This episode works best on my YouTube channel, where you can watch the full talk with the visuals that support it. You can watch it here: https://youtu.be/kRIYbwE04As

This is the full recording of my talk at a conference, where I tried to explain this subject in a different way.

In this presentation, I explore the sexual abuse and exploitation of children and teenagers, both in person and online, and I focus heavily on one challenge that has driven so much of my work over the last decade: how do we communicate this subject in a way that people can truly understand?

Throughout the talk, I break down difficult concepts around grooming, secrecy, silence, manipulation, and disclosure. I also share parts of my own story and explain why I believe we need better conversations in schools, homes, and organisations if we are serious about prevention and early intervention.

This talk includes three questions that many people will find uncomfortable, but I ask them for a reason. My goal is not to shock. My goal is to help people think more deeply, speak more openly, and feel more confident beginning conversations that too often never happen.

Topics covered include:

- child sexual abuse and exploitation

- grooming in person and online

- why children and teenagers may not speak up

- the difference between pre-pubescent children and post-pubescent teenagers

- how schools, parents, and professionals can create safer environments

- why better communication is central to prevention

Please take care while listening. Some parts of this talk may be difficult to hear.

If something in this episode stands out to you, I encourage you to use it to begin a conversation with someone else. That is one of the main aims of my work.

More about the charity who held the event where this was recorded:

Kaleidoscopic are a charitable organisation of survivors for survivors of domestic abuse in ALL its forms. We are based in the Thames Valley and provide support services throughout England and Wales.

Kaleidoscopic UK’s objectives are: The relief of need and the promotion of good health for children and adults in England and Wales who have been subjected to or exposed to domestic abuse through survivor-led support services and by educating and informing voluntary and statutory services, as well as the public at large, about all forms of domestic abuse and its harmful effects.

For more infomation: https://www.kaleidoscopic.uk/

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In this episode, I speak with Danny, a 73-year-old who spent eight years working as an online child decoy as part of an activist team. He explains how these teams operate, how they gather evidence, how cases are passed to police, and what the process can look like from first message to court.

We talk about:

- how quickly adults can approach a decoy profile online

- the roles inside these teams (decoying, vetting, research, tracking, meet teams)

- why teams say they are not “vigilantes” and how they view their role

- training standards, screening, and why not everyone is suited to the work

- live-streaming stings, the criticism around it, and the arguments for “awareness”

- sentencing, delays, and what can happen after evidence is submitted

- the responsibility of tech companies and what meaningful change could look like

This conversation is direct, honest, and focused on helping people understand what’s happening online and why these teams exist.

If you found this useful, subscribe for more long-form conversations on safeguarding, online harm, prevention, and the realities behind the headlines.Below are my links

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In this episode, I review an interview with a retired child abuse investigation detective who spent nine years working on some of the most difficult cases in policing.

Rather than focusing on graphic detail, this conversation is about reflection — what this work does to you, what it teaches you about trauma, and how complex child abuse investigations really are. It also raises an important question: when systems fail, is it down to bad officers, or a broken system that is underfunded, overloaded, and stretched beyond its limits?

I know many people have had terrible experiences with the police, and those experiences matter.

This episode isn’t about dismissing harm or defending institutions. It’s about trying to understand the reality of a role that involves daily exposure to trauma, limited resources, and enormous responsibility.

The aim is to encourage more informed conversations about prevention, support, and change — and to better understand what people in these roles see, feel, and carry with them long after the job ends.

This episode may be of interest to parents, educators, professionals, and anyone trying to better understand safeguarding, trauma, and the challenges faced by those working in child abuse investigations.

If you have thoughts on this topic, I encourage you to share them in the comments.

The aim is to encourage more informed conversations about prevention, support, and change — and to better understand what people in these roles see, feel, and carry with them long after the job ends.

This episode may be of interest to parents, educators, professionals, and anyone trying to better understand safeguarding, trauma, and the challenges faced by those working in child abuse investigations.

If you have thoughts on this topic, I encourage you to share them in the comments.

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Website: https://jeremyindika.com

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Something to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.com

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