Have you ever started taking better care of yourself and watched the people around you get uncomfortable?

In this episode, Maria shares what happens to your relationships when you stop people pleasing and start setting boundaries. Some of those relationships were built around a smaller version of you, and changing that version renegotiates the deal everyone else signed up for.

Maria goes first with her own story, including the question her therapist asked her at 47 and what she found underneath years of self abandonment. Tara and Elizabeth take it home, where people pleasing in relationships looks like the mental load women carry and the chores that default to one person. Boundaries for women often get treated as a personality change, and we get into why.

You'll learn:

• Why some relationships were built around a smaller version of you, and what that costs later
• How approval seeking runs your choices, and what changes the day you stop
• What self abandonment in relationships looks like after years of asking what everyone else needs
• Why outgrowing friendships happens without anyone in the story being the villain
• How setting boundaries with family changes the deal everyone at home signed up for
• The grieving process that arrives with seeing the pattern
• What it takes to invite people into the new version of you instead of leaving them behind

If you've ever set a boundary and watched a relationship cool off, this conversation gives you a way to read that without landing on yourself as the problem.

Let’s rebrand wellness together! Elizabeth, Tara & Maria

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Episodes Mentioned

Want to go deeper on the pattern underneath all of this? Head to episode 178, Struggling with Self Abandonment? How to Reclaim Your Mind-Body Connection and Stop People-Pleasing to Fit In. It picks up right where this conversation leaves off.

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