From the outside, Susie Owens looked like she was gliding. Straight-A student, entrepreneur, devoted mom — and exhausted in ways nobody could see. When you’re an ADHD high achiever, masking is a whole job.

Susie spent years in therapy for anxiety, quietly holding it together. A second child tipped the scales. Through her ADHD diagnosis, she learned that her struggles weren’t a reflection of who she was as a person or as a mom. It was just ADHD.

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• Listen: Emotional regulation, and yelling, as a mom with ADHD (Patricia Sung’s story)
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• Watch: Renowned ADHD expert on how to juggle ADHD and motherhood

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