Nicole and Joel tackle a listener question about a man who decided the way to make a good first impresion was to show up on FaceTime... in bed... with his shirt off.

Was it inappropriate? What do you actually say when a man does something that immediately makes you think, “Yeah, this isn’t for me”?

They talk about:

• Whether you should FaceTime or have a phone call before meeting someone in person
• Why Nicole preferred to keep her phone number private until after the first date
• What happens when a man pushes past a boundary instead of respecting it
• Unsolicited dick pics and requests for sexy photos
• What “negging” is and why deliberately making someone insecure is not flirting
• How attraction tactics designed to create insecurity can turn dating into a power struggle
• When ghosting is actually appropriate
• How long you need to date someone before a breakup deserves a phone call or conversation
• And the big one: why women so often talk themselves out of their own discomfort

You don't have to prove that someone's behavior was objectively terrible before you're allowed to decide you don't want to date them.

Sometimes your immediate reaction of, “Nope,” is enough.

Trusting yourself doesn't mean judging someone as a "good" or "bad."
It means recognizing when someone's behavior doesn't work for you and having the confidence to walk away.

And yes, Nicole and Joel have a few things to say to the men sending unsolicited dick pics, too.

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