In this episode, J and I unpack what rescue parenting really is, how to recognize when you’re doing it, and how to start shifting from rescuing to regulating — so your child learns strength through connection, not dependency.

It’s often rooted in our own nervous system ... that deep, protective part of us that remembers what it felt like to be alone, scared, or unsupported. So we overcompensate. We rush to rescue. We forget that our children build resilience through doing hard things, not through us preventing them.

True safety isn’t built through rescue ... it’s built through relationship.
Through sitting beside, not stepping in front of.
Through saying, “I trust you can handle this,” and meaning it.

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In this episode, Courtney and J open up an honest and compassionate conversation about one of the most painful yet unspoken experiences families face today: parental estrangement.

Together, we’ll explore why this is happening more frequently, what’s really going on beneath the surface, and how both parents and adult children can begin to understand — and possibly heal — the rupture.

You’ll learn:

• The emotional and nervous system roots of estrangement

• Why “rejection” isn’t always rejection — sometimes it’s self-protection

• The hidden patterns that keep families stuck in pain cycles

• How parents can start doing their inner work to rebuild safety and trust

• What adult children need (but often don’t know how to ask for)

This episode isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness, accountability, and the courage to heal what’s been generations in the making.

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The Power of Pause: Why Slowing Down Speeds You Up

In our always-on, hyper-connected world, the simple act of pausing has become almost revolutionary. This episode explores the transformative benefits of intentionally creating space in your day, your conversations, and your decision-making.

Discover how strategic pauses can sharpen your focus, reduce stress, and unlock deeper creativity. We'll dive into the science behind why our brains need regular breaks to process information and consolidate learning, and why the most productive people aren't the ones who never stop moving.

Learn practical ways to integrate meaningful pauses into your routine—from the micro-moments between tasks to longer periods of rest and reflection. Whether you're facing a difficult decision, navigating a tense conversation, or simply feeling overwhelmed by the pace of life, the pause might be your most underrated tool.

We'll also explore how pausing creates space for emotional regulation, improves the quality of your responses, and helps you move from reactive to intentional living. It's not about doing less—it's about creating the mental clarity to do what matters most.

Ready to discover what happens when you stop rushing and start pausing? Tune in.

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We talk a lot about nostalgia as something sweet—warm memories, the “good old days.” But for many people, looking back isn’t comforting, it’s activating. Traumatic nostalgia is what happens when revisiting your past doesn’t just bring memories, it pulls you back into the pain, the fear, or the helplessness of what you lived through.

In this episode, I break down:

• What traumatic nostalgia really is (and how it’s different from bittersweet remembering).

• Why your mind and body can’t always tell the difference between “back then” and “right now.”

• How this shows up in everyday life—holidays, songs, childhood places, even old relationships.

• The nervous system’s role in dragging you into an old state of being.

If you’ve ever felt confused about why certain memories hurt more than they heal—or why you long for something that was actually harmful—this episode will help you name it, understand it, and start to loosen its grip.

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Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed, craving space, but instead of saying no—you overcommit, explode, or unconsciously push people away? This is the hidden face of subconscious sabotage.

In this episode, we’ll explore:

• Why saying “no” can feel threatening—even when it’s what you desperately need.

• How old conditioning, trauma responses, and fear of rejection lead us to sabotage instead of setting boundaries.

• The subtle ways sabotage shows up: irritability, withdrawal, overexplaining, or self-criticism.

• Tools to practice pausing, naming your need for space, and communicating it clearly before sabotage takes over.

This conversation is for anyone who feels trapped in the cycle of over-giving, shutting down, or unconsciously pushing people away when all you really needed was to say: I need space right now.

By the end, you’ll see that sabotage isn’t weakness—it’s a signal from your nervous system pointing toward the boundary you’ve been afraid to set.

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Do you ever feel drained from caring so much? In this episode, I dive into the hidden cost of empathy—when our natural ability to tune into others’ feelings leaves us exhausted, resentful, or even numb. This isn’t about a lack of compassion; it’s about what happens when we carry the weight of everyone else’s emotions without knowing how to set boundaries or refill our own cup.

Right now, in light of everything we’re witnessing as a society, empathy fatigue may be something you’re experiencing without even realizing it. The constant exposure to others’ pain—whether through the news, social media, or within our own families—can quietly wear us down.

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In this episode, I dive into Netflix’s documentary Unknown: High School Catfish and unpack the shocking story of Kendra Licari—the mother at the center of a case that blurred the lines between parent, predator, and manipulator. Together, we explore the psychology behind her actions, the ripple effects on her family and community, and what this story reveals about control, secrecy, and unresolved wounds.

I’ll break down:

• The patterns of behavior that led to her unraveling

• The emotional and relational dynamics often overlooked in true crime narratives

• Key lessons we can take away about boundaries, self-awareness, and the shadow side of parenting

This isn’t just about one woman’s actions—it’s about what happens when fear, shame, and control go unchecked. Tune in for a deeper analysis that goes beyond the headlines.

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We’re back! After two years of deep personal work—learning how to lead our own healing—we’re here again to share the journey with you. If you’ve missed us, know that we’ve missed you, too.

In this episode, we dive into what it really means to lead yourself down your own healing path. From breaking cycles of trauma to managing anxiety and navigating mental health struggles, we explore how self-leadership opens the door to true transformation.

This season is about honesty, growth, and practical tools for your healing journey. Whether you’re facing trauma recovery, struggling with anxiety, or searching for ways to reconnect with yourself, this podcast will give you support, insight, and encouragement.

mental health, healing, trauma recovery, anxiety, self-growth, emotional resilience, nervous system regulation, self-healing, personal transformation.

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