Is your spouse your enemy?

When there’s been years of hurt, disappointment, rejection, criticism, or unmet needs, it’s easy to start seeing your spouse through the lens of your pain. Their words feel threatening. Their reactions confirm the story you’ve been carrying. Soon you’re not just responding to your spouse. You’re responding to everything you believe they’ve done to you.

In this episode, we’re talking about what it takes to move from enemies to allies. That means getting underneath the behaviors, understanding the stories and wounds shaping the way you see each other, and taking responsibility for your own healing. When you do that work, something changes. You stop fighting against each other and instead fighting for each other, creating a marriage where you’re on the same team again.

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