You gotta play to win. 🎙️❤️

This week, we’re joined by Natasha for a conversation that keeps coming back to one thing: the relationship you have with yourself.

Because before you can figure out who you want to date, what you want from a relationship, or whether someone is actually right for you… you probably need to know yourself first.

We get into why knowing and loving yourself can keep you from settling, why sometimes the best relationships start as friendships, and what it really means to find someone who fits into the life you already love.

We talk about ignoring colored flags 🚩, the idea that “there’s somebody for everybody,” why dating is a little bit like playing to win, and whether relationships are really 50/50—or whether both people need to show up with 100% to make something work.

It's another one of those conversations that goes everywhere, gets real, gets funny, and leaves us asking the bigger question:

Are you actually ready for the kind of love you're looking for?

Because maybe it's not about finding the one.

Maybe it's about becoming the version of yourself who knows exactly what—and who—is for you. ❤️

WTF Is Modern Dating? 🤦‍♂️💘

Seriously... what is going on out here?

In this episode, we're unpacking the chaos that is modern dating. From ghosting and mixed signals to situationships, dating apps, "soft launching," breadcrumbing, and all the unspoken rules nobody asked for, we're trying to make sense of a dating world that somehow gets more confusing every year.

We share our own experiences, laugh at the absurdity of it all, debate whether today's dating culture is helping or hurting us, and ask the question everyone seems to be thinking:

Has dating always been this crazy... or are we just living through the weirdest era of love?

Whether you're single, dating, happily taken, or somewhere in the "it's complicated" category, this one's for you.

Real conversations. Real opinions. Plenty of laughs.

EPISODE 16

This episode goes from horoscopes to straight-up horrorscopes real quick 😭

We sit down with our guest and get into his dating history (being in love not once, but twice, almost getting engaged, and all the chaos in between). Somewhere along the way, we start questioning if it was real love… or just the stars playing games.

We talk zodiac signs, patterns in dating, red flags we ignored, and those moments where you really have to ask yourself: are they cooking… or are they actually cooked?

It’s funny, a little unhinged, and way too relatable if you’ve ever tried to make sense of your love life through a birth chart.

🎙️ Episode 15: Red Flags, Green Flags & Everything In Between (w/ Cosze)

In this episode, we sit down with our guest Cosze and get into the messy middle of modern dating... the red flags, the green flags, and all the confusing signals in between.

Like most of our conversations, it starts one place and ends somewhere completely different. We talk dating experiences, reading people’s energy, figuring out what’s real vs what’s a warning sign, and the gray areas that make relationships so complicated.

Some people ignore red flags. Some people run at the first sign of trouble. And some of us are just trying to figure out what actually matters when you’re getting to know someone.

Real talk, random tangents, and the kind of conversation that feels like sitting around with friends trying to decode dating.

The Fun Parts of Dating (Yes, We’re Being Sarcastic)

We had a little time before the year wrapped… so of course we hit record.
This one’s off-the-whim, no outline, no filter, just us talking about the “fun” parts of dating (heavy sarcasm implied).

From mixed signals, situationships, overthinking texts, dating fatigue, and the emotional gymnastics that somehow count as modern romance, we’re laughing through it because honestly… what else can you do?

If you’ve ever said “I’m done dating” and then downloaded the app again a week later, this episode is for you.
End-of-year chaos, dating trauma bonding, and real talk before the reset.

Happy almost-new-year. Good luck out there 🫡

Dating apps aren’t just awkward anymore… they’re kinda dark.

In this episode, Matt breaks down his real-life experiences on dating apps...from sketchy situations to straight-up fraud, and why “trust, but verify” isn’t paranoia, it’s survival.

We talk about:

• The illusion of safety on dating apps

• Red flags that show up way too late

• When giving the benefit of the doubt turns into being naïve

• How optimism can get you played

• Protecting your energy, time, and peace while still staying open to love

This isn’t fear-mongering, it’s real conversations from real experiences.
If you’re dating online, thinking about it, or already tired of it… this one’s for you.

This week’s episode gets heated in the best way. Vanessa and Matt get real about love, fear, commitment, and whether past experiences leave us tainted or just more self-aware.

Matt opens up about thinking he might’ve been in love once and why he doesn’t know if he’ll ever find love again. Vanessa challenges him on how commitment does define a relationship, especially after dedicating 7 years to one relationship and 9 to another.

We dive into:

• What “being tainted” really means

• Why commitment matters (or doesn’t?)

• How to go with the flow instead of forcing connections

• Becoming a magnet for what you want

• “Be the water, not the rock” ... our new dating mantra

• The difference between lack of chemistry vs. genuine compatibility

• Knowing what you’re doing in dating (and not misleading people)

It’s honest. It’s vulnerable. It’s chaotic.And it might just help you figure out your own relationships.

In this episode, we get into the real foundations of dating, relationships, and self-awareness. Because the truth is: dating gets way easier when YOU know who you are.

We talk:✨ the two types of single people (the ones who want to be single vs. the ones who absolutely don’t)✨ how dating & sex are an energy exchange✨ why some people protect their sauce… and others just hand it out like Costco samples✨ the major relationship types... the happily in love, the unhappily attached, the conformers, the cheaters, and the “idk what we’re doing but we’re here” crowd✨ why self-awareness makes everything… life, love, intimacy, choosing partners… SO much easier

It’s real talk, funny talk, and “oh damn I needed to hear that” talk... your fav mix.