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How Can We Be Kinder to Ourselves?

How Can We Be Kinder to Ourselves?

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How Can We Be Kinder to Ourselves?Self-Compassion: The Skill That Rebuilds Self-EsteemI'm truly happy to have you with me once again.In our previous episode, we talked about our inner dialogue, that quiet voice that accompanies us every day and often influences our emotions, our decisions, and the quality of our lives more than anyone else.We learned that many of those inner voices are echoes of our past experiences, not reflections of our present reality.But now an important question arises...If we've spent years being overly critical of ourselves, is it really possible to change?The good news is that the answer is yes.Research in psychology and neuroscience has shown that the human brain retains its ability to learn and create new neural pathways throughout life.That means even if you've spent years criticizing yourself, you can still learn a healthier, more compassionate way of speaking to yourself.But that transformation begins with an important concept, one psychologists call self-compassion.When we hear the word compassion, we usually think about kindness toward others.We think of a friend who is hurting.A family member who has experienced failure.Or a child who has fallen down and is crying.In those moments, we naturally respond with kindness.We offer encouragement.We stay by their side.Yet something remarkable happens.That same compassionate person often becomes the harshest judge in the world when they make a mistake themselves.Thoughts like:"You always mess everything up.""You'll never be good enough.""Everyone else is better than you.""You deserved to fail."Have you ever asked yourself why you treat the one person who has been with you your entire life, yourself, with such harshness?Modern psychology tells us that self-compassion is not about making excuses for our mistakes.Nor is it about avoiding responsibility.Self-compassion means acknowledging our mistakes, taking responsibility for them, and at the same time refusing to question our worth as human beings.Imagine a child learning to walk.If, after their very first fall, we said,"You're simply not meant to walk,"they would probably never try again.Yet this is exactly what many of us do to ourselves.After a single failure, we judge our entire character.But failure is an event.It is not our identity.One reason self-criticism becomes such a lasting habit is something psychologists call cognitive distortions.These are patterns of thinking that cause us to misinterpret reality.One example is all-or-nothing thinking.We make one mistake and conclude that we're complete failures.Another is catastrophizing.The mind takes a relatively small problem and turns it into the greatest disaster imaginable.Then there's labeling.Instead of saying,"I made a mistake today,"we tell ourselves,"I'm a failure."It may seem like only a few different words, but their impact on the brain is profound.Every time we speak to ourselves this way, we strengthen the neural pathways associated with self-criticism.The encouraging news is that we can strengthen new pathways as well.Every time we consciously speak to ourselves with kindness, realism, and understanding, our brain is learning a healthier pattern.So where should we begin?Start with a simple exercise.Tonight, before you go to sleep, write down three positive things about yourself.They don't have to be major achievements.Perhaps you helped someone despite feeling tired.Perhaps you managed to control your anger.Perhaps you simply got out of bed and began your day.Those things matter.Our minds naturally focus on what's missing or what's wrong.But with practice, we can train our attention to recognize our strengths as well.Here's another exercise:Change the language of your inner dialogue.Instead of saying,"I always fail,"try saying,"This time I didn't get the result I wanted, but I can learn from it."................................. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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