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What happens when the life you built no longer fits the woman you’re becoming?

In this episode of Hold My Purse, Rho sits down with Terry Tateossian, founder of THOR: The House of Rose, to talk about reinvention after 40, burnout, self-sabotage, health, purpose and learning to trust yourself enough to change.

Terry describes a season of life that looked successful from the outside but felt like a “frantic frenzy” on the inside. Work, family, anxiety, health challenges and constantly saying yes eventually forced her to look at the way she was living and ask a harder question: Is this really how I want to keep living? magic-episode-01

Her transformation didn’t happen overnight. Terry talks candidly about struggling with her health, losing 80 pounds, discovering strength training and nutrition, confronting the fears and blind spots that kept showing up, and eventually finding a new purpose helping other women transform their own lives. magic-episode-01 magic-episode-01

They also get into something a lot of high-achieving women will recognize: the pressure to rush the outcome. Terry shares why she believes impatience, perfectionism and constantly pushing can actually become forms of self-sabotage, and why real transformation requires trust, patience and the willingness to become someone you may not even be able to fully imagine yet. magic-episode-01

If your life looks good on paper but something inside keeps whispering “this isn’t it anymore,” this conversation is for you.

Journal Prompt:
Where in my life am I holding onto a version of myself that no longer fits who I’m becoming? magic-episode-01

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Your friend calls, and instead of being glad to hear from her, you think, "Lord, what now?" Then you feel guilty for thinking it.

If you're the strong friend, the one everybody leans on, that irritation doesn't make you a bad friend. It usually means you've been giving more than you actually have.

In this solo episode, Rho gets honest about strong friend burnout, people pleasing, and why "I'm good" might be the most exhausting sentence you say all week. She shares the season when she lost her job, kept it to herself, and still showed up for a family member in an abusive marriage like nothing had changed. And she asks the uncomfortable question: what part of this pattern did I help create?

You'll walk away with four small shifts:

• Pause before the automatic yes
• Ask "Do you want me to listen, or help you figure it out?" and decide what's actually yours to carry
• Feel the guilt after saying no without taking the no back
• Let people help you without turning it into a trade

This episode answers:

• Why do I feel resentful when friends lean on me?
• How do I set boundaries without feeling guilty?
• How do I stop people pleasing without becoming less loving?
• Why is it so hard to ask for help or receive it?

Journal question: Where have I confused being needed with being loved?

Your challenge: In the next 24 hours, catch yourself in one moment where you'd normally leave yourself. Just notice. Then choose again.

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If this one made you think of your strong friend, send it to her. Then check on her. Really check.

Hold My Purse is a self-care and self-love podcast for women who are done pretending. Conversations on relationships, boundaries, identity, purpose and starting over, hosted by Rho.

Stay aligned, stay unbothered, and hold your own damn purse.

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What if your child’s grades or behavior are trying to tell you something?

In this episode of Hold My Purse, Rho talks with licensed social worker and school social worker Raynard Nelson about his 10 Keys to Helping Your Student Succeed in School.

They unpack what parents need to know about learning styles, parent-teacher relationships, organization, bullying, accountability, IEPs, 504 plans, student evaluations, and knowing when your child may need additional academic, social, or emotional support.

Raynard also shares his personal experience helping his own son navigate ADHD and school — and why parents sometimes have to let go of fear, pride, or the worry about their child being “labeled” in order to get them the support they need.

Key takeaways:

• Pay attention to how your child learns
• Build relationships with teachers and school staff early
• Don’t be afraid to ask for additional support
• Support and accountability can exist together
• Help kids learn to organize, ask for help, and advocate for themselves
• Make home a safe place for them to tell you when something isn’t right

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