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Have you ever reached the end of a busy day, looked at your unfinished list, and thought, “I didn’t get anything done”—even though you spent the entire day solving problems, helping people, and managing things that were never part of the plan?

That’s where this conversation begins.

After volunteering to help a family member with a time-sensitive project, Rho expected to spend about an hour. Four hours later, her work had been pushed back, the episode hadn’t been recorded, and her own needs had been placed on pause.

She didn’t regret helping. But she did have to acknowledge the cost.

In this personal solo episode of Hold My Purse, Rho talks about why capable women often overlook invisible work, how exhaustion can become normal without looking dramatic, and why functioning is not the same as feeling well.

You’ll also hear:

• Why an unexpected change doesn’t automatically mean you’re behind
• How invisible work and mental load consume real energy
• The difference between what you’re tired from and what you’re tired of
• How constantly overriding your needs can weaken self-trust
• Three practical ways to adjust when your time or capacity changes
• When ongoing fatigue may deserve a conversation with a healthcare professional

This isn’t a conversation about becoming less caring or refusing to help the people you love. It’s about learning how to show up for others without disappearing from your own life.

Because functioning doesn’t always mean you’re well—and helping with love doesn’t mean it cost you nothing.

Journal prompt:
What signal has my body been sending that I keep explaining away?

Grounding affirmation:
My body is worthy of my attention. I listen without judgment, respond with care, and give myself permission to need what I need.

Hold My Purse is a bi-weekly podcast that centers healing, wholeness, and the sacred act of putting yourself first. Don’t forget to follow, share, and leave a review if this episode made you feel a little more seen today.

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💼 Remember: Until next time, my fabulous friends and self-care warriors… stay aligned, stay unbothered, and hold your own damn purse.

Sign up for Purse Check, a monthly newsletter with information and inspiration on how to put down what you no longer need to carry and remember who you are.

And I’ll meet you right back here in two weeks — same space, same heart, new ways to choose you. 💖

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What if the changes happening in your body aren’t a sign that you’re failing, but an invitation to listen more closely?

In this episode of Hold My Purse, Rho is joined by registered dietitian nutritionist Maya Hickman for a grounded and deeply personal conversation about menopause, nutrition, gut health, medical advocacy, stress, and self-trust.

Maya explains why women’s bodies often need different support during midlife and why individualized nutrition matters more than chasing the latest diet trend. Together, she and Rho explore the confusion women face when trying to make sense of conflicting health advice, the importance of advocating for yourself with medical providers, and why wellness cannot be reduced to a single number or diagnosis.

The conversation takes a deeper turn as Maya shares her breast cancer experience and the emotional impact of wondering how illness could happen when she had spent years doing so many things “right.” She opens up about losing trust in herself, reclaiming her intuition, and learning to live from what she calls soft power.

At the heart of the episode is a question many women rarely stop long enough to ask:

What do I need?

Not what does everyone expect from me. Not what would make me more productive. But what does my body, mind, and spirit need from me now?

Connect with Maya FoodcureNutrition.com

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This episode is brought to you by Self Care Shawty 🌿, your go-to for homemade skin products that keep you moisturized, healed, and at ease. Explore their amazing offerings at selfcareshawty.etsy.com.

Remember: Until next time, my fabulous friends and self-care warriors… stay aligned, stay unbothered, and hold your own damn purse.

And I’ll meet you right back here in two weeks — same space, same heart, new ways to choose you. 💖

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Your morning routine isn't broken. Your nervous system is. And no amount of green juice or 5 a.m. wake-up calls is gonna fix that if you never dealt with what happened the night before.

We've all got the Pinterest board. The stretching, the journaling, the cold plunge. You try it for three days, and you're right back to snoozing your alarm and cursing yourself out for not being disciplined enough. Here's the truth: it was never a discipline problem. It's a nervous system problem.

In this episode, Rho unpacks what's actually happening in your body when you go to bed wired and wake up already bracing for the day, and walks through three simple things you can do tonight to start breaking the cycle:

1. The specific brain dump. Not "write down your thoughts." Write down the one thing your mind keeps circling. Close the notebook. Tell it you'll deal with it tomorrow.
2. Body before brain. Calm your body first, and your mind will follow. Four count in, four count hold, six count out.
3. Name the unresolved thing. Nighttime anxiety usually isn't random. Ask yourself what's actually underneath it, and just name it. You don't have to fix it at 11 pm.

And of course, Aria Speaks, because our resident Gen Alpha always has something to say. And she's usually right.

New episodes drop every other Thursday. Subscribe, share this with the friend who needed it today, and leave a review if it moved you. It genuinely helps this show reach the people who need it.

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