August 2019. A warm Saturday night at a Spokane neighborhood fair. Ron Hauenstein is manning a booth alone when three 15-year-olds walk up. Before Ron can say a word, the girl asks him three questions in a row:

"Is this where I come to get a dad?"
"What do I have to do to get a dad?"
"Will you be my dad?"

Her father, she said, was "a druggie with seven kids who doesn't mean anything to him."

That's the reality Ron has been staring down for a decade. This week on Dudes Without Dads, Joshua sits with Ron Hauenstein — founder and Executive Director of the Spokane Fatherhood Initiative (SpoFI) — for one of the most sobering and hopeful conversations we've had on the show.

In 1960, only 5 out of every 100 American babies were born outside marriage. Today it's over 50%. Among first-time moms 25 and younger, it's roughly 80%. Ron didn't just watch it happen — he set out to do something about it. Since 2018, SpoFI has issued 700+ certificates of completion through their 24/7 Dad classes: 24 hours of instruction over 6 weeks, evidence-based, with the first four lessons pointed inward before a single "tool" is handed out.

What Joshua and Ron unpack in this episode:
🕰️ How three shifts — no-fault divorce, the pill, and the workforce reshuffle — dismantled the covenant of home
🏠 Why kids today don't have a "home" anymore — just "my dad's apartment" and "my mom's house"
💔 The orphan spirit — what it is, how it forms, and 6 ways to know you're carrying it
😤 Why anger is really about security and shame is really about significance
📚 The 24/7 Dad curriculum — how men come in defeated and leave changed (without being told what to change)
🙏 James's story — separated from his four kids for 7 years, reunited after God got a hold of him
👨‍👧 The four-year-old who told her dad: "You don't get mad at us anymore. You don't yell at us like you used to."
✝️ Ron's personal turning point in Bible Study Fellowship — the identity shift from "a sinner saved by grace" to "a saint saved by grace who sins"
🇺🇸 A history moment you didn't know: Spokane is the birthplace of Father's Day (1910, Sonora Smart-Dodd)
⛓️ The stat every listener needs to hear: a child raised without a father is 20 times more likely to end up in prison

Ron's closing word for every man listening: "There's a hole in you — and a hole in your children's hearts — that can only be filled by a father, or your Heavenly Father."

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Learn more about Ron & take the class:
🔗 spofi.org — 24/7 Dad classes are on Zoom, six times a year, $20 refundable deposit
🔗 fatherhood.org — buy the 24/7 Dad curriculum and start it in your own town
🔗 fathers.com — Ken Canfield's Seven Secrets of Effective Fathers (free online course)

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