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  • EP 306: Chasing Perfect Keeps the Eating Disorder Alive ~ Here's How to Break Free (Four Agreements Series ~ Part 4)

    EP 306: Chasing Perfect Keeps the Eating Disorder Alive ~ Here's How to Break Free (Four Agreements Series ~ Part 4)
    2026/09/04
    We made it, sis — the finale of our Four Agreements series. If you've walked through these with me — impeccable with your word, don't take it personally, don't make assumptions — I am so proud of you. Today we bring it all home. And I saved my favorite for last, because this fourth agreement holds a word that means everything to me — it's literally the name of this show. The fourth agreement is: always do your best. Not perfect. Your best. And by the end of today, I hope you feel the weight of perfection lift right off your shoulders — because chasing perfect is exactly what keeps the eating disorder alive, and your best? Your best is enough. (New here? Go back to Parts 1–3 first — they build to this.) This is the agreement that makes the others stick This one comes last for a reason: it's the engine. Doing your best is what allows the other three agreements to become habits. You don't master speaking truth, releasing what others think, or dropping assumptions in a day — you do your best with them today, then again tomorrow, and slowly they become who you are. This agreement isn't about knowing. It's about action. Because information isn't enough — doing your best is how the knowing becomes the living. Not perfection — excellence Doing your best is not being perfect. Perfect is a moving target that doesn't exist — and the eating disorder is obsessed with it, moving the goalposts so your best is never enough. Chasing perfect keeps the disorder alive, because perfect can never be reached, so you can never rest. Your best is different. Your best is excellence — showing up, in alignment with your values, as fully as you can today. And here's the freeing part: your best won't always look the same. Your best in the morning is different than your best at night. Your best on a strong day is different than on a hard day. Both count. When you're exhausted, rest is your best. When you're depleted, nourishing yourself is your best. You're not failing when your best looks different — you're being human. Your best includes rest and grace Doing your best means rest. You'll be productive, yes — but you'll also be good to yourself and to others. The disorder's version of "your best" is grind, punish, earn, never stop. That's not your best, sis — that's self-abandonment in a productivity costume. Real best-doing means taking action because you want to be healthy — not chasing a reward, not running from fear. It means nourishing instead of avoiding, honoring instead of punishing. And when you do your best from love instead of fear, something incredible happens: you learn to accept yourself. No judgment. No guilt. Because you know you showed up as fully as you could — and that is enough. Your best gets better Here's the hope: your best isn't static. As you build better habits — as the first three agreements take root — your best gets better. The woman doing her best today, scared and shaky and imperfect, is building the woman whose best a year from now is steadier, freer, stronger. You're not behind. You're in practice. You're growing. Every time you do your best, you're not just getting through the day — you're becoming her. From love, not obligation If you take action because you have to — dreading it, out of pure obligation — you're better off not taking it at all. So much of what the disorder drives is have to: have to work out, have to eat clean, have to earn it. That's not doing your best — that's obeying a cage. Your best flows from want to: I want to be healthy, I want to be free, I want to be here for my life. And you can't do your best while living in the past or the future — not while replaying yesterday or panicking about tomorrow. Your best only exists right here, right now, in this choice. That's the only place freedom lives. All four agreements, together Look at what we've built: Be impeccable with your word — stop letting the disorder write your inner voice; speak truth over yourself.Don't take anything personally — what others do is about them; your worth was never on the table; come out of isolation.Don't make assumptions — stop believing the disorder's stories and the rules you never questioned; ask for the truth.Always do your best — take action from love, not fear; let your best be enough, and watch it turn the other three into who you are. Four promises to yourself — and every one takes power back from the disorder and hands it to her, the recovered you. This is her best self This show is called Her Best Self for a reason. Not her perfect self — that woman doesn't exist, and chasing her is what kept you sick. Her best self. The woman who shows up, does her best, rests when she needs to, nourishes instead of punishes, speaks truth, and grows a little freer every day. Being your best is just being you. Not the shrunken you, not the performing you, not the perfect you the disorder promised would finally be enough. The real you — nourished, ...
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  • EP 305: The Eating Disorder Makes Up Stories ~ Here's How to Stop Believing the Lies (Four Agreements Series ~ Part 3)

    EP 305: The Eating Disorder Makes Up Stories ~ Here's How to Stop Believing the Lies (Four Agreements Series ~ Part 3)
    2026/09/01
    We're on Part 3 of our Four Agreements series, sis — and this one might be the sneakiest of them all. So far we've learned to be impeccable with our word, and to stop taking things personally. Today's agreement ties them together: don't make assumptions. Because here's the truth — the eating disorder is a master storyteller. It makes up stories all day long, then hands them to you as if they're facts. Today, we learn to stop believing the lies. (New here? Go back and start with Parts 1 and 2 — they build.) We assume about everything The problem isn't that we make assumptions. It's that we swear they're real. As the book puts it, "we make the assumption that everyone sees life the way we do." She didn't text back — she's mad. He looked at my plate — he thinks I'm eating too much. They went quiet — they were talking about my body. We don't check. We don't ask. We decide it's true and live like it's true. And from that one habit, so much suffering is born — we blame, we react, we misunderstand, we create drama out of thin air. Almost all of our sadness is rooted in making assumptions. The eating disorder is a master storyteller The disorder doesn't deal in facts — it deals in stories. It fills every silence, every glance, every unanswered question with the same story: they noticed. they judged. you're not enough. You have no evidence for any of it. But because the story feels so real, you believe it, react to it, restrict because of it, isolate because of it. We only see what we want to see — and when your lens is a disorder, you'll find "proof" for its lies everywhere. Making assumptions leads to chaos, and the disorder loves chaos, because it keeps you too spun-out to question it. The assumptions that become rules Here's where it gets really sneaky in recovery — assumptions don't just create stories, they create rules. We assume wellness culture knows best — that the influencer, the diet, the "clean eating" plan knows what your body needs better than your body does. So we take on their rules as gospel: can't eat past this hour, have to earn it, have to burn it, never skip the workout. And we never stop to ask: Is this actually nourishing my body? Is this genuinely healthy for me? Or is it just diet culture wrapped in a pretty bow of fake news? Because we don't ask, we obey — and every unquestioned rule makes the disorder stronger. The assumption becomes the cage. My biggest assumption I lived this one, sis. My biggest assumption in my whole journey was: if I eat more, I'll never stop gaining weight. I was convinced that if I nourished myself, my body would balloon endlessly and everyone would look at me and go, "Oh my gosh, look at her." That assumption left me chained. Trapped. Terrified for a very long time — too scared to move forward, but exhausted from the cycle of restriction and over-exercising. I was suffering over something that had never happened and that I had zero evidence for. I just assumed it was true, and let it run my life. The question that cracked it open: "But do you like it now?" Here's the question I want to ask you, gently. You're assuming that if you gain weight, you won't like your body. But sis… do you like it now? The disorder promises that staying exactly like this — restricting, controlling, shrinking — is protecting some peace with your body. But are you at peace right now? Or are you already at war with your body while telling yourself you're staying this way to avoid being at war with it? You don't need to gain a pound to be miserable in your body — the disorder has you doing that today. The peace you're protecting doesn't exist. So you're not actually choosing between peace and weight gain. You're choosing between this war and the chance at real freedom. The antidote: ask The antidote to making assumptions is to ask. With people: "Hey, are we okay?" instead of assuming.With the rules: "Is this actually nourishing me, or a rule I never questioned?"With yourself: "Do I have real evidence for this — or did the disorder just hand me a story?" Asking is how you find your voice. It's how you get to the truth. And the truth is almost always so much kinder than the story the disorder tells. How this ties the agreements together This is why it's the third agreement — it weaves the first two together. When you stop making assumptions, you naturally become impeccable with your word (no more false stories), and you naturally stop taking things personally (you ask what's true instead of assuming it's all about you). The three agreements hold hands. Information isn't enough You can understand every word of this and still stay stuck. Because information isn't what changes your life — action is. Knowing the disorder makes up stories doesn't set you free. Catching the story and choosing to ask instead — that's what sets you free. That's the difference between the woman who listens to recovery podcasts forever, and the woman who actually gets free...
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    20 分
  • EP 304: The Truth the Eating Disorder Doesn't Want You to Know ~ Here's How to Take Your Power Back (Four Agreements Series ~ Part 2)

    EP 304: The Truth the Eating Disorder Doesn't Want You to Know ~ Here's How to Take Your Power Back (Four Agreements Series ~ Part 2)
    2026/08/28
    Earlier this week in Episode 303, we starved the eating disorder voice by getting impeccable with our word. Today, we're coming for the next thing the disorder feeds on — and sis, this one is sneaky, because it feels like just being "sensitive" or "self-aware," when it's actually one of the fastest ways you hand the disorder your power. The one thing the eating disorder loves? When you take everything personally. Because taking things personally leads you straight into the place the disorder thrives most: isolation. Today, in Part 2 of our Four Agreements series, we're breaking that cycle — and I'm sharing the research on why the isolation is so soul-sucking, and so hard to climb out of alone. Here's the truth that stopped me cold: you take things personally because you assume everything is about you. That comment. That look at your plate. The friend who didn't text back. You absorb it and make it mean something about your body, your worth, your not-enoughness. But here's the freeing truth: nothing others do is because of you. What people say, do, and think is a projection of their reality — their beliefs, their wounds, their bad day, their own relationship with food and body. When someone comments on your body, even a "compliment," that's coming from their programming. It's a window into them. It was never the truth about you. Why the eating disorder LOVES this: The disorder is obsessed with making everything about you. It's the most self-focused voice in your head — narrating every glance and comment as they're judging you, they noticed, they know. Why? Because when everything is about you, you turn inward. You shrink. You isolate. And an isolated woman is so much easier to control. When you take things personally, you pull back — you skip the dinner, cancel the plans, avoid the room. You retreat right into the disorder's arms, and it loves that. Taking things personally is one of the fastest ways to hand the disorder your power. This is the part I really want you to hear, because it's backed by real research. Studies show that disordered eating and loneliness feed each other in a vicious cycle — the disordered eating drives you to withdraw and hide your behaviors from people who love you, and that isolation and loneliness then drive more disordered eating as a way to numb and to feel in control. Round and round. The disorder isolates you, and the isolation strengthens the disorder. And here's the part that gives me chills: researchers have found your brain has shared circuitry for hunger and social isolation. Meaning — when you're cut off from people, your brain craves connection the way it craves food. You are literally starving for connection when you isolate. Your soul is hungry, sis — and the disorder keeps telling you to eat alone in the dark. How to take your power back: When someone says or does something and you feel that sting — that is this about me? spiral starting — pause and say: "This is about them, not me." The friend who didn't text back → she's overwhelmed with her own life.The mom watching your plate → that's her anxiety, her generation's diet culture, her wound.The comment about your body → that's their programming, not the truth about your worth. None of it requires you to shrink. Because your worth is not up for a vote. When you stop taking things personally, other people's opinions lose their power over you — you can let a comment pass right through you, like wind through a screen door. It doesn't have to land. It doesn't have to become another brick in the disorder's wall. The faith anchor: Your worth was not assigned by people, so it cannot be revoked by people. You were fearfully and wonderfully made by a God who doesn't make mistakes — and if your worth was settled by Him before you took your first breath, then no comment, no glance, no opinion at a dinner table gets to override it. When you know whose you are, you stop needing everyone else to tell you who you are. A few lines from the episode: "You take things personally because you assume everything is about you. It never was." "When someone comments on your body, that's a window into them — not the truth about you." "An isolated woman is so much easier for the disorder to control." "You are literally starving for connection when you isolate. Your soul is hungry." "Your worth is not up for a vote." "Let it pass through you, like wind through a screen door." Your work this week: When something stings — a comment, a look, a silence — catch the spiral and practice: "This is about them, not me." Let it pass through. Then do the brave thing the disorder hates most: don't isolate. Send the text. Say yes to the plan. Stay in the room. Reach toward a person instead of retreating into the disorder. Coming up in the series: This is Part 2 of the Four Agreements in Recovery. Two agreements down, two to go — and each one takes a little more power back from the disorder. Make sure you're ...
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    18 分
  • EP 303: The Eating Disorder Voice Survives on One Thing ~ Here's How to Starve It (Four Agreements Series ~ Part 1)

    EP 303: The Eating Disorder Voice Survives on One Thing ~ Here's How to Starve It (Four Agreements Series ~ Part 1)
    2026/08/25
    I've been reading a book that wrecked me in the best way — The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz — and I could not stop seeing recovery on every single page. So we're kicking off a brand-new series: the Four Agreements, through the lens of eating disorder recovery. These four simple promises you make with yourself have the power to break the stories and the self-betrayal that keep you stuck — which is exactly why they're so pivotal to becoming free. We're starting with the first, and the one I believe everything else stands on: be impeccable with your word. Because sis, that voice in your head has been holding the pen for far too long — and today, we start taking it back. What "impeccable" really means Most of us hear "be impeccable with your word" and think don't lie, keep your promises to others. But it goes so much deeper. Impeccable traces back to a root meaning "without sin" — without self-betrayal. So being impeccable with your word means your words stand in full integrity with your truth. It means you don't use your words against yourself — not the ones you say out loud, and especially not the ones you say silently, in your own mind. And if you have an eating disorder, hear this: your words haven't been impeccable — not because you're bad, but because the disorder has been writing them for you. Your word has been hijacked The word is the most powerful tool you have. It can create, and it can destroy — and the eating disorder knows it. Think about what you say to yourself in a single day: I'm disgusting. I shouldn't have eaten that. I'll start over Monday. I have no self-control. I don't deserve to rest. That's not you being impeccable with your word. That's you using your most powerful tool as a weapon against your own body and soul. Every time you speak those words — even silently — you're agreeing with the lie, signing a contract that says this is true, this is who I am. The eating disorder voice survives on your word. It cannot keep its grip if you stop agreeing with it. Standing in your truth, no matter what Being impeccable with your word in recovery means you stand in your truth, no matter what the voice says. The voice will come — you don't need to eat, you've had enough, earn it first. Being impeccable means you don't repeat it, don't co-sign it. You catch the word and correct it back to truth: Voice: "I'm disgusting." → Truth: "My body is healing, and I am worthy right now."Voice: "I'll start over Monday." → Truth: "I honor my body today." You are not obligated to believe every thought that passes through your mind. You get to decide which words you agree with — and every time you refuse the lie and choose truth, you weaken the disorder and strengthen her, the recovered you. The words you speak over others boomerang back There's a sneaky layer here: being impeccable also means how you speak about other people's bodies and lives. When you comment on another woman's body — even a compliment, even "she looks so good, she must've lost weight" — you reinforce the very belief system keeping you sick. You're agreeing, out loud, that bodies are for ranking and thinner is better. And that word boomerangs right back onto you. A woman who is free doesn't trade in the currency that keeps everyone imprisoned. This is a faith thing, too This agreement is all over Scripture. Death and life are in the power of the tongue. The word spoke the whole world into being. Your words aren't neutral, sis — they're creative. They're building something every day: either a prison, or a path to freedom. So what are you speaking over yourself? Over your body? Over your recovery? Are your words building the life you say you want — where there's so much more than this, where this cannot be it — or quietly agreeing with the thing keeping you stuck? Why this is the foundation You can't rebuild trust with your body or step into your true identity while your word is betraying you every day. Being impeccable with your word is the daily, moment-to-moment practice of refusing to speak the disorder's language. And I promise you — it is only a matter of time. If you stand in your truth no matter what, catching your word and correcting it back to what's real, again and again? The voice cannot survive in a mind that stops agreeing with it. A few lines from the episode "That voice in your head has been holding the pen for far too long. Today, we take it back." "You're using the most powerful tool you have as a weapon against your own body and soul." "The eating disorder voice survives on your word. It can't keep its grip if you stop agreeing with it." "You are not obligated to believe every thought that passes through your mind." "A woman who is free doesn't trade in the currency that keeps everyone imprisoned." "Death and life are in the power of the tongue — your words are building a prison or a path." Your work this week Catch your word. Every time you notice yourself speaking ...
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    19 分
  • EP 302.5: Extreme Hunger Isn't Binging + the 4 Types of Hunger You Might Feel in Recovery from ED

    EP 302.5: Extreme Hunger Isn't Binging + the 4 Types of Hunger You Might Feel in Recovery from ED
    2026/08/21
    If you're listening to this because you're experiencing extreme hunger right now or concerned when you allow yourself to eat more you will just not stop — take a deep breath, sis, and hear this special truth: you're not broken, you're probably not binging, and what you're experiencing is not only normal, it's necessary. This one comes straight from a conversation with a client who was terrified. She's doing all the right things in recovery — eating, honoring the process — but she's hungrier and hungrier and can't seem to get satisfied, and she's scared she's going to "blow up." If that's you, this episode is going to hold your hand through what's actually happening in your beautiful, wise body. (And if you're on the opposite end — no appetite at all after years of suppressing it — stay with me too. This episode still serves your journey forward.) What extreme hunger actually is Extreme hunger is your body's natural, intelligent response to any period of restriction or inadequate nourishment. That's it. It's not a malfunction. It's healing in action. And here's what surprises so many women: it can show up at any stage of recovery. Early on as you add foods back in — or, like my client, years later, when your body finally feels safe enough to ask for what it truly needs. Your body is deeply intelligent. You can't out-trick it. It waits until it trusts you enough to express its real needs. The 4 types of hunger you might feel Mechanical hunger — the physical growling, gnawing, bottomless-pit sensation that you just can't seem to fill.Mental hunger — when your brain is constantly obsessing about food, you can't concentrate on anything else, and you're having intense cravings for specific foods. (Mental hunger counts. It's real hunger.)Reactive hunger — eating large amounts quickly, especially of foods you previously feared or restricted.Primal hunger — that desperate, urgent, impossible-to-ignore need to eat. Like pregnancy hunger: fine one second, and the next, like you'll pass out if you don't eat now. In daily life it can look like: being hungry again right after a meal, waking hungry in the night, needing more snacks than before, or feeling unsatisfied even as you finish eating. What's happening in your body When you've restricted — through dieting, eating disorder behaviors, or simply not eating enough for your needs — your metabolism slows to conserve energy because your body believes it's in a famine. In recovery, it's suddenly doing many jobs at once: speeding your metabolism back up, repairing your organs, bones, hair, and skin, replenishing energy reserves, and — most importantly — learning to trust that food will be consistently available. Research on recovery from starvation (and yes, eating disorders involve starvation, even if you were never classified as underweight) shows people often need significantly more energy than "normal" for an extended time. Your hunger is your body doing exactly what it's designed to do. 4 myths keeping you stuck Myth 1: Everyone experiences extreme hunger in recovery. Not true — bodies and needs differ. If you do experience it, you're not wrong. If you don't, that's okay too. Myth 2: Extreme hunger is wrong or bad. It's your body's wisdom in action. It's the same category of healing as your period returning, or your hair getting shiny, or your glow coming back. Myth 3: Extreme hunger means you're binging. This is the big one. Extreme hunger is a biological necessity driven by your body's needs. Binge eating is often driven by restriction and psychological factors — a different thing entirely. When you're healing, your body genuinely needs large amounts of food. It can feel like a binge because you're so used to eating small amounts. It isn't. It's honoring. Myth 4: If you honor it, you'll blow up and gain a bunch of weight. The truth: your body settles at its natural point once it feels nourished and can trust you. It's the cycle — feed, restrict, over-exercise, restrict — that keeps your body from ever finding that place. Honoring hunger is what builds the trust. How to navigate it — strategies that actually work Honor your hunger. Eat when you're hungry, as much as you're hungry, for whatever you're hungry for. No arbitrary limits on portions, frequency, or "waiting an hour." You're not breaking a rule — you're breaking an eating disorder rule. Challenge her. When the voice says "that's too much" or "you're being greedy," answer: "My body is healing. This is temporary. My body knows what it needs. Honoring my hunger is my job right now." Don't compensate. No over-exercising, no skipping meals the next day, no returning to old patterns. You're not eating too much — you're eating what your body needs. (And if you're not feeling hungry, feed yourself regularly anyway. You can't expect hunger cues to return until your body trusts it has permission to eat. Your job is to grant the permission.) Include all kinds of foods. ...
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    23 分
  • EP 302: Exhausted from Fighting Your Own Body? The Internal Battle No One Sees + Your Untold Body Story

    EP 302: Exhausted from Fighting Your Own Body? The Internal Battle No One Sees + Your Untold Body Story
    2026/08/18
    Sis, I want to talk to the YOU today - the woman listening who is exhausted. Exhausted from restricting. Exhausted from punishing yourself with endless workouts and never taking a day off. Exhausted from trying to shrink yourself while showing up as the leader in every other area of your life. You have it all together on the outside — you lead teams, manage budgets, raise humans, keep the whole household running. But when it comes to your body, you still feel like that confused little girl who learned her worth was tied to her size. That's the battle no one sees. And today, we're bringing it into the light. By the end of our time together, you'll understand how your body story got written — and you'll have a framework to start rewriting it, from shame to self-compassion. You didn't start out hating your body Here's the truth I need you to hear: you learned to. You didn't come into this world at war with yourself. Somewhere along the way — maybe at seven, watching your mom criticize her thighs in the mirror; maybe at ten, when someone commented on your changing body; maybe at thirteen, when the magazines promised happiness if you just looked a little different — you were taught that your body was a problem to be solved. You learned it from a culture that profits from your insecurity. From diet companies making billions convincing you your body is wrong. From a fitness industry that sold you the lie that more exercise equals more worth. Nothing was ever actually broken, sis. You were taught a story. And what was taught can be rewritten. The messages that built your prison These are the "body story" messages so many high-achieving women carry — see which ones you recognize: "Good girls don't take up too much space." You learned to make yourself smaller, literally and figuratively."Your body is your responsibility to control." Enough willpower, enough discipline — and your body became a project instead of your home."Thin equals healthy, healthy equals worthy, big equals bad." You learned the scale measures your value as a person."Successful women have it all together — including their bodies." So controlling your body became one more item on the success checklist."Your body exists to look good for other people." You learned to see yourself through everyone's eyes but your own. These messages worked. They kept you small, compliant, and constantly striving. And that same control that felt like freedom was actually building your prison — brick by brick, year by year. What this story has cost you Your energy — all the mental space spent calculating, planning, and worrying, that could have gone to your dreams and relationships.Your presence — the family moments missed, the social events avoided, the opportunities declined while you waited to "feel better" in your body.Your authentic self — the woman you are when you're not worried about food or exercise. She's creative, brave, vibrant, and magnetic — and she's been buried under years of body shame and food rules.Your physical health — the chronic restriction and over-exercising you think is keeping you "healthy" is actually putting real stress on your body. You have the power to rewrite it You're not that young girl anymore. You're a powerful, strong woman with wisdom and experience — and now you have a choice to choose differently. It starts with one decision, one meal, one moment of self-compassion over self-criticism. Your body story doesn't have to end with restriction and exhaustion. The best chapters are yet to come. A few lines from the episode "You didn't start out hating your body, sis. You learned to." "You learned from a culture that literally profits from your insecurity." "Your body became a project instead of your home." "That same control that felt like freedom was building your prison, brick by brick." "The woman you are when you're not worried about food or exercise? She is magnetic." "You're not too much. You're not too little. You're exactly enough, exactly as you are. It's okay to take up space." Your body story rewrite — try this week In the morning, before you critique anything in the mirror, thank your body for one thing it did for you yesterday — walked you through a long day, hugged your kids, kept your heart beating while you slept.Before you eat, ask: "What would really feel good and nourishing right now?" Trust that your body has wisdom you've been drowning out with food rules.Choose movement based on what feels good — a walk, yoga, stretching — not on calories to burn.When you catch the harsh self-talk, speak kindness instead. Kindness builds body trust. And journal on this: Who influenced my body story? When do I first remember believing these things? How can I rewrite it so I can stand in my truth and crush the next chapter? You don't have to rewrite it alone If you're ready to stop living as the perfect leader everywhere except in your relationship with your own body, I'd love to walk with you....
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  • EP 301: It's Not a Weight Problem, It's a Worth Problem ~ Faith, Food & the GLP-1 Era🩱My Conversation on Her Healthy Body

    EP 301: It's Not a Weight Problem, It's a Worth Problem ~ Faith, Food & the GLP-1 Era🩱My Conversation on Her Healthy Body
    2026/08/14
    Something a little different today, friend — I'm sharing my guest conversation on the Her Healthy Body podcast with the sweetest mother-daughter duo, Coryn and Crysanne. We went right to the heart of it. Here's the line they stopped to replay: if food is taking up so much space in your mind that it's stealing your presence from your life, that's not a weight problem — it's a worth problem. Maybe you've never been diagnosed with an eating disorder. Maybe you don't think your relationship with food is "that bad." But if you're constantly thinking about what you can eat, whether you've earned dessert, or believing you'll finally be happy when the scale hits a certain number — this conversation is for you. What we talked about My story — from figure skating and "come back 10 pounds lighter" to anorexia, and the long road to real freedomWhy I never felt "ready" to recover — and how surrender, faith, and "doing the opposite" of what my mind said got me throughThe worth problem behind the weight problem — what the scale can never give youThe deeper question underneath wanting to lose weight: what's actually driving the desire?The GLP-1 conversation — and my honest concern about fear of eating and where this cultural moment is headingNourishing, honoring, and respecting your body as the starting place — not the reward This conversation isn't about telling you not to pursue your health. It's about asking a deeper question: what's driving that desire? Because if we're chasing a number on the scale hoping it'll finally hand us peace, confidence, or worth — we're chasing something the scale was never able to give. Your worth was settled before you ever stepped on a scale. That's the freedom underneath all of this. A few lines from the episode: "If food is stealing your presence from your life, that's not a weight problem — it's a worth problem." "I never felt ready. I said, 'God, I'm scared to death, but I need you to save me from me.'" "A lot of days, I just did the opposite of what my mind told me to do. That's how I got through." "What started as trying to be healthier ended up controlling my life." "No number on the scale can give you peace, confidence, or worth." Huge thanks to Coryn and Crysanne for having me on Her Healthy Body — a podcast helping Christian women build a healthy lifestyle that actually lasts, from a place of faith instead of perfectionism. Go give them a follow and some love. Ready to stop doing this alone? If you saw yourself somewhere in this conversation, I'd be honored to walk with you. Connect with Lindsey: 🌟 Website: www.herbestself.co 🌟 Instagram: @thelindseynichol 🌟 Free FB Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com 🌟Client Application: HBS Co. Recovery Coaching - Client Application - Google Forms Love this episode? Here's how you can support the show: 💕 Share it with a woman who might need to hear this message 💕 Leave a review on Apple Podcasts - it helps other women find the show 💕 Screenshot and tag @thelindseynichol if any of these steps help you this week! Remember, beautiful: Your worth is not measured by how perfectly you do recovery. Healing isn't linear, progress over perfection always, and you are exactly where you need to be right now. Her Best Self with Lindsey Nichol is a podcast for women in eating disorder recovery who are ready to break free from perfectionism, people-pleasing, and diet culture to live authentically and wholeheartedly. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.
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    37 分
  • EP 300.5: Do You Still Have Bad Body Image Days? My Honest Answer + 8-Step Game Plan When You Are Feeling Blah

    EP 300.5: Do You Still Have Bad Body Image Days? My Honest Answer + 8-Step Game Plan When You Are Feeling Blah
    2026/08/11
    A woman in my community sent me a message this week that stopped me in my tracks: "Lindsey, do you ever have bad body image days? What does recovery actually look like years later? Do those old thoughts still creep in?" Girlfriend, I had to sit with that one — because we don't talk about this enough. There's a myth floating around that recovery means you reach some magical finish line where body image struggles vanish forever. That is simply not true. So today I'm pulling back the curtain completely and giving you my honest answer — plus the exact 8-step game plan I use when those old familiar feelings come knocking and I'm just feeling blah in my body. Grab your Target journal, friend. This one's a keeper. The honest truth first Yes — I still have days where I don't feel amazing in my body. Maybe I'm bloated, maybe I'm PMSing, maybe I caught myself in a dressing room mirror under those God-awful fluorescent lights, maybe I'm stressed in my business or walking through a hard season, and my body becomes the target for those feelings. This is normal. And here's the difference. These moments used to consume entire weeks and months — sending me spiraling into restriction, over-exercise, avoidance. Now? They might last an hour, a moment, a day at most. Because I have a game plan that actually works. Having these moments doesn't mean I'm not recovered. It means I'm human. Recovery isn't about never having a hard moment — it's about how quickly you return to love and gentleness with yourself when you do. The 8-step game plan for bad body image days 1. Grace upon grace. Before anything else, give yourself permission to feel what you're feeling without judging the feeling. No more "I should be past this by now." Instead: "It's okay you're having this thought. You're human. This doesn't mean anything about your worth or your recovery." Talk to yourself the way you'd talk to your best friend. 2. Throw on the comfy, baggy clothes. Sounds simple — it's a game-changer. Soft jams, oversized shirt, cozy cardigan, hair in a bun. This isn't about hiding your body; it's about removing physical discomfort that amplifies emotional discomfort. Ditch the tight jeans. When you're not aware of how clothes are fitting, you can focus on how you actually feel instead of how you think you look. 3. Get to the root. Stop plucking weeds and expecting different results. Ask: "What's really going on here? What am I actually trying to control by focusing on my body?" Overwhelm? Anxiety about a relationship? Exhaustion? Nine times out of ten, the body image struggle is about something else entirely — and naming it lets you address the real issue instead of taking it out on your body. 4. Avoid the mirror for the rest of the day. If you're already in a critical headspace, why put yourself in front of a reflection you're only going to pick apart? No body checking, no seeking reassurance from a mirror. Body checking on a bad day is like picking at a wound and expecting it not to bleed. Catch yourself heading toward one? Turn around and find something else to do. 5. Honor yourself with mindful eating anyway. The voice might whisper "skip lunch" or "eat cleaner tomorrow." Don't. Eat normally, regularly, every few hours — foods that nourish and satisfy you. Don't punish your body for an emotional feeling. Those feelings will pass. They're not facts. Your body deserves consistent nourishment regardless of a temporary thought. 6. Notice exercise compulsions and pause. Here's a sneaky one — bad body image days can suddenly "motivate" you toward an intense new workout or extra cardio. Pause and ask: am I moving from love and energy, or trying to punish and change my body? If it's the latter, choose gentle movement — yoga, a walk in nature, stretching, or plain rest. You can sit with uncomfortable feelings without exercising them away. 7. No social media scrolling. Non-negotiable on a hard day. Stay off Instagram and any platform where you'll compare yourself or get hit with diet-culture messaging. Read a good book, call a friend, do something that fills you instead. 8. Reach for your people. This is the one that changes everything. I had a community of women who normalized these days and reminded me I wasn't alone — even when I thought I shouldn't still be having them. Recovery is so much sweeter when you're not doing it by yourself. A few lines from the episode "There's a myth that recovery means you never struggle again. That simply is not true." "Having a bad body image day doesn't mean I'm not recovered. It means I'm human." "Recovery isn't about never having a hard moment — it's about how quickly you return to gentleness with yourself." "Those feelings will pass. They're not facts." "We have to stop plucking the weeds and expecting different results." "You can do hard things — including sitting with uncomfortable feelings without exercising them away." "People who have recovered still struggle. They just keep showing ...
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