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In this episode of House of H.E.R., I’m joined by Danielle from Oasis Domestic Abuse Service a UK domestic abuse charity supporting survivors across Kent and the South East.

Danielle speaks not only as a domestic abuse partnership specialist, but also from lived experience. She understands coercive control, trauma bonds, and post-separation abuse both professionally and personally which makes this conversation honest, grounded, and deeply real.

We talk about what domestic abuse actually looks like beyond physical violence especially coercive control, emotional abuse, psychological manipulation, and the patterns that slowly erode your confidence.

Most importantly, we break down what happens when you reach out to a domestic abuse charity.

What is safety planning?
What is a DASH risk assessment?
What is MARAC?
Do you have to report to the police to get help?
What happens if you have children?
How does refuge support actually work?

If you are thinking about leaving an abusive relationship or supporting someone who is this episode explains the practical steps, risks, and protections available in the UK.

Leaving can be the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship. But you do not have to do it alone.

This episode is for anyone experiencing domestic abuse, coercive control, trauma bonding, and for those who want to understand how domestic abuse charities support survivors behind the scenes.

UK Domestic Abuse Support Links

Oasis Domestic Abuse Service (Kent & South East)
Website: https://www.oasisdaservice.org

Helpline: 01702 302333

Hollie Guard Personal Safety App
Download here: https://hollieguard.com

If you are in immediate danger, call 999.

You are not alone.
Support is available.
Love should never hurt.

House of H.E.R. is a space for women who have lived through abuse, trauma, and relationships that broke them. This podcast exists to tell the truth, raise awareness around domestic abuse, and remind you that you are not alone in what you’re healing from.

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