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If you cling when someone pulls away, panic when a text goes unanswered, or want closeness and fear it at the same time, you're not "too much" — you're likely running an Attachment pattern formed long before the relationship you're in now.

In this video, Gary explains Anxious and Disorganized Attachment: where the terror of being abandoned comes from, why the two styles feel so different from the inside, and how early experiences of unreliable or frightening caregivers wire the nervous system to expect loss.

Gary trained under Thaddeus Birchard, founder of ATSAC (The Association for the Treatment of Sex Addiction and Compulsivity) — the body that shaped how sex and porn addiction is treated clinically in the UK. He works with both addicts and their partners through separate, specialist pathways, trains and supervises other therapists in this field, and hosts The Sex Addiction Podcast (66K+ downloads, 187 episodes).

TAGS:

Core/broad:

fear of abandonment, anxious attachment, disorganized attachment, attachment styles, attachment trauma

Specific/technical:

anxious attachment style, disorganized attachment style, abandonment issues, fearful avoidant attachment, attachment and childhood trauma

Intent-based:

why am I afraid of being abandoned, why do I panic when someone pulls away, signs of abandonment issues, why am I so clingy in relationships, how to heal abandonment fears

Credibility/framework tie-in:

trained by Thaddeus Birchard, ATSAC therapist, sex addiction specialist UK, accredited sex addiction therapist

Long-tail:

anxious vs disorganized attachment difference, signs of fear of abandonment in relationships, how childhood causes abandonment fear

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