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we’ve all watched someone disappear into a relationship. the quieter laugh. the new opinions. the boots that mysteriously vanished.

this week’s prompt: tell me about someone you watched change. or tell me if that person was you.
a broken coffee table. a man who weighed his cereal with airpods in. a friend in a peach dress watching the smartest weirdest person she knows marry someone who finds her “a little much.” a husband who’s been “bullish” at brunch since 2021.

also: i fear you, babe deep dive is out this Thursday — a missing italian volleyball player, a medium, animal bones in a river. Be sure to follow and listen.

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the red flag support group is now in session.

hi my name is dino, i saw the red flag, and i waved back. some of us waved enthusiastically. some of us decorated the flag. some of us asked the red flag to move in and then acted surprised when it was still a red flag inside our apartment.

this week: seven dates with a man who loved his ex more than her. the waiter who knew before she did. the woman who thought she was the exception to "women are too dramatic." a friendship that ended not with a fight but with enough cancelled plans that there was nothing left to cancel. a hiring manager who presented someone else's idea as her own while making eye contact. a man who called therapy a crutch — she did not tell him he was the reason she needed it. and a closer from a woman who didn't ignore her red flags. she decorated them. and lost both the relationship and the story she'd built around it.

also: april in new york and it is FREEZING. jay shetty's wedding officiant era. shots at the white house correspondents' dinner. carly aquilino forever.

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it's thursday. the episode was supposed to drop monday. dino has the flu, darius had a fever, and they watched twenty-two hours of lord of the rings extended edition on the couch together which may or may not be romantic depending on how you look at it.

this week's prompt: what are you pretending is fine right now?

the inbox delivered. we've got a woman who's been saying "no worries at all" so many times she whispered it during a nightmare. a listener pretending her marriage is fine who went to a bathroom mirror at a wedding and stayed there a little too long. someone who bought a SaltDrop membership in january and has found seventeen reasons not to go. a woman who got passed over for a promotion that went to a guy named derek who has been there fourteen months. a retired hospital administrator who ran a library fundraiser like a quarterly business review and scared the other volunteers. grief for a dog who was a witness to a whole chapter of someone's life. an airbnb review for a situationship. forty-five minutes of crying in a car followed immediately by "I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU." and a closer from a listener in queens who has been performing grateful for six years and is finally done.

also: rush rush by paula abdul, the violin solo specifically, the italian studio lemon situation, and a cold sweat at 3am.

full-time feeler. part-time hater. weekly voice note.

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