break down:

- What HSB actually is

- The traffic light continuum: green, amber, red behaviours

- Age-appropriate vs. concerning behaviour

- Red flags to look out for

- How to respond – as a parent or professional

Whether you're a teacher, social worker, or parent, this episode will help you better understand HSB, avoid panic, and respond with confidence, calm, and care.

Watch/listen and learn how to assess situations and take action that protects children — not punishes them.

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A new study found that 1 in 6 men admit feeling sexual attraction to children — including teenagers under the age of 18.

In this episode, I break down the findings, challenge the stereotypes about who offenders are, and explore what this means for how we protect children and teens today.

Too often, we imagine offenders as “creepy strangers” or people we’d spot a mile off. But the reality is more complex — and more uncomfortable. If we don’t understand that, we can’t keep children safe.

This episode isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness. It’s about honesty. And it’s about pushing this conversation out of the shadows and into the light.

Watch. Share. Discuss.

Your comments, likes, and shares help push this content into more people’s feeds — and right now, this topic is being buried.

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Links to the website and research document that I review in this episode.

Website - https://theconversation.com/a-survey-found-1-in-6-men-admit-sexual-feelings-for-children-so-is-paedophilia-increasing-218124

Research document - https://www.humanrights.unsw.edu.au/sites/default/files/documents/Identifying%20and%20understanding%20child%20sexual%20offending%20behaviour%20and%20attitudes%20among%20Australian%20men.pdf

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This was a big moment for me.

It was the first time I’d ever been invited to speak to Year 5 students—children just 9 and 10 years old. And I won’t lie… I was nervous.

This session is about body safety, the importance of speaking up, and how to recognise when something doesn’t feel right. I speak honestly, but gently—because young children deserve to be informed and protected without being overwhelmed.

This isn’t just a lesson—it’s the conversation I wish someone had with me at that age.

👉 If you're a parent, teacher or professional working with children, I hope this gives you ideas and confidence to keep these conversations going.

📌 Topics covered:

- Body boundaries and personal space

- The difference between safe and unsafe touch

- Secrets vs surprises

- Why trust and speaking up matters

📺 Prefer to watch with visuals?

This video includes slides and graphics designed to help young children understand and stay engaged.

▶️ Watch on desktop or full screen for the best experience.

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In this episode, Jeremy speaks with Anna Sonoda, author of Duck Duck Groom, about how grooming works and how adults—not children—must be empowered to recognize and interrupt it. Drawing from her experience working with sexual offenders, Anna explains the four stages of grooming—flattery, favoritism, forbidden fruits, and fear—and emphasizes that grooming is intentional, gradual, and observable. The conversation focuses on the need for adult education, strong communication with children, and community-wide action to prevent abuse before it happens.

Anna's bio.

Anna Sonoda, an Emory University graduate with degrees in Anthropology and French Studies, earned her Master’s in Social Work from the University of Georgia in 2006 and became a licensed clinician in 2009. With experience counseling sexual offenders, working in mental health settings, and providing anger management and domestic violence treatment, she developed a deep understanding of grooming behaviors. This led her to write Duck Duck Groom: Understanding How a Child Becomes a Target (2022) and Duck Duck Groom: A Guided Journal, offering resources for prevention and survivor healing.

Anna's links.

Website: https://annasonoda.com

Book: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B0BYK4LV4Q

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Website: https://jeremyindika.com

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To book me for your school - https://jeremyindika.com/speaker-event/

Many will disagree with me doing this.

But with so many schools saying they’re worried to bring me in to speak to teachers because of what I might say or how far I might push the boundaries, I’ve decided to post a full recording online, so everyone can see exactly what I’m doing.

This comes with a risk (potentially) because now schools can watch it online instead of booking me.

But, everyone knows that this should be done in person because of the audience interaction and participation that I generate and I have faith that the schools see that too.

Below are my links

Website: https://jeremyindika.com

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“If you liked it at the time, then you can’t grow into an adult and change your mind when you look back at it” - is what I’ve seen many sections of society say.

And they’re not shy. They comment on my posts from time to time.

Their view (from what I’ve seen) is that if a teenager flirts and involves themselves at the time, then they know what they’re doing and can’t label it as abusive and exploitative when they’re older.

This is a massive misunderstanding and I explain why as I review Leila’s brave story in my podcast.

This is very important, links below.

Original video: https://youtu.be/PLARjisxolI?si=waOJAwvS1QmkbqCi

Please support us over at @somethingtosayofficial with running costs at - https://jeremyindika.com/donate/

To connect with Leila and buy her book;

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leilalala07/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/leila.ives

Book: https://amzn.eu/d/jcCEq8e

Something to Say links

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Below are my links

Website: https://jeremyindika.com

Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast

Something to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.com

To support

Merchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.com

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSay

Donate: https://jeremyindika.com/donate/

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Do you think you’d be able to tell if your partner was living a double life behind closed doors?

Imagine what this woman is going through once she finds her partner’s illegal hard drive with 600 photos and videos of children.

Links as promised below,

1. 40-year old man arranges to meet 14-year old girl - https://youtu.be/3PqvA2JjkCo?si=IyaG8BSJ1lGsVtR8

2. Huw Edwards had 7-year olds on his phone and escaped jail - https://youtu.be/0OYYVaj5uAg?si=IRtw8cjqnacMgaZ3

3. Rosie Nelson Survive and Thrive CIC, unfortunately I couldn't find the charity that she founded.

Original video - https://youtu.be/rOUQKB1Lyfg?si=0nnVeVfoul0Ark-X

Below are my links

Website: https://jeremyindika.com

Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast

Something to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.com

To support

Merchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.com

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSay

Donate: https://jeremyindika.com/donate/

Social media

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyindika/

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Something to Say links

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To watch the live recording of my school talk - https://youtu.be/eAdkKhtyYkY

To find Rachel Carey,

Rachel is passionate about developing strong mental health in young people and assists school in developing well-being programs that not only meet the statutory outcomes for RSHE but also help young people to understand and develop their own mental health, resilience, and self-worth.

Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-carey-462569140

Website: https://elizaeducation.com

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"It will never be good enough" - You may worry that this attitude means happiness can never be achieved, but that’s fine because happiness is not the aim with this.

What you’re about to watch are two people dissecting my school talk in detail. Critiquing it and finding the ways for further improvement, with the overall goal of steering teenagers away from feeling hopeless after sexual trauma.

Please come and get involved in this. The more opinions we collect, the better.

Today’s generation appreciate us adults taking action around this.

Below are my links

Website: https://jeremyindika.com

Podcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast

Something to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.com

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Merchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.com

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