E423- INNER VOICE : A HEARTFELT CHAT WITH DR. FOOJAN AND DR. DONALD MEICHENBAUM ON 💔 Choose Him Wisely: Spotting Relationship Red Flags Before It’s Too Late Preventing Abuse, Love Bombing & Coercive Control. Donald Meichenbaum, Ph.D., one of the top 10 most influential psychotherapists of the 20th century, joins Dr. Foojan Zeine to share groundbreaking strategies from his latest book, “Choose Him Wisely: How to Identify a Safe Partner.” Together, they dive into the psychology of abusive relationships, how to detect early warning signs, and why even the smartest women fall into toxic dynamics — and how to prevent it. Dr. Meichenbaum, co-founder of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and former Research Director of the Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention, brings decades of clinical insight. From analyzing real-life cases to teaching women how to assess partners using psychology-backed methods, this conversation is a must-watch for anyone navigating dating, trauma recovery, or therapeutic work. 🎯 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS VIDEO: The hidden signs of love bombing How to question partners effectively Social media red flags & subtle control tactics The role of jealousy, entitlement, and cultural norms Real-life stories, risk matrices, and partner assessment tools Why intelligence doesn’t protect you from abuse — awareness does Tools to help women make smart, safe relationship decisions ⏱️ CHAPTERS & CLICKABLE TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Introduction: Why “Choosing Him Wisely” matters 01:25 - Understanding Love Bombing: Intensity vs. intimacy 04:48 - Common early red flags in toxic relationships 07:30 - Why women ignore gut feelings & early warning signs 10:45 - Love bombing vs. healthy romantic gestures 13:15 - Recognizing patterns of coercive control 16:32 - The psychology behind emotional manipulation 18:10 - The science of questioning: How to ask the right questions 21:02 - Real-life examples: The dinner test & red flag behaviors 25:24 - Observing dominance & controlling behavior in subtle ways 28:25 - Social media sleuthing: Finding hidden truths 30:01 - DUI, substance abuse, and relationship safety risks 31:20 - Trusted friends as witnesses: Why 3rd-party perspective matters 33:07 - The “White Lies” we tell ourselves in bad relationships 34:04 - Debunking jealousy as love: What it really signals 35:38 - Turning arguments into behavioral samples 37:16 - Recap: The red flag checklist every woman should know 39:00 - Mass shooters & interpersonal violence: The link 40:00 - Cultural norms that perpetuate abuse and silence 42:30 - Intergenerational trauma in patriarchal systems 44:00 - Admiration for survivors: Courage in breaking the cycle 45:09 - The role of the MeToo Movement in societal change 46:07 - Final thoughts & blessings from Dr. Meichenbaum 46:56 - Where to get the book: Choose Him Wisely 47:36 - Gabby Petito’s story & its lessons on partner violence 48:02 - Outro: Share, comment, and spread awareness 48:23 - Bonus: Awareness Integration Therapy (A.I.T.) training info 📘 About Dr. Donald Meichenbaum Professor Emeritus, University of Waterloo, Canada Co-founder of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) Research Director, The Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention Honored with a Lifetime Achievement Award by the APA Author of Roadmap to Resilience (FREE online: downloaded in 139 countries) Co-author of Choose Him Wisely (available October on Amazon) 📚 Get the Book 📖 Choose Him Wisely: How to Identify a Safe Partner 🛒 Available on Amazon October 2025 👥 Co-authored with Dr. David Wexler 💡 Features real-life cases (like Gabby Petito) and evidence-based strategies 🧠 More from Dr. Foojan Zeine Licensed psychotherapist, researcher & author Creator of Awareness Integration Therapy (A.I.T.) 🌐 www.Foojan.com 🔔 Like, Subscribe & Share ✅ If this conversation helped you — please like, comment, and subscribe 📢 Share this video with women, therapists, educators, or anyone navigating difficult relationship dynamics 💬 Drop your questions for Dr. Meichenbaum — we’ll share them with him directly!

Navigating Modern Supervision & Leadership | Dr. Behnam Bakhshandeh & Dr. Aileen Zaballero | The Organized & Engaged Supervisor This episode of Inner Voice – A Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan explores the evolving world of leadership, supervision, and workforce development. We're joined by two trailblazing thought leaders in organizational transformation and human potential: 👤 Dr. Behnam Bakhshandeh – Founder of Primeco Education, transformational coach, leadership strategist, and author of 10+ books on personal and professional development. 👩‍🏫 Dr. Aileen Zaballero – Certified Professional in Talent Development (CPTD), senior partner at Rothwell & Associates, and leading expert in learning & development with over 27 years of experience. Together with Dr. William Rothwell and Azza Hajri, they co-authored The Organized and Engaged Supervisor—a practical guide for modern leaders seeking to optimize resources and enhance employee experiences through clarity, empathy, and adaptability. ✅ Whether you’re a new supervisor, mid-level manager, or executive leader, this episode dives deep into: Strategic planning in supervision Employee engagement across generations Navigating the emotional complexity of today’s workforce Adapting leadership to fit individual and organizational needs ⏱️ Timestamps & Key Topics Click to jump to specific insights from the conversation: 00:00 – Intro to the episode and guest speakers 01:26 – Overview of The Organized and Engaged Supervisor and book structure 03:34 – Employee engagement trends: Gallup findings & Gen Z in the workforce 06:04 – Causes of disengagement & evolving employee expectations 09:27 – Quiet quitting, emotional burnout, and workplace stress 13:19 – Supervisors’ role in mental health and workplace culture 16:17 – Employee fit, motivation, and feedback mechanisms 18:42 – From task orientation to shared purpose: Redefining supervision 21:09 – Strategic, operational, and coordinated planning for supervisors 24:08 – Practical frameworks for resource allocation and delegation 26:27 – Supervisory compassion, clarity, and adaptability 28:11 – Human-centered leadership in evolving workplace environments 30:10 – Dr. Behnam’s personal management journey: Balancing care & accountability 33:00 – The Platinum Rule vs. the Golden Rule in supervision 34:04 – Why adaptability is the #1 skill for today’s supervisors 35:06 – Leadership by modeling behavior and emotional awareness 36:03 – Multi-generational challenges: Task-oriented vs. people-oriented leadership 38:59 – Leadership as a dance: Matching the rhythm of your team 40:10 – Mid-management’s “sandwich” struggle between execs and employees 42:08 – Self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and mirroring behavior 43:01 – Common obstacles to employee experience & engagement 44:24 – The outdated performance review model 45:23 – Respecting diverse learning styles and technology preferences 46:00 – Budget constraints and why outsourcing helps HR 46:40 – The critical role of authentic feedback & recognition 47:15 – Final reflections & book recommendation 47:44 – What to expect from Anabasis Academy 48:46 – Awareness Integration Therapy for psychotherapists 📘 Featured Book 📖 The Organized and Engaged Supervisor: Optimizing Resources and Managing Employee Experiences By Dr. Behnam Bakhshandeh, Dr. Aileen Zaballero, Dr. William Rothwell & Azza Hajri 📚 Available on Amazon and Routledge 👉 This essential guide helps supervisors streamline operations and boost engagement with actionable strategies rooted in organizational development (OD), emotional intelligence, and inclusive leadership. 🎯 Key Takeaways There’s no one-size-fits-all formula for effective supervision. Employee engagement is deeply personal and context-specific. Supervisors must balance strategic planning with emotional insight. Understanding generational differences enhances leadership effectiveness. Adaptive leadership and clear communication drive results. 🔗 Explore More 🌐 Visit: AnabasisAcademy.org – Activate your potential and shape your future. 📘 Learn: Awareness Integration Therapy – Transform your therapeutic practice. 💬 Love what you heard? Like, Comment, and Share this episode with your network. Subscribe for more in-depth conversations on leadership, supervision, and workforce transformation. Drop your questions for Dr. Bakhshandeh and Dr. Zaballero in the comments! 📢 Create a meaningful work life—lead with empathy, engage with purpose, and evolve your organization from within. #LeadershipDevelopment #Supervision #EmployeeEngagement #WorkforceDevelopment #OrganizationalDevelopment #DrBehnamBakhshandeh #DrAileenZaballero #DrWilliamRothwell #TheOrganizedSupervisor #HumanResources #ManagerTraining #WorkplaceWellbeing #QuietQuitting #GallupSurvey #GenZWorkforce #PeopleFirstLeadership #AnabasisAcademy

E421 – Inner Voice: A Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan & Sarodah Aboagye Welcome to Episode 421 of the Inner Voice Podcast with Dr. Foojan Zeine! In this deeply moving and transformational conversation, Dr. Foojan welcomes therapist, speaker, and author Sarodah Aboagye to share her inspiring healing journey—from surviving trauma and cultural isolation to embracing love, forgiveness, and living with purpose. This heartfelt discussion explores powerful themes like trauma recovery, emotional healing, panic attacks, anxiety recovery, cultural assimilation, and the immigrant experience. Sarodah opens up about her journey as an African immigrant woman, survivor of abuse, and now advocate for emotional intelligence, self-love, spiritual awakening, and mental health awareness. Whether you're navigating childhood trauma, healing your identity, or trying to find your voice, this interview offers relatable insights, hope, and healing. Discover how forgiveness therapy, writing as therapy, and awareness integration can help you move from suffering to strength. 📖 Get Sarodah’s book Love. Forgive. Live. – available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, iTunes, Google Play & Readerhouse 💌 Contact Sarodah at: loveuv4giveielive@gmail.com 🔗 Timestamps & Topics 00:00 – Introduction to Episode E421: Inner Voice with Dr. Foojan 00:40 – Meet Sarodah Aboagye: Therapist, Speaker & Author of Love. Forgive. Live. 02:14 – The meaning behind Love. Forgive. Live. 03:19 – Overcoming abandonment, abuse & fear 04:45 – Cultural conditioning: Girls vs. boys in Ghanaian society 06:31 – The turning point: A powerful dream with 3 words 07:44 – Childhood trauma & the loss of identity 09:03 – Why immigrants often feel they’ve lost their voice 10:11 – Cultural pressure, spiritual identity & survival 11:45 – Healing through awareness & acceptance 13:02 – Emotional numbness: Understanding disconnection 14:36 – Breaking free through journaling & self-reflection 16:04 – From pain to purpose: Becoming a therapist 17:50 – When forgiveness becomes the gateway to healing 19:05 – Finding strength through storytelling 20:17 – Learning English and finding self-worth 21:57 – Embracing worthiness and emotional recovery 23:34 – The symbolic book cover & dream inspiration 25:11 – How Mrs. Thompson helped change Sarodah’s life 26:11 – The meaning behind her father’s birthday card 27:04 – Forgiveness & self-love as emotional release 28:07 – From suffering to service: Helping others heal 29:04 – Women, identity, and social expectations 30:05 – Surviving to thriving: From trauma to transformation 31:04 – Coaching immigrant teachers & cultural shock 32:04 – Assimilation vs. cultural preservation 33:15 – Social pressures: Ghana vs. North American norms 34:23 – The complexities of female identity in the West 35:03 – Depression, anxiety & the reality of assimilation 36:13 – Immigration, grief, and mental health 37:05 – Forgiveness: A process, not a one-time event 38:04 – Why forgiveness is crucial for emotional growth 39:06 – How emotional intelligence grows through forgiveness 40:10 – 3 questions Sarodah asks every new client 41:17 – Deal breakers in therapy & commitment to healing 42:01 – Signs that you haven’t forgiven yet 43:20 – The "prison" of unforgiveness – breaking free 44:10 – Do your perpetrators still deserve your time? 45:03 – Healing vs. forgetting: Why forgiveness is for YOU 46:04 – Sarodah’s experience with severe anxiety & panic attacks 47:02 – Writing as therapy: Healing through storytelling 48:06 – Therapy is a tool for finding your voice 48:56 – Final thoughts & ways to connect with Sarodah 49:27 – Where to buy the book Love. Forgive. Live. 51:22 – Discover your potential with Anabasis Academy 51:54 – Learn more about Awareness Integration Therapy 🌟 Keywords: immigrant experience, trauma recovery, emotional healing, forgiveness therapy, mental health awareness, African immigrant women, cultural assimilation, therapist interview, Dr. Foojan Zeine, Inner Voice podcast, awareness integration therapy, Sarodah Aboagye, panic attacks, anxiety healing, healing journey, self-love, mindfulness, transformation stories, therapy and healing, spiritual awakening, writing as therapy, women empowerment ✨ Like, comment, and share this episode with anyone navigating emotional healing, immigration challenges, or searching for their inner voice. 🔔 Subscribe and hit the bell so you never miss a powerful episode of Inner Voice. #InnerVoice #Forgiveness #LoveForgiveLive #TherapistStory #MentalHealth #ImmigrantVoices #EmotionalHealing #DrFoojanZeine #SarodahAboagye #PodcastInterview #AnxietyRecovery #HealingJourney #SelfLove #TraumaHealing