What if love isn’t primarily something you feel—or something you have to wait for—but something you can choose?

In this episode of I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff sit down with pastor, author, and Bible teacher Chip Ingram to talk about his book I Choose Love and a radically practical way to understand biblical love.

Chip explains the difference between the feelings we associate with love and the agape love modeled by Jesus: a willful, sacrificial choice to put another person’s needs ahead of our own. And that matters whether we’re dealing with tension in a marriage, a difficult family relationship, division in the church, or someone whose views are completely different from ours.

Chip also gets personal, sharing how this understanding of love helped transform a deeply difficult season in his own marriage. The breakthrough came when he stopped focusing on how his wife needed to change and started asking what he could do differently. As Chip puts it, you can’t control another person—but you can change your part of the relationship.

You’ll also hear why loving action sometimes has to come before loving feelings, why humility and servanthood are so important, and three practical ways to become a more loving person: declare war on selfishness, attack the pride underneath it, and intentionally practice humility by putting others’ needs ahead of your own.

In this episode:

• Why biblical love is much more than a feeling

• The difference between agape love and romantic, friendship, and family love

• What Philippians 2 teaches us about loving like Jesus

• Why waiting until you feel loving can keep you stuck

• How choosing obedience can begin changing our hearts

• What Chip learned during a painful season in his own marriage

• Why you can’t control another person—but you can change your part of the relationship

• How selfishness and pride undermine love

• Three practical choices that can help us become more loving

• How Christians can pursue love and unity in a deeply divided culture

• Why the mindset “I am second” can change the way we approach everyday relationships

Resources mentioned:

Book: I Choose Love by Chip Ingram

Living on the Edge: livingontheedge.org

Also mentioned: Good to Great in God’s Eyes by Chip Ingram

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Boys today are growing up surrounded by confusing messages about masculinity and what it means to be a man. So how can parents help their sons develop a healthy, confident understanding of who God created them to be?

Shaunti and Jeff talk with Molly DeFrank, mom of six and author of Mothering Boys: 8 Things Your Son Needs to Hear from You Before He Turns 10. Together, they explore the powerful role parents—and especially moms—play in shaping a boy’s identity, character, confidence, and understanding of masculinity.

You’ll hear practical ways to speak life into your son, recognize the unique strengths God has given him, and help him grow into a godly man of courage and character.

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Feeling overwhelmed by motherhood? Wondering how to prioritize your faith when you're barely keeping up with everyday life?

If you've ever ended the day feeling guilty because you didn't have time to read your Bible, pray, or spend quiet time with God, you're not alone.

In this episode of I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with author, speaker, and Equipping Godly Women founder Brittany Ann to talk honestly about the challenges young Christian moms face. Together, they explore how to grow closer to God without adding more pressure to an already full life.

Brittany shares her own journey of balancing marriage, motherhood, ministry, and faith, along with practical encouragement for finding God's peace—even in the middle of exhaustion and chaos.

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• Why so many Christian moms struggle with guilt over their spiritual lives

• How to prioritize your relationship with God when life feels overwhelming

• Practical ways to spend meaningful time with God—even if you only have a few minutes

• The difference between striving for perfection and pursuing faithfulness

• How to let go of unrealistic expectations and embrace God's grace

• Encouragement for moms who feel spiritually dry or discouraged

• Simple habits that can help you stay connected to God during busy seasons

Whether you're raising toddlers, homeschooling, juggling work and family, or simply trying to catch your breath, this conversation offers biblical encouragement and practical hope for this season of life.

Meet Our Guest

Brittany Ann is an author, speaker, podcast host, and the founder of Equipping Godly Women, a ministry dedicated to encouraging Christian women with practical, biblical wisdom for everyday life. Since launching the ministry in 2014, Brittany has reached millions of women through articles, Bible studies, books, and online resources. She and her husband are raising four children together.

Resources Mentioned

• Fall in Love with God's Word by Brittany Ann https://a.co/d/000kPB4D

• https://equippinggodlywomen.com/

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