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Summary

In this episode, I have a powerful conversation with Reverend Nicholas Young about the intersections of faith, mental health, and the unique challenges faced by gifted and otherwise neurodivergent people. We touch on the importance of community, the role of grief in both ministry and therapy, and how to continue to center love and connection in a world filled with so many challenges. We also talk about the importance of working with Black boys to give them the things we wish we had as children. This is an important discussion for our community. Please connect with Nick and let me know what you think about this conversation!

Key Points:

• The intersection of faith and mental health is crucial for holistic healing.
• Grief work is a significant part of both ministry and therapy.
• Community plays a vital role in combating loneliness, especially for gifted individuals.
• Creating safe spaces for Black boys is essential for their emotional well-being.
• Love and connection are fundamental to overcoming life's challenges.
• Gifted individuals may feel isolated and misunderstood in traditional settings.
• It's important to honor each person's unique experiences and needs.
• Therapists and ministers should work together to provide comprehensive support.

Connect with Rev. Nicholas Young on socials at @nickyoungslife

Helpful Links:

• Hire me to speak or buy some merch!
• Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds
• Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In this episode, I explore the concept of being a mirror in relationships and how we can learn emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and personal growth. I delve into how our interactions with others can serve as mirrors, revealing lessons about ourselves. I discuss leveraging boundaries, the role of triggers in emotional responses, and the necessity of compassion for oneself and others. We talk a little James Baldwin and Rumi. This episode is about how we take more control of how we feel about our lives, spend less time bound by what happens around us and, ultimately, create amazing relationships that have more compassion, joy and safety.

Key Points:

• Why being a mirror is critical to our best relationships
• Love involves magnifying each other's strengths and light
• How triggers reveal unresolved feelings from our past and a meaningful path forward
• Using self-reflection as a powerful tool for personal growth
• Why boundaries are essential for protecting our emotional well-being
• Why validating our emotions as valid can serve as a guide for self-discovery
• Increasing our awareness of times when people are projecting their insecurities onto us
• How investigating our own perceptions can lead to healthier relationships

Helpful Links:

• Hire me to speak or buy some merch!
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
• Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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Summary

In this episode, I discuss the recent proposal by RFK Jr. to create a database of autistic individuals, expressing deep concern over the implications of such a move. He emphasizes the importance of community, advocacy, and understanding the complexities surrounding autism and neurodivergence. Sheldon calls for collective action against systemic oppression and misinformation, urging listeners to remain vocal and supportive of marginalized communities.

Key Points:

• The proposal to create a national database tracking autistic people is extremely problematic
• I acknowledge my privilege in choosing a neurodivergent label with less stigma
• The increase in autism diagnoses is due to better awareness, not an epidemic.
• This should be yet another reason we start taking data-privacy more seriously
• The narrative around autism needs to be more inclusive and expansive

Helpful Links:

• What You Need to Know About the New Autism Data Registry
• 2019 Study on ADHD Rates by Race/Ethnic Group
• Background of Lebensborn
• Hire me to speak or buy some merch!
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In this episode, I take my time really digging into the concept of ego, exploring its role in self-awareness and personal identity. I discuss the importance of understanding the ego as both a source of strength and a potential obstacle. I briefly discuss Freud while leaning much more heavily on the thoughts of Mooji and my own thoughts about how we conceptualize our Self.

I talk a bit about psychological theories and then continue my journey by discussing the nature of consciousness, identity, and the transient nature of our experiences. I really go into the complexities of identity, authenticity, and the role of ego in shaping our self-perception. I also make sure to frame this from a neurodivergent perspective, since that significantly shapes how we see and interact with the world. At the end of the day, this is a deep and complex conversation about how to become truly aware of our true Selves so that we can not just survive but thrive through the connections we foster from a truly authentic and unmovable place that isn't bound by current or past circumstances.

Key Points:

• We are not our bodies or minds; they are vessels and lenses through which we experience Life.
• Ego can manifest as both strength and obstacle.
• Self-acceptance is crucial as we navigate change.
• We must challenge our perceptions of Self.
• Connection is fundamental to our existence and well-being.
• We often see others through the lens of our own experiences.
• Shame and guilt can prevent personal growth and acceptance.
• We are all interconnected, and our experiences shape our identities.

Helpful Links:

• Mooji on "What is Ego?"
• Annaka Harris discusses the illusion of self and free will
• Audre Lorde - "Learning from the '60s"
• "Ego Tripping" by Nikki Giovanni
• Hire me to speak or buy some merch!
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In this episode, I reflect on some things we need to leave in 2024 and some key things we need to make sure we're honing in on for 2025. I discuss things like patriarchy, the importance of internal validation, and the need for authentic community connections. How healthy boundaries and the power of imagination in creating new ways of being change our future? Join me as I think critically about our roles in perpetuating and dismantling oppressive systems while embracing our own power and authenticity moving forward into the new year.

Key Points:

• Why we must name patriarchy and accept that it harms and is perpetuated by more than "men"
• Healthy boundaries are true game-changers for life
• Imagining new ways of being can truly be an act of resistance and disrupt systems of oppression

Helpful Links:

• Lecrae interviews Jason Wilson
• Adam Grant interviews Loretta J. Ross
• Hire me to speak or buy some merch!
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In this previously recorded episode, I speak with Dr. Matt Zakreski, a clinical psychologist specializing in neurodivergence and giftedness. We explore the complexities of being neurodivergent, the importance of self-discovery, and the need for supportive environments for gifted individuals. Dr. Matt shares his personal experiences as someone who was identified as gifted early but had to wait several years to be diagnosed with ADHD. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals and the necessity of creating inclusive spaces that recognize and nurture diverse talents. We also discuss the significance of DEI work, the need for community and connection, and the role of self-awareness in navigating systemic issues that impact us all. This is a great start to our discussion that we will pick up again in the new year. Take a listen and check out Dr. Matt's book via the link below as well.

Stay in contact with Dr. Matt:

• Dr. Matt on Instagram
• Dr. Matt's website

Helpful Links:

• Grab Dr. Matt's Book!
• Hire me to speak or buy some merch!
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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Summary:

In this episode, I explore the complex nature of grief through personal experiences I've encountered over the past year or so. I reflect on the multiple deaths/transitions that led me to this point in my journey. I discuss the death of our cat, my grandmother, the challenge of ending a long-term marriage as well as the death of Self. Through these stories, I outline griefs as an integral part of love and personal growth. It's likely my most personal episode to date.

Key Points:

• Grief is part of love
• The loss of a pet is not something to be overlooked
• Being present during a loved one's transition is a deep act of love.
• The end of a marriage is a special kind of grief.
• The death of Self requires powerful internal work and ongoing challenges
• Grief is not something to be avoided; it can be a teacher.

Helpful Links:

• Hire me to speak or buy some merch! - HOLIDAY 2024 SALE use code "SKULLGERBIL"
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In this episode, I reflect on the emotional aftermath of the recent elections in the United States. I acknowledge the real and healthy grief many of us are experiencing. I spoke off the cuff and without any notes or quotes or prepared thoughts, just my heart. I give the briefest glimpse into why this goes much deeper than whether "my team won". I also mention how it caused me to further reflect on the grief from deaths, divorce and more in the past year or so. I emphasize why and how we should process grief as a natural part of love and connection. Whether or not you listen to the episode, I urge you to seek community and not face this journey in isolation.

Key Takeaways:

• Today has been tough for many, especially marginalized communities.
• The US political system is often inhumane and unjust.
• Grief is a natural response to love and loss.
• Processing grief is essential for mental health.
• Community support is crucial during difficult times.
• It's important to make peace with our attachments.
• Isolation can exacerbate feelings of grief and despair.
• Finding community can help in navigating grief and identity.

Helpful Links:

• Support the podcast by buying "I Must Be BUG'N" merch!
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
• Dr. Mick - Licensed Therapist who shares knowledge while gaming
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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