In this episode, J and I unpack what rescue parenting really is, how to recognize when you’re doing it, and how to start shifting from rescuing to regulating — so your child learns strength through connection, not dependency.

It’s often rooted in our own nervous system ... that deep, protective part of us that remembers what it felt like to be alone, scared, or unsupported. So we overcompensate. We rush to rescue. We forget that our children build resilience through doing hard things, not through us preventing them.

True safety isn’t built through rescue ... it’s built through relationship.
Through sitting beside, not stepping in front of.
Through saying, “I trust you can handle this,” and meaning it.

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In this episode, Courtney and J open up an honest and compassionate conversation about one of the most painful yet unspoken experiences families face today: parental estrangement.

Together, we’ll explore why this is happening more frequently, what’s really going on beneath the surface, and how both parents and adult children can begin to understand — and possibly heal — the rupture.

You’ll learn:

• The emotional and nervous system roots of estrangement

• Why “rejection” isn’t always rejection — sometimes it’s self-protection

• The hidden patterns that keep families stuck in pain cycles

• How parents can start doing their inner work to rebuild safety and trust

• What adult children need (but often don’t know how to ask for)

This episode isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness, accountability, and the courage to heal what’s been generations in the making.

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The Power of Pause: Why Slowing Down Speeds You Up

In our always-on, hyper-connected world, the simple act of pausing has become almost revolutionary. This episode explores the transformative benefits of intentionally creating space in your day, your conversations, and your decision-making.

Discover how strategic pauses can sharpen your focus, reduce stress, and unlock deeper creativity. We'll dive into the science behind why our brains need regular breaks to process information and consolidate learning, and why the most productive people aren't the ones who never stop moving.

Learn practical ways to integrate meaningful pauses into your routine—from the micro-moments between tasks to longer periods of rest and reflection. Whether you're facing a difficult decision, navigating a tense conversation, or simply feeling overwhelmed by the pace of life, the pause might be your most underrated tool.

We'll also explore how pausing creates space for emotional regulation, improves the quality of your responses, and helps you move from reactive to intentional living. It's not about doing less—it's about creating the mental clarity to do what matters most.

Ready to discover what happens when you stop rushing and start pausing? Tune in.

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