In Section Five of Cultivating Love: Wisdom for Life you'll read about "Gold, Silver, Rubies, and Precautions, Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3,” which are practical insights about Wisdom from the Book of Proverbs.

Section Five also contains the final Wisdom Tool, "Wisdom Tool #17: Post-It Note Wisdom," which is space in the book for you to record insights you've gleaned from the book.

Section Five also contains the “Final Comments about Cultivating Love: Wisdom for Life,” and the Appendix, which contains:

Appendix A: The Karpman Triangle and The Equality/Empowerment Triangle

Appendix B: The List of 442 Character Values and Virtues

Appendix C: The List of 176 Character Defects

This section of the book was the original inspiration for writing it, as I asked myself: “If I were to provide, a core set of “best practices” for people to develop for their well-being and for the well -being of others, what would they be?”

“What would be on the list of “best practices” that, when applied consistently, would lead to wise behaviors and life-giving outcomes for the rest of their life?”

So here it is, the “63 Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors!” — Dr. Ken McGil

After reading through the arduous information about “M. E.” in Section Two, where you gained a much thorough picture of your maladaptive schemas, maladaptive schema modes, your ego defenses and your cognitive distortions, and the impact they have had upon you, your Manager, Firefighter and Exiles in your Internal Family System, you’ll remain in your self-discovery mode and interview and learn more about the origin, role, function and the “why” behind what your Manager and Firefighter do to protect you.

In Section Three, of Cultivating Love: Wisdom for Life, you’ll be invited to reclaim your life and your choices, recapture the canvas of your mind and heart, and begin recalibrating or re-creating your life through wisdom exercises designed to help you bring vibrant colors connected to healing experiences into, and onto the portrait of your life, one behavioral brushstroke at a time!

So with the integration and practice of these suggested Wisdom tools, coupled with your existing body of knowledge, you’ll have the opportunity to recalibrate, rethink, refine, re-mind, reclaim, reparent, and renew your behavior into behaviors that reflect you’re truly becoming wise and skilled at living by choosing to live by principles that make sense to you (and hopefully to the neighbors in your life!).

A final word: Remember, your healing is not about erasing your past, but it is about integrating wisdom into your life experiences that empowers you to move forward with clarity and wisdom. As you engage in reflection, allow yourself the grace to learn, the courage to release, and the openness to embrace a new way of being! Dr. Ken McGill