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I Was Roofied in 1982: How to Spot Drink Spiking and Date Safely (Encore)

Content warning: This episode discusses sexual assault, rape, and drug-facilitated assault.

How do you know if your drink was spiked? And how do you stay safe when you date?

I wish I didn't have to replay this one. But women everywhere are feeling a lot of rage right now, and I'm feeling it too.

In 1982, two very nice, very fun guys bought my college roommate and me a birthday drink. A few hours later, I was so sick I couldn't walk a straight line. It took me three days to recover. It took me decades to understand that I had been drugged.

In this encore of Episode 60, I've added a new intro. I talk to the good men who can stop this from happening, and I share practical safety tips for women. Then you'll hear my full story.

In this episode, I cover:

Why consent is impossible when a woman is drugged or drunk, and why good men need to speak up
Why it is never your fault, no matter what
How self-defense training can help you move past the freeze response
Why you should always go out with a friend and make a plan
How to protect your drink, from the moment it's poured until you finish it
Why to call a rape crisis center first if the worst happens
My full roofie story, and the signs I missed for years
Why I still believe in love, and how to date safely without giving up on it

Chapters

00:00 A content warning and why I'm replaying this episode
01:23 The Giselle Pelicot case and the female rage happening right now
02:00 To the good men: talk about consent, and stop it on your watch
04:01 To the women: it is never your fault
04:27 Self-defense and the freeze response
05:42 Skip the fraternity parties
06:05 Always take a friend and make a plan
06:29 Never leave your drink unwatched
07:49 Call a rape crisis center first
09:00 My free Dating Safely and Scam-Free class
10:00 The original episode: I was roofied in 1982
14:33 Realizing years later that I had been drugged
16:35 Why I teach Dating Safely and Scam-Free
19:22 I still believe in love
21:00 My #1 drink safety tip

Join my free class, Dating Safely and Scam-Free

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See me live at Still Open to Love

October 10 and 11 in Houston. I'll be there on the first night.
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If you need support

If you have been assaulted, consider calling a rape crisis center before you call the police. In the US, you can reach the RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline 24/7 at 800-656-4673 or online.rainn.org.

Originally aired as Episode 60.

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