• 87 - 🎥 How we should (& shouldn’t) respond when someone we know is accused of child sexual abuse?
    2026/01/27
    In January 9th of this year (2026), Emmy-Award-winning actor Timothy Busfield (Field of Dreams, thirtysomething, The West Wing), husband of actor Melissa Gilbert (Little House on the Prairie) had an arrest warrant issued on allegations of child sex abuse involving 11-year-old twin boys on a TV production set in 2024 by New Mexico police.I am not going to discuss the merits of this case; instead, I want to talk about how the Hollywood Community has responded – in negative and positive ways – and what we can learn from it.If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.Links Mentioned:Timothy Busfield links/articles“Missing actor Timothy Busfield admitted it is ‘highly likely’ he touched kids on set amid child sex abuse probe, warrant reveals” (New York Post)”“Timothy Busfield and Melissa Gilbert: A complete relationship timeline” (New York Post)“Timothy Busfield Enters No Plea In First Court Appearance On Child Sex Abuse Charges” (Deadline)“Timothy Busfield's wife Melissa Gilbert, Thirtysomething costars offer 75 letters of support amid sex abuse claims” (Entertainment Weekly)“Melissa Gilbert’s Lifestyle Brand Issues Statement Amid Husband Timothy Busfield’s Child Sex Abuse Claims” (Us Weekly via Yahoo News)Modern Prairie Instagram Post Brian Peck/Drake Bell articlesQuiet on Set: The Dark Side of Kids TV (links to Max in the US)“Drake Bell details 'extensive' sexual abuse as child star by Nickelodeon dialogue coach Brian Peck”“Rehab Helped Drake Bell Overcome Abuse & Find His Voice” (Mayim Bialik's Breakdown podcast)“Breaking Free: Drake Bell Talks Trauma and His Truth” (The Man Enough Podcast)“Full interview: Drake Bell reflects on the aftermath of ‘Quiet on Set’ in TODAY exclusive” (The Today Show)Mike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/live**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries
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  • 86 - 🎥 What is Brainspotting?
    2026/01/20

    Today I wanted to talk about Brainspotting. I am a trained Brainspotting provider as part of my Life Coaching practice. To help you understand what Brainspotting is, I have included a recent training that Drew Boa provided with a recent Husband Material Conference (The Porn-Free Man) about Brainspotting. He describes the entire process from a Christian faith-based perspective, and how this treatment based on modern brain science does not contradict traditional biblical teachings.

    The training includes an actual pre-recorded demonstration (about 20 min.) of a Brainspotting session with ME in the hot seat. The training concludes with a 10 min. debrief with me and Drew about the session.

    If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.

    Links Mentioned:

    • Husband Material Podcast with Drew Boa (Spotify | Youtube)

      • Experience Healing Through Brainspotting (with Dr. David Grand) (Spotify | Youtube)

    • Brainspotting: The Revolutionary New Therapy for Rapid and Effective Change by David Grand, PhD (Amazon)

    Mike Chapman’s links:

    • Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE

    • Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

    • Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp

    • Mike’s Website

    • Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike

    • Mike’s Story

    If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:

    PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

    Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.

    **Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.

    Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

    DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries

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  • 85 - 🎥 SPECIAL - Christmas 2025 - Christmas Clip Show Part 1
    2025/12/04
    It's our annual Christmas episode! Today, I am going to share interviews with previous guests when we talk about "Four Questions," and one of those questions is "What is your favorite Christmas or Holiday Memory?" Those that mentioned Christmas or any other mentions of Christmas within any of the other 3 questions (only a few fit that category) are all included. Most of these interviews are Audio-Only, but I will share information about the speaker on the screen. I intersperse the audio interviews with the newer video interviews. This is the FIRST part. I will share part TWO next Christmas with even more clips of Christmas past - folks discussing their favorite Christmas memories. Enjoy and have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year - more NEW episodes & interviews will continue in January.If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.Previous podcast episodes mentioned (in order of appearance; contact info is within the show notes of each episode): Episode 1 - My First Full Episode & My 4 Questions Episode 13 - Faith, Fandom, Cons & Cosplay, Part 2 (interview with Hector Miray)Episode 71 - VIDEO Live Interview with Jim FarringtonEpisode 17 - LIVE interview with Dr Douglas CarpenterEpisode 18 - LIVE Interview with Kevin BolgerEpisode 73 - VIDEO Live Interview with Sean WheelerEpisode 19 - Live interview with Luke Wiersma Episode 21 - Live interview with "Ed K"Episode 74 - 🎥 Interview with Scott McKellarEpisode 22 - Live Interview with Daniel Eichelberger Episode 23 - Live interview with Rocky PisorEpisode 78 - 🎥 Interview with Scott RalitzEpisode 24 - Live Interview with AJ VassarEpisode 25 - Live interview with “Roger M”Episode 80 - 🎥 LIVE Interview with Ken FreireMike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries
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  • 84 - 🎥 Live Interview with Matthew Melvin
    2025/11/25
    Matthew Melvin is an author and activist from Massachusetts. He was diagnosed with autism while in high school which not only hindered his education and social interactions, it caused problems finding employment and the impulsivity led him to being incarcerated in the federal prison system in 2017 for nonviolent crimes. While in prison, he was sexually assaulted by another inmate. His first book is entitled: Bullied Behind Bars: A Gay Christian Trump Supporter Goes to Prison. He currently resides in Shelburne, Vermont. and is planning to share his story and his healing journey with us.If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.Matthew’s Links:WebsiteInstagramX/TwitterFacebookEmail: BullyBehindBars@gmail.comLinks Mentioned:Wikipedia: “Aryan Brotherhood”Champions in Christ Ministry (faith-based weekend retreats)Other Groups offering Men’s Healing Weekend RetreatsHusband Material Retreats (faith-based)Marked Men for Christ (faith-based)Edge Venture (faith-based)The Crucible Project (faith-based)MenHealing.org - non-religious healing weekends across the US for Male CSA SurvivorsThe Mankind Project (non-religious)Previous podcast episodes mentioned: Episode 1 - My First Full Episode & My 4 Questions Episode 76 - My Presentation at IHTSJ 2025Episode 81 - Interview with Dr Glenn Miles, PhDGlenn’s book Mike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries
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  • 83 - 🎥 Interview with Dave Lukins
    2025/11/18

    Dave is a 40-something father of twins who grew up in southern New South Wales, Australia.

    He is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, which began at age 7 and continued between ages 11 and 13. After carrying this trauma in silence for over 32 years, he first disclosed it just over two years ago. Since then, Dave has been on a rollercoaster of a healing journey, recently receiving a diagnosis of Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) and learning what that means for his mental, emotional, and relational wellbeing. This journey has involved confronting painful memories, reclaiming his story by returning to his childhood hometown, and rebuilding trust and safety in his life. Part of Dave’s healing has also involved reclaiming back both his mind and physical body - through fitness, healthier eating, and connecting with supportive male communities. For the first time, he has experienced genuine safety and brotherhood through survivor groups, men’s retreats, and close friendships, and he now mentors younger men navigating similar journeys. Alongside his personal healing, Dave has recently stepped into child safety advocacy, collaborating with other survivors of childhood sexual abuse to advise various university research projects focused on safeguarding and abuse prevention within educational environments and community sport. Through sharing his story and contributing to meaningful change, he hopes to give voice, encouragement, and hope to others on their own healing journey.

    If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.

    Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.


    FULL Show Notes:

    https://docs.google.com/document/d/1CKA205Xu_Hm4WcTVapYCV9CheEE8JvQP22HzgZ9rOG0/edit?usp=sharing

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  • 82 - 🎥 Interview with John Comerford
    2025/11/12

    John Comerford is a leading advocate for men who have experienced childhood sexual abuse and are living with the long-term effects of trauma. A survivor himself, John endured sexual abuse within the Catholic Education System and suffered in silence for over 40 years before a mental health crisis forced him to confront his past. Today, he has emerged as a powerful voice in men’s mental health, using his lived experience to support, empower, and inspire others. John’s first novel Tarzan Loves Jane was nominated for book of the year , and his co authored book Start Over was an international Amazon best seller.

    If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.

    Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.


    FULL Show Notes:

    https://docs.google.com/document/d/1oDIO8KjE9uaazku6woRVRp2Qa58so9uaWI6dIOEgc3k/edit?usp=sharing


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  • 81 - 🎥 Interview with Dr Glenn Miles, PhD
    2025/11/04
    Glenn Miles PhD, is a Senior Researcher with up! International. He is on the board and the academic research advisor for the Chab Dai Butterfly ten-year Longitudinal Research Project which listens to the survivors of sex trafficking. He does independent research, advocacy, training and evaluation of programs. His current research interests include working with survivors of trafficking to uncover sexual exploitation of boys and young men including through the use of the internet in Thailand, familial sexual exploitation and trafficking of young men in the States, labour exploitation of children in tea plantations in Sri Lanka, child participation and service provision of children in Armenia, He is an active member of the Global Association of Human Trafficking Scholars (GAHTS), and he is also a survivor of childhood sexual abuse.If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.Glenn’s Links:WebsiteLinkedInCurriculum Vitaeup!up! Internationalup! CollectiveChab DaiWebsiteButterfly Longitudinal Research ProjectGlenn’s autoibiography, Embracing (Cwtch-ing) Me, God and Others (Amazon)Links Mentioned:Global Association of Human Trafficking Scholars (GAHTS)Wikipedia article on "Child labour in cocoa production"Perry PowerWebsiteFacebookPowerful BooksInternational Human Trafficking & Social Justice Conference (IHTSJ) Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) - Wikipedia articleEMDR - Wikipedia articleEna Lucia Mariaca Pacheco, Researcher on Sexual Exploitation of Males (Linktree)Urban Light - ThailandDton NaamPrevious podcast episodes mentioned: Episode 41 - ACEs - Adverse Childhood ExperiencesFree PDF on ACEs includes the test and what the results meanNPR Article on ACEsWikipedia article on ACEsACEs Too High article on ACEsEpisode 76 - My Presentation at IHTSJ 2025Mike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries
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  • 80 - 🎥 LIVE Interview with Ken Freire
    2025/10/28
    Ken Freire is a coach, entrepreneur, and host of the Shame(less) Podcast, where he helps Christian men overcome shame and addiction by pointing them back to Christ and their God-given purpose. After surviving childhood abuse and battling addiction, Ken now equips others kill shame, stand strong, and be on mission. He also leads Solo:Scaled were he helps coaches scale their business without burnout or headcount.If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.Ken’s Links:Shame(less) podcastSolo:ScaledScriptures.Bloghttps://kenfreire.com/Links Mentioned:Prosperity Theology (aka Proesperity Gospel; Wikipedia)Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify): Episode 57 - Forgiveness - Part 1 - James Gianakon’s podcastEpisode 58 - Forgiveness - Part 2 - Panel Discussion - LIVEHusband Material Podcast with Drew Boa (Spotify | Youtube)From Shame to Identity in Christ (with Ken Freire) (Spotify | Youtube)Mike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries
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    58 分