Have you ever walked away from a conversation replaying every word you said—or didn’t say? Maybe you stayed quiet when you wanted to speak up, reacted in a way that surprised you, or wondered, Why is it so hard to say what I really mean?

What if those moments aren’t really communication problems? What if they’re opportunities to understand yourself more deeply?

This week, we’re talking with Cynthia Kane, bestselling author, mindfulness and meditation teacher, and communication expert who has helped more than 70,000 people communicate with more calm, clarity and compassion.

Cynthia’s path to this work began after an unimaginable loss. As she searched for ways to move through her grief, she discovered meditation, mindfulness and the Buddhist principles of Right Speech, and began to see how changing the way she communicated with herself could change the way she experienced everything around her.

HOW TO COMMUNICATE LIKE A BUDDHIST
In this conversation, Cynthia helps us look at communication in an entirely different way. We talk about why the conversation happening inside your own head matters so much, how meditation can change the way you listen and respond, and what happens in your body when a difficult conversation triggers you.

We also dive into the ideas behind Cynthia’s newest book, The Pause Principle: How to Keep Your Cool in Tough Situations, and how creating even a little space between what happens and how you react can completely shift a conversation.

We talk about:

• How Buddhist principles can help us communicate more intentionally
• Why mindful communication starts with the way we talk to ourselves
• The connection between meditation and better communication
• What happens when we’re triggered during a difficult conversation
• Why pausing can help us access what we really want to say
• How difficult conversations can actually bring us closer

This is a conversation about communicating more authentically, staying connected to yourself when things get hard, and ultimately creating deeper connections with the people in your life.

MORE FROM CYNTHIA KANE

• Learn more about Cynthia, her programs, her Mindful Communication Insider community and ways to work with her at cynthiakane.com.
• You can also explore Cynthia’s work through the Kane Intentional Communication Institute at kanecommunicate.com.

Cynthia’s Books:

• The Pause Principle: How to Keep Your Cool in Tough Situations
• How to Communicate Like a Buddhist: An Instruction Manual for Clear Communication
• Talk to Yourself Like a Buddhist: Five Mindful Practices to Silence Negative Self-Talk
• How to Meditate Like a Buddhist

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