🎧 Listen if you…

- Keep hearing "you're not getting more than 50/50" from your ex

- Are stuck yelling percentages at each other and getting nowhere

- Feel greedy asking for what's actually fair

- Want your proposal backed by real law before mediation

⚠️ General information only – not legal advice. Australian family law; always consult a qualified family lawyer. 🛟 This episode discusses coercive control and duress. In danger? Call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732).

In this episode we show you how to build your case the way the court does contributions, then current and future circumstances then get your ex's buy-in fact by fact, and back it all with legislation and recent cases (including Mum's AustLII "note up" trick). Plus the mindset work, the "amicable" trap, and my cringe-but-effective strategy

⏱️ CHAPTERS

00:00 – Ex Says 50/50 or Nothing? How to Negotiate More

02:00 – Why Exes Refuse: The Win–Lose Business Mindset

03:40 – Mum's #1 Rule: Never Negotiate in Percentages

06:00 – The Court Case That Proves Percentages Backfire

07:30 – What the Family Court Actually Does in Property Settlement

08:30 – The Five-Step Property Settlement Process

10:00 – Big vs Small Property Pools: Why Adjustments Differ

11:45 – Is More Than 50% Greedy? When 50/50 Actually Happens

16:00 – Get Your Mindset Sorted Before You Negotiate

18:00 – "Who Died and Made Them Boss?"

19:30 – The Future Self Test and Negotiation Fatigue

21:00 – Why Wanting to Be "Amicable" Can Be a Trap

23:30 – Laura's Divorce Vision Board (Cringe but It Worked)

25:45 – Financial Contributions: The Polythene Pipe Analogy

28:00 – Non-Financial, Homemaking and Parenting Contributions

29:45 – Post-Separation Contributions and Common Shenanigans

32:00 – Contributions and Future Needs in the Family Law Act

36:30 – Putting It in Writing: Getting Buy-In Fact by Fact

38:30 – The AustLII Note-Up Trick for Backing It With Law

42:00 – When They Stop Negotiating or Lawyer Up

43:30 – Reframing the Deal: "50/50 of What?"

46:15 – Rapid Fire: Delete "Amicable", Say "Fair" Instead

48:45 – The Superannuation Equalising Trap and the Give-In Wall

52:45 – "I Won't Leave Until You Sign": Duress, Safety and 1800 RESPECT

56:45 – Embroider It on a Cushion: Your Fair Future

🎧 EPISODES MENTIONED

Percentages in Divorce Property Settlements Explained – https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/percentages-in-divorce-property-settlements-explained/id1503451022?i=1000729446519

Pitfalls of Premature Percentage Negotiations – https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe

Big or Small Property Pool? – https://open.spotify.com/episode/697VeO4FrXQt9LYaabHtUC

BATNA in Divorce – https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/batna-in-divorce-how-to-negotiate-property-and/id1503451022?i=1000719715152

Coercive Control & DV in Family Court – https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/coercive-control-domestic-violence-in-family-court/id1503451022?i=1000764231660

Super Split Myths – https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/super-split-myths-why-equalising-isnt-always-fair-in/id1503451022?i=1000708394387

Convincing the Unconvincible – https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/convincing-the-unconvincible-in-divorce-negotiations/id1503451022?i=1000526927752

📞 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 | Lifeline – 13 11 14 | Police – 000

⚖️ Family Law Act 1975 s79 – https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s79.html

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All our best, Laura & Lyn – Your Guides By Your Side