When your children are 30 years old, will they want to spend time with you—or will they come home because they feel obligated?

That question can change how you parent today.

In Episode 165 of High Performance Parenting, Greg and Jacquie Francis talk about something that becomes increasingly important as children grow:

The transition from raising obedient children to building relationships with connected adults.

Rules change.

Curfews disappear.

Chores eventually disappear.

But hopefully, the relationship remains.

So what makes children want a lifelong relationship with their parents?

Greg and Jacquie discuss:

• How to build trust with your children
• Why parents' reactions determine what kids are willing to share
• Creating emotional safety without eliminating accountability
• Why respect has to go both ways
• The importance of forgiveness and moving forward
• How laughter makes families enjoyable
• Why shared memories matter
• The power of simple everyday family traditions
• Questions every couple should ask about their family culture
• How parenting needs to change as children become adults
• Why belonging makes adult children want to come home

Jacquie shares that one of their priorities has always been making sure their kids know they can bring difficult situations to them without wondering whether Mom or Dad will emotionally explode. They may still have consequences or problems to work through, but they know their parents will walk through it with them.

And connection doesn't require extravagant experiences.

For the Francis family, some of those memories are simple: sitting in the driveway at night, pulling chairs into a circle, eating snacks, watching the kids play pickleball, and talking together for an hour.

The goal isn't merely:

“Did I raise an obedient child?”

Eventually the question becomes:

“Did we build a relationship that this adult still wants to be part of?”

Because:

Rules help shape childhood. Relationship shapes adulthood.

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