In this episode of Families Navigating Addiction and Recovery, I sit down with licensed psychologist Dr. Julie Shafer, who brings over 20 years of clinical experience specializing in relationship dynamics and people-pleasing.

We explore the significant overlap between people-pleasing behaviors and family addiction, specifically how partners and family members can lose their authentic selves while bending over backwards to maintain connection and avoid conflict.

Dr. Julie breaks down the core differences between passive, aggressive, and assertive communication, explains why trying to manage the other person can create deeper disconnection, and provides a practical, step-by-step framework for setting healthy boundaries without escalating arguments.

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Dr. Julie Shafer is a licensed psychologist with over two decades of experience in private practice, helping adults navigate people-pleasing, relationship conflict, and communication challenges.

Website: https://drjulieshafer.com/

Free Resource:
Visit Dr. Julie's website homepage to download Saying It Right: Your Guide to Confident Communication. The resource includes a one-page PDF summary and a full follow-up Effective Communication Workbook.

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