People pleasing rarely looks like a problem. It looks like being dependable, reliable, the one who always says yes.

Content note: this episode contains a personal account of burnout including a period of intense despair. If you're struggling, please reach out to someone you trust. If you feel unsafe or unable to cope right now, please contact local emergency services or a crisis support line.

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Chris Wilson sits down with Vienna based psychosocial counsellor, trainer and author Iris Muche to look at how people pleasing quietly drives burnout. The link between being productive and being likeable, where the pattern is learned, and what the first honest no actually feels like.

Drawing on her own burnout and years of psychosocial training, Iris treats people pleasing as a learned pattern rather than a character flaw, which makes it something you can work with.

• The productivity and lovability link, and how early it gets wired in
• Where the pattern comes from, and why it is so well rewarded
• What the first honest no feels like, and what happens after it

Season 2, Episode 9

Find Iris Muche: https://www.irismuche.com and on Instagram at @irismuche

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