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Inner Stillness Outer Chaos

Inner Stillness Outer Chaos

著者： Avery Thatcher
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On this podcast, I share openly and freely of how I continue to move forward with my own traumatized nervous system, anxiety, OCD, disability and all the complexity of living as a highly sensitive person in a world that’s scared to feel. So, grab a cozy blanket, maybe a cup of your favorite tea, and here’s to embracing the chaos, creating our calm, and discovering the magic in between.

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  • What to Do When You're 'Fine' but Not Okay: aka when you're feeling numb

    What to Do When You're 'Fine' but Not Okay: aka when you're feeling numb
    2025/03/18

    Ever caught yourself saying, "I'm fine," even when you're anything but? In this episode, we peel back the layers of what "fine" really means—and why it might be a quiet warning sign of emotional burnout or disconnection. Together, we’ll explore how to recognize the hidden signals behind "fine," uncover the difference between feeling numb and truly being okay, and share gentle steps to reconnect with yourself. Whether you're a high achiever pushing through or just starting to notice something feels "off," this episode invites you to pause, reflect, and take the first step toward feeling fully alive again. Tune in for insights, personal stories, and practical tools that just might change how you answer, "How are you?"
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    11 分
  • Redefining Success for Burnout Recovery: Is Your Definition Serving You?

    Redefining Success for Burnout Recovery: Is Your Definition Serving You?
    2025/03/11

    Success—it’s the goal we’re all striving toward, right? But what happens when your definition of success starts feeling more like a burden than a triumph? In this episode, we dive deep into the surprising ways outdated ideas of success can keep you stuck in burnout, overwhelm, and constant pressure to do more.

    I’ll share my personal story of hitting a wall with my own definition of success and the unexpected clarity that came when I finally stopped and asked, Is this really serving me? Through metaphors like “the house of success we inherit” and “wildflowers versus roses,” we’ll explore how you can start gently redefining success—on your own terms—without burning everything down.

    Whether you’re feeling overworked, uninspired, or just plain tired of chasing goals that don’t light you up, this episode will help you rethink what success means and inspire you to create a vision that truly aligns with your values, energy, and life.

    Listen now to discover:

    • Why traditional success often leads to burnout—and what to do instead.
    • The simple yet transformative question that changed how I approach my goals.
    • How to start reimagining success in a way that feels sustainable, meaningful, and uniquely yours.
    • Press play and take the first step toward redefining success for you. You won’t want to miss this one!
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    10 分
  • Modern Signs of Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn - and Why This New Definition Matters

    Modern Signs of Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn - and Why This New Definition Matters
    2025/03/04
    I think it’s really important to recognize what the modern signs of fight, flight, freeze, and fawn look like. We often hear about them spoken of in their primal forms (what our stress response was initially designed for). But our modern day stressors don’t go away, do they? Sometimes it feels like we’re all living on high alert, as if the stakes are life-or-death when all we’re doing is trying to make it through the day. If you’ve ever felt this way, you’re not alone. So many of us live in a kind of constant survival mode without even realizing it. There’s a reason for this. Buried deep in our bodies is a stress switch—a part of us that’s designed to flick “on” when we’re in danger. When we’re genuinely at risk, this response is crucial. But somewhere along the way, many of us end up with that stress switch jammed in the “on” position, making every day feel like an emergency. And instead of realizing this as unusual, we start thinking it’s normal to be on edge all the time. But here’s a hint—it’s not. Let’s explore what modern-day fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses look like. Recognizing these can help us start to understand why we’re so tired, even if we’re “just” sitting at a desk. Fight Mode: Armoring Up for Battle When I think of fight mode in the modern day, I picture someone with a shield and sword, ready to defend themselves at the drop of a hat. Except, instead of medieval armor, it might look like someone snapping at their partner over a harmless comment, or a person getting defensive during a work meeting because they feel criticized. It’s that constant sense of “I have to protect myself,” even if there’s no visible threat. Once, I had a friend who couldn’t stand when people doubted her abilities. She’d go out of her way to prove herself—even when no one asked for proof. She was “fighting” against an invisible opponent, always trying to be ready to “win.” This drained her more than she realized. Her mind never rested because it was too busy staying alert for the next challenge, even in her downtime. She later realized that she was in fight mode, but instead of saving her energy for actual battles, she was spending it in tiny, unnecessary defenses every day. Flight Mode: Running from Shadows Flight mode is less about physically running and more about avoiding what feels overwhelming. I used to work with someone who could never seem to start a big project. She’d organize her desk, write and rewrite lists, or suddenly “need” a coffee break. In her mind, she was being productive. But in reality, she was running away from the project itself. In modern-day life, flight mode can look like constantly staying busy as a way to avoid what feels big and scary. It could be a conversation we’re dreading, a responsibility we’re not sure we can handle, or even just a nagging feeling that we’re not where we want to be in life. We don’t have to physically leave the room to be in flight mode; our minds and hearts can be trying to escape, leaving us mentally “checked out” even if our body is right there. And while it feels like we’re getting away from stress, this kind of avoidance keeps us running, burning through our energy. Freeze Mode: Stuck in Place Freeze mode is like being on the verge of action but never quite moving forward. I had a client that needed to make a decision to make about their career that felt huge. They spent hours—days—trying to weigh the pros and cons. They felt trapped in this endless loop, unable to make a choice, as if moving forward in any direction might end badly. Once we worked to re-regulate their nervous system with the Restore Program they were able to make a decision that aligned with what they wanted for their life, and ultimately worked out beautifully for them. Many of us end up in freeze mode when life feels too big or uncertain. We end up in “analysis paralysis,” overthinking every little thing because we’re afraid of choosing wrong. It’s like pressing the “pause” button, but without any sense of relief. We’re frozen not because we’re resting, but because we’re unsure, and our energy ends up sapped by the endless decision-making that goes nowhere. Fawn Mode: Pleasing to Keep the Peace Fawn mode is probably the most subtle of these responses. It’s the need to smooth things over and keep everyone happy, even at the cost of our own well-being. I remember a time when I was so afraid of disappointing others that I’d say “yes” to almost anything. Even if I was already stretched thin, I’d still go out of my way to help others or agree to plans, because the thought of someone being upset with me was worse than the stress I was piling onto myself. If you’ve ever felt this way—like it’s your job to make everyone else comfortable—you’ve likely been in fawn mode. The tricky part is, this people-pleasing takes a toll on our energy reserves, ...
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    11 分
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