People pleasing feels like a personality trait. The over-explaining. The softening. Carrying everyone’s worries like it’s your job. But what if it’s also the thing keeping the patriarchy running?

That’s the idea clairvoyant and energy worker Christine Agro brings to this conversation. She has spent almost thirty years helping people clear old patterns, and about a year ago she started seeing a deeper one underneath all the people pleasing.

She calls it patriarchal encodement: the program that tells us everything is our responsibility, and that stepping out of line isn’t safe. Her take is that the patriarchy can’t keep running if we stop running this program inside ourselves. And no, that doesn’t mean any of this is our fault.

We get into where it shows up in everyday life (your voice, your mental load, even whether you let yourself sit down), why so many capable women still feel it after years of personal growth work, and why understanding it in your head doesn’t change it.

What we get into:

• How people pleasing keeps the patriarchy running, and why that isn’t about blame
• What patriarchal encodement is and how it differs from cultural conditioning
• Carrying other people’s emotions, worries, and lessons, and how to tell what isn’t yours
• Why knowing about a pattern doesn’t change it, and what does
• Why “sitting down is not doing nothing,” according to Christine
• Where to start if you want to stop running the program

About Christine Agro:
Christine Agro is a clairvoyant, master energy worker, and founder of the Intrinsic Energy Institute, where she teaches her method, Intrinsic Energy Work. With a background in naturopathic medicine and master herbalism, she leads De-Encode, a program focused on clearing patriarchal encodement.

christineagro.com | @christineagro | christineagro.substack.com
Patriarchal Encodement Workbook: christineagro.com/peworkbook

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